Why do you end up being alienated and rejected when you go out to date with enthusiasm?

Interpersonal relationships are very complicated. Love is the most unfair thing in the world. It will not give you the same reward just because of your efforts. Many times you go into a relationship with enthusiasm, but in the end it fails. In exchange for an ending of alienation and rejection, why is this?

First, because he is full of enthusiasm, he lowers his posture, resulting in not being respected by others. In many cases, others will not look up to you because of your enthusiasm. On the contrary, they will think that you are humble because of your enthusiasm, and they will not take you seriously. This is a common psychological problem among many people. According to the sunk cost principle, people will only cherish things that they have worked hard to get. The easier they get, the less they will cherish them. Because of his low profile, he ended up being alienated and rejected. Second, you do not have enough value in yourself. Passion alone is not enough. Whether it is friendship or love, if you want to maintain a relationship for a long time, you must let others see the value in you. The bustling world is all for gain, and the bustling world is all for gain. Interest is the strongest link to maintain a relationship. If you have empty enthusiasm, it will always bring trouble to others. I think everyone will stay away from you. Only those who have enough value in themselves can be recognized and respected by others. There is a saying It is said that if you bloom, butterflies will come. When you are valuable, you will naturally gather a bunch of friends around you.

Third, being full of enthusiasm does not gain the trust and recognition of others. You feel that when you interact with others, you have given 120,000 sincerity, but it may be because you are always overly cautious, submissive, or overly polite and polite when interacting with others, which makes people feel that they are interacting with you. When you are with someone else, there is always a sense of distance and unfamiliarity. Even if you work very hard, you still can't really get into the hearts of others. In fact, many times emotional matters are so unreasonable.