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1, Bian Que's medical skills

King Wen of Wei asked the famous doctor Bian Que, "Your three brothers are all good at medical skills, which one is the best? 」

Bian Que replied, "The eldest brother is the best, the second brother is the second, and I am the worst. 」

King Wen asked again, "Then why are you the most famous? 」

Bian Que replied, "My eldest brother treated me before I got sick. Because most people don't know that he can eradicate the cause in advance, his fame can't spread, only our family knows. My brother treated this disease at the early stage of his illness. Most people think that he can only cure minor illnesses, so his fame is limited to his own village. And I, Bian Que, treated my illness when it was very serious. Most people have seen me perform major operations, such as pricking needles in meridians to bleed blood and applying medicine to the skin, so I think my medical skill is brilliant and my reputation has spread all over the country. 」

King Wen said, "You speak very well. 」

Post-event control is not as good as post-event control, and post-event control is not as good as pre-event control. Unfortunately, most business operators are not aware of this, and it is too late to seek compensation when the wrong decision has caused huge losses.

2. The sick lion

An old and frail lion, unable to feed himself, had to lie in a cave. He has difficulty breathing and speaks weakly, and he looks very ill.

The news soon spread among the herd, and everyone felt sorry for the sick lion. They came to see the lion one after another. I didn't know that the lion just stayed in his cave and easily caught the tourists one by one and ate them.

The fox is a little skeptical about this, and finally let's see what happened. He stood at a distance to greet the safety of all animals. The lion said, "Ah, my dearest friend, it's you. Why are you standing so far away? " Come on, good friend, say something in my poor lion's ear, I'm dying. "

"May God bless you!" The fox said, "but please forgive me, I can't stay long." To be honest, I feel very uneasy. I only saw the footprints I walked in, but I didn't see them come out. "

It is not easy to make progress in everything, but it is not easy to make a decision before moving. Reckless behavior often puts oneself at a disadvantage.

3. Psychological experiments in the Atlantic Ocean

1900 In July, a psychiatrist named Lin Deman sailed into the stormy Atlantic Ocean alone in a canoe. He is conducting a psychological experiment that has never been done in history, and he is prepared to pay the price with his own life.

Dr. Lin Deman believes that as long as a person has confidence in himself, he can maintain physical and mental health. At that time, the whole country in Germany was watching this tragic adventure of crossing the Atlantic alone. More than 65,438+000 warriors crossed the Atlantic successively, but all failed. No one is alive. Dr Lin Deman believes that these victims were not physically defeated at first, but mainly died of mental breakdown, fear and despair. In order to verify his point of view, he conducted the experiment in person regardless of the opposition of his relatives and friends.

During the voyage, Dr. Lin Deman encountered unimaginable difficulties and was on the verge of death many times. He even had hallucinations in front of his eyes, feeling numb, and sometimes he really felt desperate. But as soon as this idea arose, he immediately blamed himself loudly: "coward, do you want to repeat the same mistakes and die here?" No, I will succeed! "The hope of life supported Lin Deman, and finally he succeeded. Looking back on his successful experience, he said, "I believe from the bottom of my heart that I will succeed." This belief is integrated with myself in difficulties and fills every cell around me. "His experiments show that as long as people are not disappointed in themselves and full of confidence, the spirit will not collapse, and it is possible to overcome difficulties, survive and succeed.

In the China 1976 Tangshan earthquake, many people died of despair rather than thirst and collapse. It was observed that they had no scars-except those covered by their hands, and they ended their lives in extreme despair. Another couple survived after being trapped underground for three days. In the days when they were buried underground, pain and hunger almost killed them. The husband found a kitchen knife and tried to dig out an open hand, but it was surrounded by cement floor. The kitchen knife has no effect except cutting off a little dust. But the sound of a kitchen knife chopping on the concrete floor cheered his wife up. She kept asking her husband, "Is it soon?" Is it going to be dug up soon? "The husband also said hopefully," soon, soon. "

A clever husband saved his wife and himself with "hope".

Psychologists have found from a large number of observational facts that in dangerous situations, it is often those optimistic and confident people who survive because they never lose hope.

For the hope effect, psychologists have conducted extensive investigations, and they have asked many people to answer "What is your hope?" Questionnaire survey. The results of questionnaire analysis show that the more hopeful people (big or small) are, the more confident they are, the more they pay attention to the fun of life and the more energetic they are. Those who have no obvious hope or little hope often show indifference, pessimism and depression. A rich man only wrote one sentence on the test paper: "I have no hope, and all my hopes have been met-except eternal life." Can this be regarded as hope? " After investigation, the rich man suffered from severe depression. Psychologists contacted him and suggested that he engage in some specific activities, and listed a phased schedule, such as training his grandson and supporting a football club. After guidance, through constant and all kinds of hope "suffering", the rich man has changed spiritually.

The sense of hope is the fundamental desire of human survival. Some young people who have just stepped into society and life have ended their lives prematurely, mostly because they are disappointed with life and even accumulate despair. And a person who has hope for life, no matter how difficult the environment is, will give full play to his ability to compete with the environment in the transformation of the environment and improve his living conditions and status.

Let's find the hope of life together and let her lead us forward.

4. the story of pebbles

In a time management class, the professor put a jar of water on the table. Then take out some pebbles from under the table that can be put into the jar from the jar mouth. When the professor put the stone away, he asked the students, "Do you think this jar is full?" "Yes," all the students answered in unison. Really? "Asked the professor. Then take out a bag of stones from under the table, pour them out of the jar, shake them, add some more, and ask the students, "Do you think this jar is full now?" "This time his students dare not answer too fast. Finally, a student in the class timidly whispered, "Maybe not." "Very well! The professor finished, took out a bag of sand from under the table and slowly poured it into the jar. After pouring, he asked the students in the class, "Now tell me, is this jar full?" "Haven't you had enough?" No, it isn't, "the whole class knows, and everyone answers confidently. Great! The professor praised these students who are "willing to teach" again. After the praise, the professor took out a big bottle of water from under the table and poured it into a jar that looked full of pebbles, pebbles and sand. When all these things were done, the professor asked the students seriously, "What important lessons have we learned from these things?" ? There was a silence in the classroom, and then a self-righteous student replied, "No matter how busy our work is and how full our schedule is, we can still do more if we have to push it." The student proudly thought, "This course is really about time management! Hearing this answer, the professor nodded and smiled: "the answer is good, but it is not the important information I want to tell you." At this point, the professor paused deliberately, glanced at the class with his eyes and said, "The most important message I want to tell you is that if you don't put the big pebbles in the jar first, you may never have a chance to put them in again." 」

Comments:

1. We can determine the order of dealing with many events in our work according to different combinations of importance and urgency. Make sure that pebbles, gravel, sand and water can be put into the jar.

You should do the same for what happened in your life. In other words, at what age should you finish what you should do? Otherwise, times have changed, and it will be difficult for you to have a chance to remedy it at the next age.

5. Achieve big goals in stages.

1984, in the Tokyo International Marathon Invitational Tournament, the little-known Japanese player Yuanyi Yamada unexpectedly won the world championship. When the reporter asked him why he achieved such amazing results, he said this: beat his opponent with wisdom.

At that time, many people thought that the short player who accidentally ran to the front was mystifying. Marathon is an exercise of physical strength and endurance. As long as you have good physical fitness and patience, you are expected to win the championship, followed by explosiveness and speed. It's a little reluctant to say that you won by outsmarting yourself.

Two years later, the Italian International Marathon Invitational Tournament was held in the northern Italian city of Milan, and Ibn Yamada represented Japan. This time, he won the world championship again. The reporter asked him to talk about his experience.

Ibn Yamada is slow and inarticulate. The answer is the last sentence: defeat your opponent with wisdom. This time the reporter didn't dig at him in the newspaper, but was puzzled by his so-called wisdom.

10 years later, the mystery was finally solved. In his autobiography, he said: Before every competition, I have to take a bus to watch the route of the competition carefully and draw the more eye-catching signs along the way, such as the first sign is the bank; The second sign is a big tree; The third sign is a red house ... so I painted it until the end of the game. After the race started, I rushed to the first goal at a speed of 100 meters. After reaching the first goal, I rushed to the second goal at the same speed. The race of more than 40 kilometers was broken down into several small goals by me and ran easily. At first, I didn't understand this truth. I set my goal on the flag of the finish line more than 40 kilometers away. As a result, after running for more than ten kilometers, I was exhausted and frightened by the long journey ahead.

In reality, the reason why we do things halfway is often not because it is difficult, but because we feel that success is far away from us. To be exact, we don't give up because of failure, but because of burnout. In the journey of life, we have a little wisdom of Ibn Yamada, and maybe our life will be less regretful.

6. Caterpillars who can queue up

In Africa and the Mediterranean, there is an insect called the moth by entomologists. This moth is nothing special, but its larva caterpillar has attracted the attention of entomologists.

After these caterpillars hatched from eggs, hundreds of them gathered together to live. When going out for food, one usually leads the team, and the other caterpillars stand on the ass of the previous partner, one by one, marching in a row, with a record of 600. Fabriz, a French entomologist, once studied these caterpillars, took the leader away, quickly made up the latter and moved on.

The most interesting thing in the experiment is to lure the caterpillar to the edge of the flowerpot with tricks. As soon as the caterpillar came up, it walked along the edge and turned as it walked. The disciplined caterpillar team is not chaotic at all, circling around the flowerpot. On the third and fourth days. . . . . After walking for a week, finally on the eighth day, a caterpillar fell and unexpectedly broke through the predicament. This group of caterpillars returned to their hometown.

Some people say that if these caterpillars are connected end to end, they will starve to death. Stubborn and ignorant, there is no better word to describe them except blind obedience.

7. teach people to fish and teach people to fish?

Once upon a time, two hungry people were blessed by an elder: a fishing rod and a basket of huge fresh fish. One of them asked for a basket of fish and the other asked for a fishing rod, so they parted ways. The person who got the fish built a bonfire with dry wood and cooked the fish on the spot. He wolfed down the fish and didn't taste the meat of the fresh fish. In a flash, he ate all the fish and soup. Soon, he starved to death by the empty fish basket. The other man continued to starve with a fishing rod, and walked hard to the seaside step by step, but when he saw the blue ocean not far away, his last strength was exhausted and he could only die with endless regrets.

Two hungry people also got a fishing rod and a basket of fish from their elders. It's just that they didn't part ways, but agreed to look for the sea together. They only cook one fish at a time. After a long journey, they came to the seaside. From then on, they began to make a living by fishing. A few years later, they built a house, had their own family and children, had their own fishing boat, and lived a happy and healthy life.

A person who only cares about immediate interests will eventually get short-term happiness; One should aim high, but face the real life.

Only by organically combining ideal with reality can we become a successful person. Sometimes, a simple truth is enough to give people meaningful life enlightenment.

8. The gatekeeper and Jesus

In a church in northern Europe, there is a bitter statue of Jesus crucified, which is about the size of ordinary people. Because I am responsive, I come here to pray, and there are so many people who come to worship, which can almost be described as crowded.

The desire and commitment of the gatekeeper

There is a doorman in the church. He felt sorry to see that Jesus on the cross had to deal with so many people's demands every day. He wants to share the suffering of Jesus. One day when he prayed, he showed this wish to Jesus. Unexpectedly, he heard a voice say, "Good! I came down to watch the door for you, and you came up to be crucified. However, no matter what you see or hear, you can't say a word. 」

This gentleman thinks this requirement is very simple. So Jesus came down, and the doorman went up and spread out his arms, just like Jesus was crucified. Originally, Kuzun was carved like a real person, so people who came to worship did not doubt him. The gentleman also kept silent as agreed and listened to his friends.

People come and go in an endless stream, and their prayers are reasonable and unreasonable. But in any case, he held back and didn't speak, because he had to keep his previous promise.

The janitor broke his promise.

One day, a rich businessman came. After praying, the rich merchant forgot his wallet and left. He could see from his eyes that he really wanted to call the rich businessman back, but he couldn't say anything.

Then came a poor man who could not even eat three meals. He prayed that Jesus could help him through the difficulties of life. When I was about to leave, I found the bag left by the wealthy businessman before, and opened it. It was full of money. The poor are very happy. It's very kind of Jesus. He gave everything he wanted and left with great gratitude.

Jesus in disguise on the cross looked him in the eye and wanted to tell him it wasn't yours. However, the agreement came first, and he still couldn't say it. Next, a young man came. He was going to take a long trip to the seaside. He came to pray for Jesus' blessing and his safety. Just as he was about to leave, the rich businessman rushed in, grabbed the young man's skirt and asked him to pay back the money. The young people didn't understand, and they quarreled.

At this time, the disguised Jesus on the cross finally couldn't help but speak. Now that things were clear, the rich merchant went to the poor man described by the fake Jesus, while the young man left in a hurry because he was afraid that he could not get on the boat. Jesus, disguised as a gatekeeper, appeared and pointed to the man on the cross and said, "Come down! You are not qualified for that position. " The doorman said, "I tell you the truth, is it wrong to uphold justice?" Jesus said, "What do you know? The rich businessman is not short of money. His bag of money is only used for whoring, but it can save the livelihood of this poor family. The most pitiful thing is that young man. If the rich businessman keeps pestering him and delaying his sailing time, he can still save his life. Now, his ship is sinking into the sea 」

This fable sounds like a joke, but it reveals: "in real life, we often think what is the best, but the result is contrary to our wishes, which makes us unhappy." We should believe that whatever we have at present is the best arrangement for us, whether in good times or bad. If so, we can be grateful in prosperity and still be happy in adversity. 』

Nothing in life is perfect. However, we should remain true in the present. Maslow once said:

If your heart changes, your attitude will also change;

If your attitude changes, your habits will also change;

Habits have changed, so has your personality;

If your personality changes, so will your life.

Thanksgiving in prosperity, happiness in adversity, stay real in the present.

9. Two people crossed the desert together.

The two men crossed the desert together. After drinking water, one of them can't move because of heatstroke.

The companion went to find water and gave him a gun and five bullets: "remember, after three hours, put a gun in the air every other hour." Gunshots will guide me to find the right direction and meet you. "

The two broke up. The man lay suspicious in the desert, waiting helplessly. He looked at his watch and fired on time, but he found it hard to believe that his companion would keep his promise.

One shot, two shots, three shots ...

As time went on, he became more and more afraid: did his companion die of thirst while looking for water? Or find water and give up on yourself?

When the fifth shot was fired, he raised his gun, aimed at his temple and pulled the trigger. ...

Soon, a companion carrying a pot of clear water led a desert camel caravan to follow the sound. But what they see is ...

Comments:

Believing in success may not necessarily lead to success, but people who don't believe in success will almost certainly not succeed. Because, he no longer reported hope, no longer insisted, no longer worked hard.

10, are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

A daughter complained to her father about her life and everything was difficult. She doesn't know how to deal with life and wants to give up on herself. She is tired of fighting and struggling, as if a problem had just been solved and a new one appeared.

Her father is a cook. He took her into the kitchen. He first poured some water into three pots, and then put them on the fire. Soon the water in the pot boiled. He put some carrots in one pot, eggs in the second pot and coffee beans in the last pot. Without saying a word, he soaked them in boiling water and cooked them.

The daughter smacked her lips and waited impatiently, wondering what her father was doing. After about 20 minutes, he turned off the fire, fished out the carrots and put them in another bowl, then spooned the coffee into the cup. After doing this, he turned to his daughter and asked, "Honey, what do you see?" "Carrots, eggs, coffee," she answered.

He asked her to come closer and let her touch the carrot with her hand. She touched them and found that they had softened. Father asked his daughter to take an egg and break it. After peeling the shell, she saw a hard-boiled egg. Finally, he invited her to drink coffee. My daughter smiled when she tasted the fragrant coffee. She asked timidly, "Dad, what does this mean?"

He explained that these three things face the same adversity-boiling water, but their reactions are different. Carrots are strong and sturdy before being put into the pot, showing no weakness; But after entering the boiling water, it becomes soft and soft. Eggs turned out to be fragile. Its thin shell protects its liquid internal organs. But after boiling water, its internal organs hardened. On the other hand, powdered coffee beans are unique. After entering the boiling water, they change the water. "Which one is you?" He asked his daughter. "When adversity comes, how should you deal with it? Are you a carrot, egg or coffee bean? "

What about you, my friend? Are you a carrot that looks tough, but retreats after suffering and adversity, becoming weak and losing strength? Are you an egg with a plastic heart? You were an uncertain person at first, but after death, breakup, divorce or unemployment, did you become strong and stubborn? Your shell looks the same as before, but have you become tough because of your strong personality and heart? Or are you like a coffee bean? The beans changed the boiling water that brought it pain, and made it emit the best fragrance when it reached the high temperature of 2 12 degrees Fahrenheit. Water tastes better when it is hottest. If you are like a coffee bean, you will become promising at the worst time and make the surrounding situation better.

Ask yourself how to deal with adversity. Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

1 1, can't climb out.

British priest Sydney Smith told such a story:

There are many castles and monuments in Scotland, so there are many rumors of being haunted.

One day, a primary school teacher didn't go home until midnight because of his busy work. On his way home, he had to pass a cemetery. Someone had just dug a new grave that day. I accidentally fell into the pit when I passed by, but the pit was so deep that the burly teacher couldn't climb out. Later, he just sat in the pit until dawn.

I didn't expect another person to come soon, and also accidentally fell into the pit. I saw him desperately climbing up. Of course, there is nothing he can do about it.

"Don't climb." The primary school teacher said, "You can't climb out."

People who fell later probably thought they had seen a ghost and were scared out of their wits. He immediately climbed up with both hands and feet, but was accidentally allowed to climb out after three times and two times.

Unfortunately, no one knows how much potential a person has, and it is even more regrettable that it is not easy to be exposed until the critical moment.

12, birdcage logic

Hang a beautiful birdcage in the most conspicuous place in the room. In a few days, the owner will definitely make one of the following two choices: throw away the birdcage or buy a bird and put it in the birdcage. This is the birdcage logic. The process is simple. Imagine that you are the owner of this room. As long as someone walks into a room and sees a birdcage, they can't help asking you, "Where is the bird? Is it dead? " When you answer, "I've never had a bird." People will ask, "So, what do you need a birdcage for?" Finally, you have to choose between two choices, because it is much easier than endless explanations.

The reason for birdcage logic is simple: people think inertia most of the time. So it can be seen how important it is to cultivate logical thinking in life and work.