How should I reflect on myself every day?

Cook words into medicine, and only through self-reflection can you be yourself

Everyone has been constantly understanding the world since birth. We continue to learn, make progress, and learn again... In this process, we learn a lot of things, such as scientific and cultural knowledge, aesthetics, getting along with others, etc. But we often rarely know ourselves and always avoid knowing one side of ourselves. Because to know yourself, you have to accept yourself, discover and correct your shortcomings, but this process is not that easy.

When Einstein was a child, he was as playful as most children, and his mother often worried about it. His mother's repeated admonitions were ignored by him. One morning, his father stopped Einstein who was about to go fishing by the river and told him this story:

My father said: "Yesterday, my neighbor Uncle Jack and I went to sweep the chimney. You can only climb up the chimney by stepping on the steel ladder inside. When we came down, it was still your Uncle Jack who was in the front and me in the back. When we came out, I noticed something strange. Something happened: Your Uncle Jack’s face and body were covered with chimney ashes, but there was only a small amount of powder on my body.”

My father continued to smile and said, “I felt so sad when I saw your Uncle Jack’s appearance. Thinking that I was just like him, my face was stained like a clown on the stage, so I went to the river and washed my face again and again. When Uncle Jack came out of the chimney, he saw that my face was very clean, and he thought he was just like me. , so I just washed my hands and went out to the street. As a result, people on the street were so happy that they thought your Uncle Jack was a madman!”

After hearing the story, Einstein said: I couldn't help but burst into laughter with my father. After laughing, his father solemnly told Einstein: "Actually, no one else can be your mirror, only you are your own mirror!" Einstein may have had an epiphany, which changed his life.

In daily life, it is difficult for us to reflect on ourselves all the time. Especially in today's era, the accelerated pace of life makes it difficult for us to have time to calm down and reflect. In fact, the ancients already had ways to deal with knowing yourself and yourself. The ancients often talked about self-cultivation, which is actually a process of self-understanding and self-improvement. "I will examine my life three times in a day" means to make an appropriate evaluation of myself, not to cover up my faults or shortcomings, and to restore my true self. Sometimes this process is happy, but sometimes it is very painful. Only by deeply analyzing yourself can you understand your own shortcomings and find breakthrough points for improvement and progress.

We are our own mirror, which does not mean that we cannot measure ourselves against the standards of others. Instead, we must look at it comprehensively from a development perspective and not be one-sided, otherwise we will "make a joke" like Uncle Jack. As the saying goes, "Onlookers are clear, but those in authority are confused." Different perspectives and different directions of thinking will lead to different results. Therefore, in life, we must not only learn to criticize and self-criticize, but also be good at understanding, analyzing and understanding ourselves from others' evaluations of ourselves. "Go your own way and let others say it" does not mean that we don't need other people's opinions. People who are good at understanding themselves will not only go their own way and let others say it, but they will also listen to what others say and think about themselves. How to change.

Only those who know themselves can be self-reliant and self-reliant, and only themselves are the designers of their own happiness in life.