Why don’t young people nowadays want to get married?

Not getting married and not having children has become the mainstream value among young people, because they really cannot afford to get married or have children.

If you go to many rural areas now, you will find a grand scene where singles are everywhere. Some villages do have too few girls, or all the girls have gone to the city, but some villages clearly do not. Even if there are girls of marriageable age, many men are still single. The reason is very simple: many girls look down on them.

This phenomenon is more obvious in cities. It seems that there are many young men and women in cities, but in fact there are more singles. Girls are busy working on their own careers, but for boys, it is easier. Constantly making money, in this big society, nothing does not need money to support.

Yes, not only do you need it, but you also need a lot of money. The first thing many young people do after graduating from college is not to travel, nor to fly their dreams, nor to pursue themselves and freedom, but to focus on everything. The reason for making money is very simple. Girls are afraid of being deceived emotionally and don't believe in love.

For boys, it is more realistic. If they have no money, can’t buy a house or a car, which girl is willing to marry him? So this is a very real problem, but most people are unable to achieve financial freedom simply by working part-time, and they think of the pressure of childcare in the future.

There is also the pressure of mortgage and car loans, which is unthinkable, not to mention the cost of children’s education, from kindergarten to college graduation, which is an immeasurable huge expense. If you are in your 30s, When you encounter a dismissal or a crisis in the workplace, how do you get through the darkest moments of your life when you have children and adults?

So instead of betting on an uncertain future and letting yourself live so exhausted, it is better to be freer and not get married or have children. Even if you get married and choose DINK, you will not be able to live this life well. , why bother to embarrass your own children? It’s difficult to support yourself, let alone have a child?

The low-desire society has completely arrived, and the stability and durability of marriage have been greatly impacted

For the previous generation, men should marry when they are older and women should marry when they reach a certain age. After that, they will inevitably get married and have children. Women will naturally shift their main energy to the family, while boys will have to bravely pursue a career, earn more money, and shoulder the important task of supporting the family.

In the past, young people who got married after the age of 30 were basically ridiculed as leftover men and leftover women. They were either incompetent and could not marry a wife, or they had their own problems and could not get married. However, many people nowadays In cities, there are many people in their 30s who are not yet married.

In addition to some young people who are forced to be single because of their limited abilities and cannot afford a house or a car, there are also some women who have too high a vision, which makes them dazzled when choosing. Having left themselves alone, most young people actually no longer have much expectations or interest in marriage.

After all, if you get married, you will get divorced. The stability of marriage today is simply a joke. Some people get the divorce certificate first, then turn around and get the marriage certificate. Marriage is not a good thing for many people. Talking is like child's play. You have to pay for a house, a car and a lot of gifts, but in the end you get nothing in exchange for a bamboo basket. Why bother?

There is also the family planning policy of the previous generation, which resulted in many families having only one child. Therefore, even if they are together, no one is willing to accommodate each other. Sometimes even small conflicts can make each other happy. It directly leads to divorce, and many marriages are inherently for profit and exchange purposes.

In this case, if life is good, two people can still live well. Once the family is financially embarrassed, the house will immediately become a mess, or even fall apart in minutes. Instead of trying to find a way to Instead of accommodating someone, it is better to choose to be yourself. You can be quite happy alone, so why do you have to get married?

The high-intensity pressure of society makes young people fall into great anxiety. It is better to live well now than in the future

Today’s society is not friendly to young people. Private companies with the largest number of employees exploit young people the most, often only seeing smiles from new employees but not tears from old employees. Many old employees are ruthlessly eliminated once they get older and cannot work overtime or adapt to business trips due to physical reasons. .

Even the company will make you voluntarily resign in various disgusting ways without giving any compensation. Many people are already 22 years old after graduating from college, and the age of 30 or 40 is exactly when a person is at his most powerful. , but at this time he has become an outcast of society. Behind countless cold workplace cases, young people are frightened.

The lifespan of a short career is only a dozen years. If you want to avoid layoffs and optimization, you must find a way to make yourself financially free as much as possible before the age of 35, or work hard to pass the establishment examination. If you take the civil service examination, try your best to provide yourself with an iron rice bowl, otherwise you will easily suffer an economic crisis.

Even if you encounter an economic crisis, you have to repay the mortgage loan and the car loan. In addition, you have to support the elderly and educate the children. At this time, you have no income. You can imagine the situation then, and This is precisely the norm and status quo of today's society, so in this harsh workplace environment.

Young people are generally extremely anxious, and this anxiety will in turn affect young people’s marriage rates, fertility rates, and even their willingness to get married. Therefore, instead of creating unlimited pressure on yourself, let yourself face it In such a desperate situation, it is better to choose not to marry and have children, to have no desires and desires, and to be drunk now.

Compared with that uncertain future, it is better to live well in the present. It doesn’t matter whether you get married or not, and it doesn’t matter whether you have children or not. Buying a house or a car and putting yourself under heavy financial pressure is not what you want. life, reduce desires, and allow yourself to cope with the high-intensity pressure and cruel reality of society at the lowest cost.

This mentality has become the common choice of more and more young people, and it has also become the common mentality of many people born in 1995 and born in 2000. Unmarried, infertile, and homeless They have no desire for anything, and even choose DINK. Rather than choosing to lie down, it is better to say that high-intensity social pressure and cruel competition anxiety made them completely choose to give up!