Why do you always say that silence is a person's highest accomplishment?

Being misunderstood is the norm, being understood is an accident.

A monk said:

"Others are right or wrong, it is better to say nothing; It is better to say nothing than to say something hypocritical;

It is better to say nothing than what others say; Keeping promises is better than not keeping them. "

Although it is human nature to speak, it is a kind of accomplishment to shut up.

A true wise man knows how to talk less and listen more, and keep silent in due course.

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No explanation is the most reasonable explanation. A friend in the literary and art circles told a story about his own experience.

Two years ago, because he was tired of the nine-to-five life, he quit his stable job in state-owned enterprises and went home to work as a new media full-time.

Although the process is very hard and I often stay up late, I am very happy to be able to do what I love and make achievements.

It happened that several neighbors always talked about him from time to time, saying that he was idle and did nothing, even losing his good iron rice bowl.

At first, he tried to explain what freelancing was, but after a long time, he simply ignored it.

Wenyou said: "Some people just want to live in their own world. Since they can't explain it, why say more? "

In life, many people have experienced such a situation:

Make friends with leaders in private in the unit, and some colleagues will say what you agree with;

Share photos of traveling abroad in a circle of friends. Some people think that you are showing off your wealth in disguise.

If you quit your job and go home to start a business, your neighbors will say that you are unhappy in the big city. ......

Many times, the fact is not what we see in front of us, but that we have a hundred arguments.

But if you can't explain everything clearly, you'd better keep your mouth shut and keep silent.

People who really know you can understand you even if you don't say anything; People who don't understand you, even if you talk endlessly, are still talking with ducks.

As Li Ao said, "Sometimes explanations are unnecessary: enemies don't believe your explanations, and friends don't need your explanations."

Everyone has his own values. The joys and sorrows in this world are not connected. Being misunderstood is the norm, being understood is the exception.

Instead of trying to explain yourself to others, it is better to keep silent and let time respond to everything.

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Not arguing is the wisest wisdom. There is a saying in the Tao Te Ching: "If the letter is not beautiful, the good words don't believe it; Good people don't argue, and debaters are not good. "

Debate is a means of seeking, and not arguing is a wisdom of being a man.

Really smart people seldom argue with others.

At a banquet, someone told Carnegie a joke. There is a sentence in the joke. The man said it was from the Bible.

Carnegie immediately pointed out that this sentence came from a work by Shakespeare.

Who knows that the other party immediately denied it and insisted that he was right, so the two held their own opinions and argued endlessly.

To prove this point, Carnegie asked another friend who was proficient in Shakespeare's works with this question.

Hearing this, my friend agreed with this person.

On the way back, Carnegie asked his friend inexplicably why he was partial to the wrong side.

The friend said, "If you argue with him, even if you have the upper hand, the other party will resent you for losing face."

Come to think of it, it is.

On weekdays, we all fight with others because of some trivial things, to outdo each other.

If you lose, you will be angry and resentful; If you win, it will hurt each other's self-esteem and lose people's hearts.

Many times, the argument can't decide the outcome, only both sides lose.

Franklin once said: "If you always argue and refute, you may win occasionally, but it is an empty victory, because then you will never get the favor of the other side."

The most important thing for people to get along with each other is their comfort.

For some problems that do not involve right and wrong, we might as well turn a blind eye.

Even if you lose the truth, you gain feelings. Why not?

The best way to live in life is to look at your own scenery, go your own way and understand the differences of others.

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No evaluation is the top kind. I saw this video on Zhihu:

A man changed into a high school uniform in the toilet after work, put a pink hairpin on his head and smiled at the mirror.

Someone came in and ran into it. While saying "psycho", he picked up his mobile phone and photographed this scene and sent it online.

The video quickly caused a heated discussion, and the man was recognized on the road, calling him a transvestite and hitting him in the eye.

However, the truth of the matter is that the man's sister died in a car accident, and his mother forgot everyone because of shock, only remembering her sister at school.

In order to make his mother happy, the man decided to dress up as his sister and make video calls with his mother every day.

After reading it, I was deeply touched.

In our daily life, because of some incomprehensible things, it is easy for us to point fingers and comment on other people's lives.

However, behind those incredible things, what may be hidden is the sadness and embarrassment of others.

Han Han once said, "Shut up if you don't understand, because you never know what others have experienced. If you understand, then shut up. "

Everyone has his own life, and there are soft corners in his heart that he wants to protect.

We are not others, and we can't know the road he has traveled, the pain he has suffered, and the unspeakable suffering in his heart.

Your casual comments are likely to become a sharp knife that pokes the heart and cause irreparable harm to the other party.

Your casual words may uncover the scars that others finally healed and become bloody again.

Therefore, never judge a person easily.

It is natural kindness for a ruler not to talk, to understand others and not to judge others.

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Someone in Zhihu asked, "What is the reason why you are getting more and more silent?"

One of them replied:

"Sometimes, you are misunderstood, but don't want to argue; Sometimes, you are teased, but you don't bother to fight back; Sometimes, you don't know, you just don't want to talk, so you choose silence. "

Many times, silence does not mean cowardice and compromise, but generosity and calmness under forbearance.

It is to understand the world, look down on right and wrong without arguing, to understand life, and to be calm.

The ancients once said that eloquence is silver and silence is gold.

When we go through the vicissitudes of the world, we will finally understand:

Give a compliment, knowing how to remain silent is a person's most valuable accomplishment.