In marriage, how can a woman make her indifferent husband fall in love with herself again?

When we meet someone we like, or are attracted by something about her, we often feel excited.

We all want our partners to be attracted to us forever, but in the long life, some men are not very responsible for their feelings. After they are attracted by women other than their wives during their marriage, various factors lead to infidelity to their wives, causing physical and mental harm to their wives.

In my consulting experience, my wife often said: My husband always goes behind my back with other women, so I quarreled with him many times. He said he would change, but after a while, he and the woman became hot again. I don't know what to do. ?

Or is life boring after marriage, and female friends are also very confused. How to let her husband return to himself and let her husband be moved by himself again?

Before we talk about this topic, let's understand why my husband is attracted to her. Generally speaking, her husband is attracted to her for three reasons.

The first reason is that she is considerate.

Under normal circumstances, what men want at home after working hard outside is the gentleness of women. This expectation is high. However, if his wife doesn't give him the warmth he wants, he will be easily attracted and moved by such a woman who takes the initiative to care about him when he is depressed.

Imagine that when a man comes home, if his wife puts on an ugly face and keeps complaining that he came back so late, he doesn't help with any housework and doesn't care about his children's study and growth. This kind of atmosphere will make him feel very depressed, and slowly he will be afraid to go home, afraid of hearing the voice of swearing, so he chooses to escape and hide outside the house. So I always say, men should be coaxed. You can communicate with him in the way he likes and train him to be what you want.

At this time, if other women ask him if he has eaten, whether he is tired from work, whether he wants to have a rest, etc. These greetings and concerns will touch the heart of a man who has not been warmed by his wife for a long time.

There are also some men who can't communicate with their wives or even get their understanding after encountering many grievances at work. At this time, if other women understand his sufferings, comfort his broken heart, guide his negative emotions, and are willing to be his bedside person, then men's negative emotions will be released soon, and they will be attached to each other's concern.

Some female friends will say: Is that man so irresponsible? Unfortunately, responsibility can only be used to ask yourself. Everyone is driven by power, just like a hungry person needs to eat. When a person needs to be cared for and loved, it is difficult for us to ask him with a sense of responsibility unless he gets corresponding care and love. If he can't get it at home, he will want to get it from outside.

The second reason is her praise.

Everyone is eager for praise. When a man meets a woman who appreciates him, he will naturally be full of confidence and affection for this woman.

For example, a man speaks on the stage, and a woman praises him: You look really handsome on the stage, and listening to you is better than studying for ten years. ?

For example, after the company's computer and lights broke down, the man volunteered to repair them. If another woman came out immediately, she said, Wow, you are really amazing. You can repair all kinds of electrical appliances. The woman who married you is really lucky. She has been studying for ten lives. ?

When a man hears such words, he will drift away, and he will never forget this woman who praised him.

Many times, men love face. When a woman especially protects his face and makes him shine at the moment, he will feel grateful to this woman, even a feeling of excitement, thinking that he has met a bosom friend, thus keeping close contact with this woman.

The third reason is her charm.

Charming women are often the goal pursued by men, and even married men will feel moved by her.

Imagine that a woman with a beautiful figure and dignified manners walks in front of you. How can such a person not be moved? On the other hand, if a man can walk with a very attractive woman, it also proves that he is very capable.

Many times, women are reluctant to part with themselves, do not know how to maintain and dress up, and do not know how to invest in their brains, and will only lose their charm more and more.

It is difficult for an unattractive woman to interest a man. After all, men are all face-saving, and they are more eager to have an attractive partner who can be their ornament and make them more eye-catching. Women are also attracted to men who are attractive both externally and internally.

Therefore, women should know how to maintain and dress up, be kind to themselves, and never put all their money on their husbands and children, making themselves sloppy and unattractive. In the end, they will get hurt. Even if their husbands have entertainment, they don't want to take you out. They will invest money in other women to add charm to themselves.

After analyzing the reasons, let's now look at how men behave after being moved.

The first behavior: emotional infidelity.

As mentioned above, when a man is attracted to a woman outside marriage, he will flirt with that woman, send messages all the time with his mobile phone, such as some ambiguous words, or often talk to each other on the phone in the name of work for hours, or inadvertently call his lover's name when he is with his wife.

There are also some men who don't keep in touch with their lovers often, but on Valentine's Day or other festivals, they will give their lovers all kinds of luxuries, such as expensive skin care products, cosmetics, designer bags, designer clothes and even a whole house. In a word, he spends far more energy and money on his lover than his wife.

It is very dangerous to have such an affair, and it is easy to have the next physical betrayal.

The second behavior: dating a lover.

If the relationship is derailed to a certain extent, they will have the impulse to meet. And this is no less than the love you once had. In their dating, there are likely to be intimate behaviors such as hugging and kissing.

There are also some men who choose to travel secretly in order not to let familiar people find out that he is dating other women. During the journey, they indulged themselves and did something to betray their wives.

The third behavior: keep your distance from your wife.

Some men will unconsciously keep their distance from their wives after they have a new love. No matter what intimate behavior his wife proposes, he will find various excuses to refuse.

In my counseling, I met many such wives. She wanted to live a married life with her husband, but he refused because he was busy at work or in a bad mood, which made her very depressed. She had to explore the reason and found that her husband had a lover outside. To this end, she is very determined to divorce, and their feelings are on the verge of breaking up.

I want to say here that it is really not easy to be married in a hundred years. Marriage also involves all aspects, including children, property and so on. You can't just break up. You should always be rational. Don't let go easily, let the other person get the feelings and marriage that you have managed for many years.

When a man is attracted to another woman and betrays his wife, at this time, the wife may wish to observe the reasons why her husband is attracted to him and do something to attract him. What should she do?

First, pay more attention to men.

Everyone is eager to be treated gently, and men are no exception. For example, when a man comes home from work, he can pay more attention to him and ask him if he is tired from work, whether he is under great pressure and so on. In addition, you can bring him hot food, so that he will be very moved and feel that he is also a concerned person, which will also make his heart beat for you and be willing to do many things for you.

For example, when a man shows a worried expression, he can take the initiative to ask him what happened recently. If he is willing to tell you, listen carefully and give him encouragement. If he doesn't want to tell you, don't make him. After all, men are face-saving. There may be some things that are not suitable for you to say, and they don't want to give you any trouble. At this time, you can gently hug him, comfort him and make him feel good to have you.

In fact, in a good marriage, give the other person more care and make him feel that you love him, so it is easy to win the other person's heart and make him willing to pay for you. Of course, this concern must be acceptable to the other party, otherwise it will be counterproductive.

Second, improve their internal quality.

Some people say that the external beauty is only temporary, and will eventually fade with the passage of time, while the internal beauty is eternal, so we should know how to improve our quality and be a cultured woman.

I once had a female consultant. She has a good appearance, but it's a pity that she always hurts people. Once she blurted out that her husband was a loser. Because he couldn't stand her verbal violence for a long time, he asked her for a divorce.

I want to say here that basically no man likes to humiliate his women everywhere, because it will not only hurt their self-esteem, but also affect their mood. Everyone likes people who can make him feel happy. After all, life is not easy every day. Who doesn't want to live an easy life?

Therefore, women should please men, let men be tempted by themselves and improve their inner quality. For example, you should know how to take care of his feelings when talking or doing things.

In addition, a knowledgeable woman can always benefit others in the process of talking with her, which will naturally win men's good feelings.

After all, a woman who knows how to talk and do things and how to reason can always shine, attract more people's appreciation and make people feel excited.

Third, change the external image.

It is said that people are visual animals, and everyone will have a heart-warming feeling when they meet beautiful things, especially men. A woman with a beautiful external image can always attract men's attention.

As a woman, you will feel the same way. Every time I go out shopping with my husband and meet a beautiful woman, my husband's eyes will unconsciously follow that beautiful woman. In this case, many wives will fly into a rage and ask whether a man is beautiful or that beautiful woman is beautiful. In the face of such a confession, a man will naturally say that his wife is beautiful, but he will still think about the beauty of that beautiful woman in his heart.

What I want to say here is that a woman with a beautiful external image can always capture the hearts of most men in an instant, so what a woman needs to do is to change her external image and make herself look more beautiful.

For example, let a professional hair stylist design a suitable hairstyle for himself, wear some clothes suitable for his personality, match some jewelry suitable for his style and so on.

In addition, you should have a set of skin care products that suit you and have a good skin care effect, a set of cosmetics that suit you, and some beautiful coats, bags, high heels and so on. Although it is said that women don't just rely on luxury goods to show their extravagance, if they don't decorate themselves with luxury goods, it will be too shabby to go in and out of high-end occasions, and it will be difficult to become the most dazzling star and attract more people's attention, but the premise of these is that your economy can support it.

For some very successful men, they will naturally go to various high-end occasions. If your external image is not good enough, they will probably not take you to these high-end parties, let alone make him excited about himself.

Fourth, learn to be coquettish.

The trick of coquetry is to let go of your toughness and high posture and impress men with girls' weakness. There is a joke that is particularly vivid: some women call themselves old ladies, so she should do more work for others; Some women call themselves me, and she wants to do her job well; Some women call themselves others, and men will help her. Although it is a joke, it also shows that coquetry is actually a powerful weapon for women.

Under normal circumstances, being spoiled by a woman can easily touch a man's heart. Of course, these must be suitable for your intimate way.

It is said that a woman who knows how to coquetry is the best, and she can always make her husband do what she says. However, it is worth noting that coquetry should also grasp a scale. You can't force your husband to achieve a certain goal, such as crying to let him buy a luxury bag, which will only be self-defeating and make him tired of himself.

It is said that good feelings begin in the heart and end in the heart. Generally speaking, in the early days of love, the heartache of two people is indispensable. If they get married, they should know how to settle down. If her husband has a feeling of being moved by another woman, it means that she has lost the way she moved her husband. At this time, it is more important to change yourself and make yourself better and more attractive, so as to win back her husband's heart.

In fact, my husband is not afraid of other women's feelings. The terrible thing is that you see him interested in other women and indifferent to his promotion. He is still complaining about others, and taking advantage of the other person's harm to you to do things that hurt him more. This is even more unworthy.