Therefore, the X model tells us that if the inflection point of dominance is brought forward, it will be more beneficial to the improvement of education. So, it can be seen that role change is a big c

Therefore, the X model tells us that if the inflection point of dominance is brought forward, it will be more beneficial to the improvement of education. So, it can be seen that role change is a big challenge for teenage parents. So is the child's obedience a success or a failure? Well, China has a tradition of raising obedient children. Since ancient times, it has been filial piety and obedience. Well, there are more than 78% of parents in China who like honest and obedient children. Psychology tells us that if children are obedient, it is actually a sign of educational failure. Well-behaved children can easily fall into three pits: withdrawal, suicide, and crime. Well, many families I consult have children who are tired of studying. There was a middle school student in Wuhan who was very honest. His mother beat and scolded him in the corridor, but he didn't fight back or run away. However, he jumped off the building as soon as his mother left. There was a top student at Peking University who was very honest and a good boy, right? His name was Wu Xieyu and he had his mother carefully planned to be killed. Therefore, if we smoke out our children and say that we are worry-free during adolescence, you must be careful not to get complacent too early. Maybe, we have sown the seeds of harm to our children. There is a possibility that good children have three things, that is, no interest, no expertise, and no pursuit. The best destination for such a child is to be depressed and mediocre. He spends his whole life depressed, looking at filial piety, duty, and numbness. He looks good to others, but is very painful in his heart. This is what we are. A typical Chinese good guy. Then he has no energy, he will suffer easily, and he will not be respected. He will become the punching bag of outsiders and even family members. He may become a filial son. The more he looks down on, the child who is looked down upon by his parents, the easier it is for him to become a so-called This filial son can easily become a puppet. He is the forgotten corner of his family and people outside. What about your elders? He was angry and aggrieved, but he was under pressure and couldn't speak out. When he succumbs to the pressure of powerful parents, he gives up on himself and the life he wants. If he cannot live out the vitality of his own life, then it is not a good thing for a child to please his parents. What about us, what should we do? We need to induce him, stimulate him, and then let him resist and attack us. Don't be afraid, and don't reject the children's complaints against us. Dare to complain about parents is a sign of children's mental health. Complaining about parents is a psychological need of teenagers. It is a parent's obligation to accept children's complaints and even accept their children's attacks. This is not because we parents have done anything wrong, this is a normal need of children. Therefore, a good child who is not rebellious is often hurt more seriously, just like crying when a child is young, it is a physiological need. For adolescent children, complaining is one of their psychological needs. Parents don’t understand that puberty comes from not having gone through puberty. Therefore, it is beneficial for children to make up for their adolescence. When parents go through adolescence, parents understand their children's adolescence. How do parents live through adolescence? That is to understand your own grievances and your frustrations. Moreover, complaining, complaining, and seeking an apology from your elders is not easy in the Chinese cultural environment, but it is a road to redemption for the Lu family and family. Well, when a child successfully passes through adolescence, it is also for the parents to make up for the knowledge of adolescence. Then life is full of hope and full of thorns. The child will eventually have to face the world independently, and he will go to the depths of life. They are anxious, but where are they eager to try? Well, there is the fear of tying oneself in a cocoon, and there is also the fear of breaking out of a cocoon and becoming a butterfly. This hope, if he does not tie himself in a cocoon, he will not be able to break out of the cocoon and become a butterfly. Regarding resistance, we should not fight, we should protect, we should not reject, but should call for adolescence. At this time, God gives children the strength and courage to explore, take risks, and challenge our parents, who are our parents. To understand this aspect of a child, you must know that this is the child's correct response, and this is also the child's life. It’s a necessary journey, thank you all.