Show off and turn into a joke

It is not difficult to find that people who love to show off can be seen everywhere in life:

Showing off his father as a government official; Show off your children's excellent grades; Show off the expensive watches and bags that my husband bought for himself; Show off the delicious food you eat … ..

Showing off is everywhere, only you can't think of it, and you can't show off without him.

If someone wears a pair of designer shoes, he has to fly. He takes off his shoes to show off in front of everyone.

I saw a video on the internet: the poor boy bought a new car and went back to the village, deliberately blocking it in the middle of the road to show off, and the result was very embarrassing.

Because after he entered the village, he found that some people who grew up together were polishing their BMWs, some were polishing their Audi, and some were parked on the side, and each car was higher than his grade.

And they usually ride tricycles and battery cars and never show off.

The superiority that the young man had been trying to show off before is gone.

Some people hit the nail on the head: still too young, all raised by a village head. There is absolutely no need to show off in front of the big guys.

The so-called youth is the immaturity of the mind.

As the saying goes: a bucket of water is silent, and half a bucket of water shakes.

The less mature people are, the lower their cognitive level is, and the more they like to show off in front of others, for fear that others will not know.

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The less knowledgeable people like to show off.

The fable "Show Off" tells such a thing.

Italian jeweler Maliki went to London to attend the gem auction. He saw an ordinary old man sitting next to him, wearing a watch with several gems.

Moleki asked, "Is your gem watch valuable?"

The old man smiled and told him that it was just an ordinary watch.

When he heard this, Moleki showed off how many precious stones he owned, regardless of others' cold eyes, and talked about the method of identifying precious stones.

Towards the end of the auction, Maliki took a peacock sapphire for 50,000 pounds.

When Melleki got the gem, the old man came up to him and said, "Just now you showed off that you are an expert in identifying gems. I didn't remind you, but I bought it without thinking of you. You spent at least twenty thousand pounds more on this gem. "

At this time, Moleki realized that the ordinary old man in front of him was Graf, a jewelry tycoon with 20 billion pounds and the richest man in the world jewelry industry.

Many of us will make the same mistakes as Moleckey, such as frogs in the well. The less we know, the more we feel that we have seen the best and know the most, the more we love to show off and the more we love to be complacent.

Franklin said, "Lack of modesty is lack of knowledge."

The more knowledgeable people are, the more they know how to show off their wealth, and the more people are richer than themselves; If you show off your strength, there are many people who are stronger than yourself; If you show off your connections, the real big shots may not know you, but they will only know people who are better than themselves.

No one can claim to be the best in the world. They know that there are mountains outside the mountains and people outside.

The more knowledgeable people, the higher their cognitive level, the more they know that there is a wider unknown world outside themselves, the more modest they are, and they are not arrogant.

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The more self-righteous people are, the more they like to show off.

There is a kind of person who likes to show off because he thinks everyone else is a fool.

His ostentation is to fool others for fun, so as to gain inner superiority and satisfaction.

I once read a story about Ji Xiaolan and Little Shenyang.

Once, Ji Xiaolan and Xiao Shenyang were drinking in the garden when suddenly a dog came running. Small Shenyang asked in surprise: "Is it a wolf (assistant minister)? Is it a dog? "

At that time, Ji Xiaolan official residence assistant minister, small Shenyang official residence minister. Ji Xiaolan smiled casually: "Vertical tail is a wolf, and vertical (Shangshu) is a dog."

In order to achieve the purpose of insulting Ji Xiaolan, Xiao Shenyang deliberately pretended not to know about wolves or dogs and showed off himself. Therefore, Ji Xiaolan used the difference between a wolf and a dog to humiliate him. It's really clever, but it's too clever to be mistaken.

In the TV series Mr. Love, there is a plot that impressed me deeply.

When Lori was in charge of the hotel administration class, a colleague accidentally spilled a glass of orange juice on a female guest's skirt, and Luo Yue came to mediate.

Female guests took the opportunity to show off their skirts worth more than 30 thousand yuan. You can't lose them if they can't be washed.

The girl can see at a glance that this skirt is the latest style in Cavoli, but it's a high imitation, which has reached nine points.

Lori said: "The real washing label has two marks on its iron and only one underline on the internal label. Your skirt doesn't match. "

The female guests began to be arrogant. Lori said that there is a boutique street near the hotel, so you can ask a professional to identify it. Female guests dare not show off any more, saying that the skirt is only worth 3000 yuan.

It is not uncommon to show off your jokes by treating others as fools:

Showing off the delicious foreign water dragon fruit abroad, because foreign countries are red and China's water dragon fruit is white;

The young man spent 10 thousand yuan on a "Ferrari" black horse to show off everywhere. As a result, people found that it was transformed from a second-hand Geely dragon, but the logo of Ferrari prancing horse was posted on the back.

Schopenhauer said: "Showing off one's talent and intelligence is only an indirect way to laugh at others' stupidity and incompetence. "

The lower the cognitive level, the more self-righteous, the more self-righteous, and those who treat others as fools are real fools.

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What can a person show off more?

Explain what is missing in my heart.

There is a good saying: "The more a person shows off, the more he lacks."

The place where a person cares more is the place where he feels most inferior.

The more I feel inferior, the more I want to come to shattered glass by showing off. Because they don't want to be known, they will hide it by showing off.

Lu Zhiwen wrote in My Mortal Proverbs:

Why show off, because of attention;

Why pay attention to it, because of desire;

Why do you want it? Because of lack.

If you want to know what a person lacks in his heart, just look at what he shows off; If you want to know what a person feels inferior, just look at what he hides.

According to historical records, when Yan Ying, the short prime minister of Qi State, went out, his coachman sat under the hood, flogged four horses and shouted loudly, which attracted the general public to watch. He is very proud.

It happened that the driver's wife witnessed this scene and wanted to break up with him, which puzzled the driver.

The wife said, "Yan Ying was less than six feet tall (one foot in the Warring States period was equivalent to 22.5 centimeters now, and Yan Ying was less than 1.35 meters tall). As the prime minister of Qi, you have a prominent reputation but a deep expression. Aren't you ashamed to be a coachman, eight feet tall and arrogant? "

The more a person shows off, the more he expects.

The exploiter shows off his wealth, which shows how eager he is for money;

Ma Bao often shows off her children because she lacks spiritual sustenance and is eager for the attention and praise of friends around her.

Girls are crazy about taking beautiful photos, which shows that she lacks a person who knows herself, feels insecure and wants to seek comfort.

The lower the cognitive level, the more people want to show off in order to gain recognition from others and satisfy their vanity. Because they don't believe in gaining real confidence on their own.

Akutagawa Ryunosuke said in "River Children": "What we want to show off most is exactly what we don't have".

People with low cognitive level gain superiority by showing off themselves, but as we all know, another name for superiority is inferiority complex.

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People with higher cognitive level

The richer the heart.

The higher the cognitive level, the richer the heart. They live in their own spiritual world, never showing off or making public.

Farewell My Concubine, the top film in China, won the highest prize in the 46th Cannes Film Festival: the Palme d 'Or, and was selected as one of the global 100 films by Time magazine, with a douban score of 9.5.

The birth of a good movie is inseparable from a good script and a good story.

This film is based on Farewell My Concubine, a novel of the same name by Hong Kong writer Li Bihua.

Li Bihua's novels "Green Snake" and "Rouge Button" have been made into enduring films, and she herself won the Best Screenplay Award at the Hong Kong Film Awards.

It stands to reason that such a talented and well-born writer enjoys the reputation of "the first person in the world" and has his own capital and self-confidence, but Li Bihua keeps a low profile.

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Few people know her appearance and family background, because she insists on not revealing her true colors, never giving interviews to any media, and never participating in any publicity activities.

She said:

Don't be so curious about my face I am the kind of person who is not easily recognized in the crowd. There is nothing to describe. It is good for me to keep a proper distance from the outside world. I don't always remember my influence, I don't think about how many people are reading your words, and I don't always regard myself as a beacon of suffering, so I can write in a small way.

Lv Bihua's Don't Cry Oranges

Ji Xianlin wrote three laurels: master of Chinese studies, academic leader, national treasure, respect for teachers, numerous disciplines, and endless visitors.

In order to keep quiet, he will put up a notice on the door refusing to receive visitors. As for people calling him a "master of Chinese studies", he said that he was not even a "master of Chinese studies", let alone a "master"!

The higher the cognitive level, the less people care about others' affirmation, because they know that life is like drinking water, and you don't need to live in others' eyes and mouth. They have a normal heart, watching flowers bloom and fall, watching the ebb and flow of the tide.

People with rich hearts don't have to show off at all They don't like things, don't care about themselves, and live a leisurely life.

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Improve cognitive level

You need to do these three things.

People's cognitive level has four levels:

The first layer is not knowing that you don't know;

The second layer is knowing that you don't know;

The third layer is knowing that you know;

The fourth layer is not knowing that you know.

Fu Sheng

Most people who love to show off are at the first level of cognition, that is, they don't know.

For example, the young man who shows off his car just doesn't know that others have better cars than him; Another example is a female guest, showing off her skirt worth 30 thousand yuan. She doesn't know. She doesn't know that Luo Yue knows that brand.

If he knew that the villagers' cars were better than his, would he still show off? Similarly, if a female guest knows that Lori knows the goods, she will not show off.

Therefore, there are three suggestions to improve your cognitive level without showing off.

1, read more books

Reading is the lowest cost way to know yourself and the world.

Some people say: if you don't study for a day, no one can see; If you don't study for a week, it will start to explode; If you don't study in January, your IQ will be lost to pigs.

People who don't study, their cognitive level will stay on themselves and the people around them, of course, their knowledge is limited.

How modest a learned man is.

2. More experience

Experience more people and things, be well informed, and people's cognition will be improved. Walk into the crowd and don't avoid real life.

If you have seen the whole forest, you will not be confined to one tree. With more experience, you will mature.

3. Get to know more people who are better than you.

Have you ever found that people who love to show off always show off in front of people he thinks are not as good as him?

For example, if he has 6.5438+0 million, he will only show off in front of people who don't have 6.5438+0 million, not in front of people who have 6.5438+0 million, or even 100 million.

Get to know more people who are better than you, and you will realize your smallness and inadequacy, and your cognitive level will also rise.

Bacon said:

People who love to show off are despised by wise men, admired by fools, flattered by flatterers, and slaves of their boasting.

The higher the cognitive level, the less they will show off. Because their hearts are full and full, and they live the life they want.

May we all become people who don't show off, strong and humble, rich and magnanimous.