How did you get through the single-parent family?

In the last article, I wrote that I grew up in a single-parent family. I was born in 1995. When I was 6 years old, my mother ran away from home. The reason is that my father suddenly went blind, his temper suddenly became violent, and there was domestic violence. My mother was stubborn and finally left our poor Tinker Bell's house.

Today, my mother told me about their beginning. From beginning to end, her father Gao Shuai was really kind to her. Although my father's family was poor at that time, my father was very diligent, taking my mother everywhere and driving her on a bicycle. Everyone in the village knows that my mother is young and laughs at her. My father doesn't mind at all. On the contrary, he is very kind to her. That's it. After giving birth to my brother and me, when I was four or five years old, my father suddenly couldn't see anything, but my father didn't tell my mother. My mother looked at something wrong and was very angry, saying why she didn't tell her. Then my father became grumpy and started a series of quarrels. My mother went back to her parents' house. When I was five years old, I had memories. I still remember their fighting scenes. My mother said that she climbed out of the village and asked my second uncle to pick her up. Then she received my second uncle and gave her two strokes. Later, my father and I went to my grandmother's house and begged my mother to go home. My mother is no longer at my grandmother's house and has gone to work in Guangzhou. At that time, my mother never came back. I was six years old, so even when I came back, I would bring some clothes for me and my brother (my brother is five years old).

I am six years old, my brother is five years old, and my father can't see, but my father is still very diligent in farming, which has no influence and is very calm. My grandmother has always brought us up from six to fifteen or sixteen.

When I was seven or eight years old, I knew how to help my grandmother sell dug lotus roots and picked lychees and vegetables.

Grandma loves me and my brother very much. It was my grandmother who taught me and my brother how to be kind.

When I was in the sixth grade, the government asked my father to learn blind massage. In this way, grandma took us and took care of us. In order to succeed, my father learned things quickly and became famous in that company, earning neither much nor little money. Since then, we have lived a very poor life. Dad loved us very much at that time.

After junior high school, my mother began to contact us. Because of my father's indoctrination, I especially hate my mother, especially.

My mother contacted us because she filed for divorce with my father. I signed my mother's divorce email without knowing it, and finally the divorce was successful.

My mother comes to see me at school every month and gives me pocket money. Gradually, I contacted my mother more, but I didn't know how to contact her. She took me shopping to buy clothes and gave me money. I had no feelings for her at that time, and even hated her a little. My father knew about it, but I forgot how I knew it. I only remember that it happened to be autumn that year, and my father would go home every Wednesday. My father asked me how I got rich. I guess he was afraid that I would fail in school, and then. I was slapped in front of my house. I haven't been beaten for being naughty like a child since the fifth grade, when I was in adolescence. I heard him fly into a rage and say that he killed me tonight. I ran away. I didn't have a cell phone in my pocket, only a dollar. I dare not stay. I went to that small family for ten years to say goodbye to her. Then I went to the canteen near the school more than ten kilometers away and called my mother with only one yuan left to ask her to come over. She was in hospital because my grandmother was hit by a car. She immediately came to the school to look for me for a long time. I dare not come out in the bushes. Then my courage came out and my mother found me. My mother cried, and then I got sick, had a fever and caught a cold for a long time, and went back to school to go through the formalities of suspension. My father called the police. The police contacted my mother. I said I didn't want to see my father. Later, I didn't study for half a semester. Finally, after my mother asked me to go back to school, I boarded and went to my grandparents' house on Saturday and Sunday. I have no feelings for my grandparents, but it's just a boarding place. My second uncle is a philistine, an uneducated rural man, who likes to take the lead. He always loses his temper and says he will slap me for my character, but he doesn't care about his daughter. Once, I couldn't use the pressure cooker, and the vent valve jumped open. I ran out to play without crying. Since then, I have no so-called respect for him, which is really disgusting. Whenever he drinks too much, his daughter and son get up to scold and smoke. What a terrible person.

During my boarding, my mother and my father argued about my custody, and my father refused. I really miss my grandmother during the holiday, and I secretly went home to play nearby. My grandmother came out to see me and cried. Because she is too old, there are no more tears to shed. She pulled me to tell me about my childhood, and I cried. I didn't insist on leaving this original home. Then I went back to my father on Saturday and Sunday. This situation lasted until grandma left.

I didn't catch up with my grandmother for the last time. I didn't cry, not because I was sad, but because I couldn't cry The man who raised me, half mother and half grandmother, left me.

After grandma left, my father gave me a handmade silver. We're back together.

My father had already opened a massage shop, and because my father and mother were completely divorced, my father decided to get married. I don't like this woman very much. When my grandmother was alive, I really didn't like a woman coming back to my house to let my grandmother do the dishes. On second thought, I didn't have much pressure when he was taken care of.

At that time, the salary was only 2800. Just entering the society, I definitely can't manage money. When I paid my salary, I directly saved 2200 yuan to my dad (because I have poor ability to save money, he said to save it for me), and I got 600,600 yuan for a week of eating, drinking and having fun. At this time, I will borrow 300 from my dad, and then I will borrow 300, because he always gives 300 when I want 500, and he doesn't take the money twice at once. I went to him to get my money back and buy a millet 2s, but he refused to give it. I cried badly and my eyes were swollen for a long time. Psychologically wronged. I gave him money to deposit, but I didn't take much myself. He insisted that he had no money, so I said I would borrow it. Finally, I cried so badly that he accompanied me to buy it. It was sent by someone else's mobile phone when it was stolen. My mom's message popped up. Did you buy a mobile phone? I can't reach you. If I didn't buy it, I bought it for you I cried in an instant. I obviously hate her. Why does she always make it up to me?

From that moment on, I will never give my dad a penny again, not that I don't want to, but that I dare not.

From then on, my father met me once and asked me for money. At first, I didn't care, nor did I care. I just didn't give it to him anyway. I bought clothes for his birthday and took him to dinner. He is still not satisfied. Maybe he is afraid of poverty. He seized every penny and expected me to give him more money to make up for his insecurity. But I just won't give it. He earns more money than I do. I just don't give him money or spend it. This situation lasted until 20 16. He said that he wanted to buy a house, gave me the down payment, wrote my brother's and my name, and asked me how much I would give him every month. I said write my name, and I'll give you half of the monthly payment. So we looked at the house for more than three months, but we were still optimistic. Finally, why don't you give me the money first and I'll make a down payment in a few months? But after the first incident like that, I don't want to give it anyway. I said, I have a regular job, even if I don't eat or drink, I will definitely give it to you. Don't worry, he still won't buy it. When I went back to my hometown to build a house and add a second floor, my dad called me to give me 30 thousand. I lost my temper. Why do I have to pay 30 thousand yuan to make a phone call and then hang up? I was busy with work and didn't go home. Later, his other half (my name is aunt) went back to her mother's house for her birthday. She suddenly sent a message saying that she wanted me to go back to my parents' house and cook for my dad after work to take care of him. I said it was appropriate. I didn't have the courage to stand up, because the first night I made an appointment with my colleagues to play badminton in the badminton hall. . . I was very upset, but I went off work to buy food and cook as usual the next day. I can't cook at noon when I cook, so I cook at night until the next day. One night, he made a video with his friends, and then others asked him if he had dinner. People heard my voice and asked me if I would cook for him. He said, I have nothing to eat. All I eat is takeout. I cooked by subway and bus for a month every day, and my aunt came back and they quarreled. My aunt told me that she was going out to work, but she was going to work far away. I was selfish, too. I didn't want anyone to take care of my dad, so I went to talk to her for a long time and told her not to go too far. It was nearby. Well, when I came back to live at night, he called me and scolded me in various ways. I was puzzled and cried for a whole week. He means I have no conscience. I am puzzled by all kinds of statements that I will not raise him in the future. Two aunts called me, and I couldn't help it. I told them from beginning to end. They called to scold my dad. I thought it was over, but I never thought it was the beginning of our father and daughter becoming sworn enemies completely. He called me to scold me, and all kinds of statements said that I shouldn't tell my relatives that he asked me.

My younger brother is only one year younger than me. He is the Ming City of Su Like in TV series. I am very happy that his girlfriend is pregnant. After all, I really like my girlfriend. She is generous and decent, and she is very good at being a person. It is also a happy event to think that they will get married soon. I just want the family to sit down and talk it over. For once, I gave up my dad completely. Yes, giving up a person means that the more you love him, the greater your determination to give up.

I went to the store after work that day, and then I was ready to sit down and talk. After all, my sister-in-law is here. However, at the beginning, my dad always told me that there was no night feud in my family. Aunt asked me to pour tea to apologize. I love my brother very much. I have never argued with my brother since I was a child. I'm going to pour my brother a cup of tea for his sake, too. Forget it. After all, it's my dad. Let's give him a step down.

And he suddenly said, let me kneel down and admit my mistake, with a black question mark face. . .

My brother suddenly quarreled with him, and when he went out, he told me he was going to hit me? I have a question mark on my face. My brother and I know that this is another unpleasant situation. Then I went out with my brother and sister-in-law and opened a room for them to sleep. Why am I in tears? I was by his side when he obviously needed to care, but he overwhelmingly said that I had no conscience. He also said that I never helped my brother.

I was so excited at that moment that I took 25 thousand to marry my brother and have children. Of course, this means that I borrowed it, just because my dad and I had a fight, but my dad thought I should share it.

From that moment on, I gave up and cried for him for the last time.

After grandma died, he never remembered my brother's birthday and mine. Grandma didn't give us any family warmth when she was away. He went to a friend's house and heard more parents asking their children how their work was and whether they had enough money to spend. This sentence makes me warm.

As for him, he once asked me for money. He said it was a joke in front of his relatives, but I didn't give him money and bought him cigarettes, wine and food. He likes food. I'll take him. Because I knew he wanted money, I wanted to give him 5 thousand when I went back for the New Year, but he had a big fight after drinking on the 30 th of the year, so I had to endure not giving it.

He slapped my brother twice the night before in Tomb-Sweeping Day in memory of his grandmother.

August is a good month, my birthday, and my little nephew was born. After my little nephew was born, it was a full moon. I went home to help, and then my so-called relatives told me that they were disappointed in me. I looked disgusted, and my 100 thousand impulse to call names was suppressed.

I always do a day's cleaning when I go home. From the first floor to the third floor, every time I clean up my room and go back to work, the next time I come back, my room is inexplicably messy. My brother lives on the third floor, and my father and I live on the second floor. My sister-in-law volunteered to tell me why. Well, I don't even live on the second floor. I seldom go home. Every time I come back, I help my sister-in-law take care of the children, and then I sleep on the sofa. From that moment on, I never talked to my dad again, let alone slept on the second floor.

Just the other day, I took my little nephew shopping. My father asked who my sister-in-law went out with. My sister-in-law joked that your disobedient girl was shopping. My sister-in-law also sent me all the voices. He said she was an animal, not a disobedient girl. I won't forgive her if she doesn't kneel down and beg me for an apology in the future.

Since my sister-in-law came into my house, she has talked to me the most. You have done so much for your family, and you have done nothing wrong. Why does he always think that money is so important because you haven't done enough?

Aunt cried and told me that in fact, your father loves you very much, and he prepared a dowry for you, but he just felt that you hacked his WeChat, refused to answer his phone, and told his two aunts that he always asked you for money, and he felt that he could not face it.

My mother always said that he was taken care of and he was healthy. When he earned more money than you, you should work hard and honor him in the future.

As for me, there is no wave in my heart. My brother once told me that we had a home before grandma died, and we had no home after grandma died. Now that my brother is married, I am very happy. He has a family.

I always see what my father loves, and I love him very much, but no matter how soft I am, he still doesn't feel enough.

I asked him, how did you become like this when grandma died? He always said that he knew he was old and I wouldn't raise him. It's just that when grandma died, she told him that she must give me the household registration book and let me get married.

I'm 24 years old. I don't want to get married and I'm afraid of divorce. I feel horrible.

I don't hate my parents either. My mother tried to give me warmth and love, but I still felt lonely. I always wanted to know how the baby in a single-parent family got through it.

Don't parents really feel indebted to us?

When I was a child, I was told that I had no mother and that I was a wild child. My father raised us with great pains, and the quality of life has been greatly improved. Why is this happening?

/kloc-before the age of 0/5, I was very inferior and not optimistic. Now, I believe in letting nature take its course Don't say I don't care. Even if I care, what can I do? I just see everything more broadly.

People always ask about my parents suddenly, and I say they are divorced and have their own family.

I suddenly looked at them and felt like an outsider. Only my mobile phone and myself are left.

Don't try to comfort me, I am very strong inside, and I have survived no matter how tired or bitter I am. Life is pretty good now.

Attach a photo of my little nephew?