The origin of the word introversion

Introverted China's philosophy since ancient times holds that human nature is quiet. People in China advocate nature and emphasize the integration with nature, which is the so-called "harmony between man and nature".

When we stand in the boundless wilderness, in front of a winding stream and on a towering mountain, we will look at the quiet sky and listen to the sounds of nature.

How quiet this feeling will be. It's not interesting at all!

Nature is silent. What's wrong with people who advocate nature being silent?

There is nothing wrong with introverted personality. If possible, we hope the other half of the world can understand.

introverted personality is a legitimate and reasonable personality. There are two legitimate personalities in this world: extroversion and introversion.

Introversion is not a neurosis.

Introverts are no more prone to mental illness than others.

introversion is not antisocial.

introverts are not speechless.

introverts are better at listening.

there is no need to apologize to others for being alone.

introverts are not losers.

Justice for children who are misunderstood because of introversion.

don't let talkative extroverts disturb you while you are reading a good book.

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Introversion and extroversion are one dimension of personality, and there is no distinction between good and bad. Introversion and extroversion are a continuum, and they are at both ends of this continuum. In real life, we will use both sides of this continuum. Just like some netizens asked, "Why do I like to talk sometimes, but sometimes I don't like to talk?" In fact, this is the use of things on one side and things on the other side on another occasion. We have a natural preference for one side or the other. If we are more inclined to the extroverted side, we are extroverts, and those inclined to the introverted side are introverts. Someone is more extroverted, so his extroversion is more obvious; Someone is more introverted, so his introversion is more obvious. Similarly, someone will be right in the middle of this continuum, that is, his bias will account for 5% each. It doesn't mean that an introverted person is introverted at all times and all occasions. He can also be extroverted at some times and on some occasions, but he is introverted at most times and occasions. For another example, in fact, introversion and extroversion are like our left and right hands. Both our left and right hands must be used in life, but we are more accustomed to which hand to use. If you are an extrovert, then extroversion is like your right hand, and introversion is like your left hand. Just as you have to use your left hand sometimes, you will be introverted sometimes. Similarly, if you are an introvert, then introversion is like your right hand, extroversion is like your left hand, just as you have to use your left hand sometimes, you will be extroverted sometimes. (The above example assumes that we are all right-handed.)

Although there has been a long debate about whether there are more extroverts or introverts in the world, recent research shows that the number of introverts and extroverts among Americans is equal.

-----------. When faced with people they can't understand or need to pay more to understand, they often choose to give up.

As a social animal, introverts often want to integrate into society, but they lack various means or cannot overcome some of their own shortcomings. Extroverts can gain more resources and recognition, and are often more likely to be in a higher position, while introverts are often difficult to gain group recognition, resulting in frustration.

At this time, an interesting phenomenon is formed. Introverts are often labeled as "losers". As a group, just like the disabled, they are discriminated against because of their own defects. The difference is that disability is usually considered to be unchangeable, while introversion is considered to be caused by its own reasons. This kind of discrimination is most obvious when women choose men (or men choose women) (this is another big topic, so I won't describe it here).

The reasons for the formation of introverted personality are very complicated, which cannot be explained by the phrase "formed by many wrong solutions". The most direct statement is that introversion and extroversion are relative, and half of them are always "less extroverted" than the other half. They are often called introverts (of course, I admit that this is not a good statement, and there are other statements, but I don't think that is the essence of the problem, so I don't want to mention it).

I am an introverted person, but this does not prevent me from expressing my views. I think I know people's thoughts better than extroverts to some extent. I think people are kind by nature, and I can clearly understand my own advantages and disadvantages, but I prefer to express myself modestly, which may be considered as not confident enough. I don't think others deliberately snubbed me. Although I was snubbed a lot, I always thought it was because I didn't perform well enough. Indeed, I prefer to bear the pressure myself rather than tell others, but this is only limited to the private sphere.

There has always been a big misunderstanding. I remember someone once asked me, if you introverted friends sit together, wouldn't you stare at each other and not say a word for a long time? To tell the truth, in my impression, when I am with them, I should be hearty rather than talkative. Introverts don't have no opinions in their hearts, introverts don't have nothing to talk about, introverts may lack humor, introverts may lack courage, but they are always rich in their hearts.

if you refuse to be introverted, you may not become better! But there will definitely be more people who think you are excellent!

-----------. No matter what causes the introverted personality, we can divide it into two types, that is, as the title says, true introversion and false introversion.

what is true introversion? The mother of a child came to me with her son and was very anxious when talking about her child. His son is going to junior high school now, and he was not very lively since he was a child. At that time, he thought it was nothing, but he would be fine when he grew up. However, with the growth of age, the child has not changed at all, but it has become more and more serious. At school, the teacher reflected that he was timid and introverted, never spoke in class, rarely spent time with other students, and was a loner. Parents and teachers have talked about this problem several times, and there is nothing they can do. Get to know the situation by talking to the child. It turned out that the child was divorced from his parents and lived in a single-parent family. He had a sense of inferiority in his heart, was confused about the present and future life, and rarely communicated with his mother at ordinary times. In such an environment, he developed a withdrawn character. When asked why he didn't talk to other students, he replied, "I don't like to communicate with others. I like to be alone and don't want to get in touch with the outside world." Parents are very worried about this. What should they do if they go to the society in the future? No matter how high the degree is, what about not being in contact with the outside world? Finally, the mother of the child wants to keep her son and take part in the training of "Psychological Quality" course, hoping to change her son's situation. Seeing the child's unwilling expression, we politely refused ...

From this case, we seem to see a really introverted figure, which has the following characteristics: 1. Do not actively contact with the outside world, and in a passive situation, maybe just deal with it; 2, don't want to contact with others, lack of interest in interacting with people; 3. There is no urgent need to change your wishes.

what is false introversion? False introversion can be said that among introverts, the proportion is relatively high and it is also relatively common. We may have met such people in our life, who are eloquent and eloquent in front of their close people, but when they come into contact with strangers on strange occasions, they are speechless. During the telephone call, a student asked us for help: she is a college student, usually quiet, introverted, and has few friends for several years. She really hopes to talk and laugh like other students and have many friends. But I feel uncomfortable, nervous and blushing in front of my classmates. She also said that she really wanted to communicate with others and make friends, but she never had the courage, didn't know what to say, what topic to talk about and asked for help.

First of all, we can judge that her situation belongs to false introversion from the telephone call she received, because she has the most typical characteristic: she is eager to change herself. Secondly, it is eager to contact and communicate with others; Poor psychological quality, accompanied by shyness and nervousness, prevented her from contacting the outside world.

from the above two examples, it is not difficult to see that the difference between true introversion and false introversion lies in whether there is an urgent need to change your wishes. Among the many introverted students who come to the center for training, most of them are also fake introverted friends. Whether to change or not means that in the training process, one is to cope with it with all one's strength and the other is to cooperate with teaching with all one's strength, and the effect is naturally different. So before we accept students, there is a clear condition: change yourself urgently! This is the responsibility for the students, but also the maintenance of the long-term reputation of the center.

Therefore, if you are still struggling on the cliff of pain ... then, while someone can help you, you need to stretch out your hand and grasp the reins of fate to reach the other side of victory!

As an introvert, it may be really difficult to change, because for us introverts, our biggest enemy is ourselves! Instead of always being regarded as "losers", why don't we work hard to win back a breath for us introverts?

I often remind myself to work hard and refuel. Even if there is nothing, at least we should have a goal. Maybe we have lost our way, but we can tell ourselves that "no one in the world can predict the future!" So we should learn to be brave. Perhaps tears have become a habit for people of our character, including me, but instead of wasting time, don't work hard! Maybe it can't change anything, but at least we can grow in pain! Maybe we feel that our shortcomings outweigh our advantages in our hearts, but we can think of something happy, such as jokes, at least loneliness is not as good as emptiness! .............

To believe that "there will always be a rainbow after the storm" and "I don't know what will happen tomorrow today", if others know how to cherish and trust you, you must cherish and believe in yourself first! I hope people of our character can work together! Come on together!

As an introvert, I may feel distressed and embarrassed more easily and look forward to changing myself. We believe that introverts are in great need of help, but another situation is actually emerging in society. For example, banks will lend a lot of money to enterprises with good performance to make them grow stronger, but on the contrary, they will leave enterprises with declining performance to fend for themselves. In today's society and schools, part-time jobs or clubs will arrange interviews to sweep out introverts and leave training positions for extroverts. In this way, we find that introverts are actually hard to change, because the competition of the jungle is cruel. Therefore, introverted friends should actually organize their own clubs spontaneously, so that everyone can get exercise here. The clubs should pay more attention to the development of extremely introverted friends, so that everyone can feel the love and warmth between people here. It is difficult to lose weight, and it is also difficult to change introverted personality. Compulsory weight loss will have a good effect, and introversion also needs compulsory change-but based on love-because I love you, I want you to change. Introverts should also strengthen their cultivation of morality and knowledge. When a person has achievements in morality and knowledge, he will naturally have the confidence to speak, and naturally make himself stand in the hearts of others-in fact, the most important factor of success is not personality, but quality.