How much harm will parents' partiality do to children's feelings?

Many mothers don't admit their eccentricity at all, or don't want to admit their eccentricity. Parents' partiality has become a habit unconsciously. Personality defects, inner pain and eccentric personality are devastating to children. Maybe parents don't feel the harm to their children, but the children have the shadow of injury, and the injured heart will be difficult to heal for life.

"The world is old and small." It is the rule of ordinary families to play big and hurt small. Generally, a family has more than two children, and the boss basically doesn't like it. (Unless the little guy around you hasn't grown up since childhood) There are also sons who prefer boys to girls. Many parents don't realize the harm of eccentricity, so what is the result of parental eccentricity?

0 1 Parents' partiality makes unwelcome children run away from home.

Parents' partiality often begins when children are young. Because children are still young, they will not express their helplessness and injuries, and parents will not feel eccentric, and the injuries in their hearts will accumulate little by little. This kind of injury will accompany the child's growth and the wound will get deeper and deeper. When they go to the society with injuries and get married, their parents' partiality is still expanding unconsciously.

Children who are not seen are often the most loyal to their parents and pay the most for their families. Because they want the love and recognition of their parents, their efforts from the family have become inertia.

However, because they are disliked by their parents, and because of the diminishing border effect, children who are disliked feel that they should be parents. There is a limit to patience. One day, the child will wake up when he is injured.

Facing my parents, I hate and can't hate, and I dare not complain or quarrel. I have no choice but to run away from my parents and stop contacting them.

Parents are eccentric, brothers and sisters turn against each other and don't touch each other.

No parents will admit that they are responsible for the confrontation between brothers and sisters. But most brothers and sisters in the family turned against each other because of their parents' eccentric behavior. Subjectively, no parents want their children to turn against each other. However, due to the long-term partiality of parents, other children will be dissatisfied.

In particular, parents who unconsciously bully unpopular children will blame spoiled children. Why not be fair and persuade parents not to hurt themselves like this? Prejudice children are favored from birth. They don't feel biased, and they don't feel that biased parents have done anything wrong. Unconsciously, brothers and sisters drifted away and became familiar strangers.

The partiality of parents made the old man feel humiliated.

When people are old, pay special attention to their faces. When chatting with friends, most of them are talking about children. Because the injured child fled the family because of the parents' partiality, the family split, and the parents were angry, sad, painful and humiliated. They are embarrassed to tell their friends, afraid to let their relatives know, for fear of being laughed at by their relatives and friends.

At this time, some parents began to reflect on themselves and felt that they had done harm to their children and began to make up for the lack of love for their children. But some parents didn't realize that they had hurt their children until their children ran away, which led them to run away. Therefore, the inner resentment is actually a fleeing child, not struggling in the whirlpool of pain.

Parents' partiality makes your pension a problem.

Eccentric parents always feel that if they are eccentric about a child, they will master the old-age care. Children who are biased by their parents have become accustomed to taking and demanding, and become selfish and irresponsible. How can they accept their parents' pension?

The children who are the most filial to their parents are already scarred and chilling. They were frightened by their parents and were afraid to go near them. If children can't unite and think hard about the problem of providing for the aged, then providing for the aged will face various problems such as being shirked and neglected.

There is no one in front, that is, one person supports the elderly and one person dies. If the child is kidnapped by morality and responsibility, and the old man ignores the emotional old man in order to fulfill his responsibility, it will be miserable.

In fact, when people are old, what they want most is warm company. The children are smiling and caring. Eccentric parents, when they are old, will eventually understand that eccentricity not only hurts their children, but also hurts themselves, and ultimately it is themselves who bear the consequences of eccentricity.