I gave birth to your child because I love you, not because I deserve it.

text | shadow gives birth to flowers

graph | network

? 1.

When I came home from work the other day, I heard two neighbors quarreling. I didn't expect to get involved, but I was dragged into the house on the grounds that I could judge.

after listening to the reasons for their quarrel, I don't know what to say for a while. The source of their quarrel is a joke.

Yan ran said:

"Not long ago, I saw on the Internet that many couples would take the initiative to experience the pain they suffered when they gave birth to a child before they got married. I thought it was really reasonable to do so, so I told my husband about it. I didn't mean anything else, just wanted to tell him about it. As a result, he said," Getting married and having children is something that you women should do, with us.

"I flew into a rage when I heard this sentence." Have you ever seen that woman who can have children by herself? Except artificial insemination. Obviously, the life of two people is the same as that of me alone. If I don't love you, why should I find myself guilty? The pain of giving birth is not just a matter of mouth talk. I think those who are willing to understand the pain of their wives are real men. "

" So you mean I'm not a real man? If you dislike me, why did you marry me? "

I watched the couple who were about to quarrel again and silently left the door.

I understand Yan ran's mood, and I know the reason why she is angry. I just feel sad and chilling about Haoyu's answer.

a woman chooses you and wants to go with you because she loves you, not because she should do her duty.

I am willing to have children for you, and I suffer for you because I love you, not because I deserve it.

2.

As most people who have studied medicine know, labor pains begin at first, and the general rule is that (primiparas) initially have labor pains every 3-4 minutes, and after about 5-6 hours, they become labor pains every 1 minutes.

The labor pains of multipara, that is, those who have given birth to children, are every 15 minutes. After that, the water is broken (amniotic fluid outflow), and then it is red. However, this is only the beginning.

To be precise, delivery is mainly divided into three stages of labor:

① The time from the ten-minute labor pains to the opening of the cervix (1cm) is about 1-12 hours, and the time for the primipara to have given birth is 4-6 hours.

② The duration of giving birth to a child for the first time is about 2-3 hours, and that of giving birth to a child is 1- 1.5 hours.

③ From the birth of fetus to the delivery of placenta. It takes about 3 minutes to an hour to wait for the placenta to be delivered naturally.

It is said that a woman is made of water and always loves to cry and make trouble, but what you don't know is that being a good mother and letting her child be born safely is the only thing she can think of.

? 3.

If you still can't understand and imagine the pain, well, please look at another set of data.

In medicine, pain is divided into 12 grades, which are as follows:

1. Unnoticed pain, such as mosquito bites.

2. The pain that has just been noticed, such as preparation for operation after anesthesia.

3. Very weak pain, cut by a knife.

4. Weak pain, such as being slapped in the face.

5. mild pain, such as hitting the door or being pinched by the door.

6. Moderate pain, such as gastroenteritis and stomachache caused by unclean diet.

7. Strong pain, such as being beaten with a stick.

8. Severe pain, such as female dysmenorrhea.

9. Very intense pain, such as neck, shoulder, waist and leg pain and neuralgia.

1. Severe pain, such as severed fingers.

11. Extremely severe pain, such as appendicitis and other visceral pain.

12. unbearable pain, such as pain during childbirth.

There was a saying on the Internet that a human can bear 45del (unit) of pain. But when a woman gives birth to a child, she has to bear the pain of 57del, which is probably like breaking 2 bones.

So please don't say that giving birth is what you women should do. No one should or must do anything for anyone. Everything is based on love. Without the support of love, they don't have to bear this pain.

? 4.

I don't know how many people can understand giving birth to a child. After all, I have no experience and can't empathize with it. The purpose of my posting this article is not to let every man experience the pain of giving birth to a child, but to make you more considerate of the girl who is with you. You may forget that she was once the little girl who cried when she was slightly injured, and once shouted "Giving birth is so painful" before meeting you.

It's probably because I met you,

only you,

that I want to entrust my whole life to you,

because I love you,

because I have no hesitation,

because I love you,

because I want nothing.

end .....................

Previous recommendation:

The person I like eventually becomes someone else's

The person I can't bear to hold is lying in someone else's arms.