What if my girlfriend doesn't finish the housework? How can she assume the responsibility of a woman?

1. A girl's failure to finish housework is a procrastination, which is actually a reflection of her dislike of being arranged. In fact, every girl has the desire to seek knowledge, win and show, but she doesn't like being forced to make arrangements. Under the pressure of parents' hard and soft, she must obey her parents' forced arrangements. When girls accept this arrangement, they gradually form the concept that "I actually don't like arrangements", and they can't enjoy the process of acquiring knowledge, growing up and making progress. This is what we often call girl procrastination. From these descriptions, this kind of procrastination is often a serious misleading tendency between parents and girls in the process of girls' growth, which leads to procrastination tendency.

2. the simplest way is to weaken the external motivation appropriately, that is, to reduce the intensity of compulsory arrangement.

In fact, girls like and enjoy some parts of the arrangement, but this kind of love is covered up by what they have to do, and they can't feel it themselves. It is very important for girls to feel their intrinsic motivation for arrangement, so the intensity of compulsory arrangement can be reduced. Long-term dependence on external motivation will lead to girls' self-awareness being more easily influenced by other people's evaluation. Girls may procrastinate more, find a lot of unimportant things to occupy their time, don't do the most important thing, and then tell themselves subconsciously that I could still do it well if it weren't for the delay. They may also be more and more afraid of not doing well, becoming more and more afraid of failure, and even blocking themselves from success by setting obstacles. This kind of self-obstructing behavior is not destroying itself, but protecting itself.

3. enhancing internal motivation itself can solve procrastination.

the way to reward girls is very important. "You can go shopping when you're done" these encouragements give girls the expectation of reward in advance, which seems to be more energetic these days. In fact, children will gradually feel that housework arrangement is a tool leading to shopping. This kind of external motivation, which has been strengthened in a short time, has long hindered girls' perception of their internal motivation. Without anticipatory encouragement, especially for ability, the intrinsic motivation can be enhanced, such as "You did so well this time, your hands-on and practical ability is really strong, and you are rewarded …" and so on. Guiding and cultivating girls' internal motivation and weakening external motivation is not only for the sake of arrangement itself, but also for the sake of family harmony. Boys don't just love that promising girl, but because they love her unconditionally.