Hunan Parents Classroom｜Cultivating filial and excellent children is inseparable from the words and deeds of parents

After parents have children, they basically worry about their children for the rest of their lives, but the results they get may be extremely disappointing.

Some old people were all-powerful when they were young, but when they get old, they can only spend the rest of their lives alone in nursing homes; there are also some old people who have suffered all the hardships in life, but in old age they are fortunate to have their children and grandchildren around them. The happiness of family reunion is really rare.

In China, filial piety is the basic virtue of a child. When parents get old, they should bear the responsibility of providing for them. That’s why some people always say: A child’s internal maturity or external success will all be determined. The quality of life of his parents in old age.

Our teachers in Yifu Yihan often say: Whether happiness in old age is inseparable from children.

There is a type of children who are like flowers in a greenhouse. Even when they grow up, they still look like they have never experienced big storms. They have no solutions to problems and have to rely on their parents for many things.

If you observe carefully, you will find that such children are not independent because they have been doted on by their parents. The parents have worked hard for their children all their lives, and the children have enjoyed it, but have lost their ability to be independent.

It can be seen that the methods parents use to educate their children will directly affect their own old age.

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Parents lack the company of their children, and the children grow up to be indifferent

This sad thing often happens: parents have to make money to support the family and bear the expensive expenses of their children. Due to the tuition fees, I had to leave my young children to work hard, so I could only leave the children with their grandparents. I didn’t expect that the children would always hold a grudge in their hearts when they grew up, blaming their parents for not accompanying them when they were young.

Isn’t it a kind of love to give children enough material things? However, if this kind of love lacks companionship, and children lack the nourishment of their parents' love, they will think that money is a way to express love, and they will easily take their parents' material contributions for granted.

Children cannot see how hard their parents work to make money, and cannot feel the care and love their parents have for them. Such children are often absent from their parents in their later years, as if there is no love between them at all. , I would rather use money to support my parents than spend a little more time with my parents and talk to them. I think this is just like the way parents treated their children.

Parents who were absent during their children’s childhood are also rewarded by their children’s absence in later life. These elderly people will feel lonely when they live alone.

Children from some families are more understanding of their parents’ difficulties. On the other hand, let’s look at some children who don’t have that much material wealth, but know how to care about and be filial to their parents.

Their parents prepare three meals or dinner at home every day, and the family happily eats dinner and tells jokes, in which the children feel the happy atmosphere of the family and experience enough warmth.

Parents who provide enough companionship and care will help their children understand what true love is and what a happy family looks like. When their parents grow old, their children will also respond with "warm love".

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Be a role model for children’s growth

When Yifu Yihan held parent courses, it was discovered that some parents did not care enough for their own parents. I don’t go home very often in a year, and every time I just give up my money and get started.

It is said that parents are children’s first teachers. Children are influenced by their parents and they will also think that money is the best way to express love. The way you treat your parents will also affect the way your children treat you in old age.

Other parents who know how to be grateful to their parents often take their children to visit their elders, so that their children can realize from an early age that their parents love their grandparents and grandparents. Quite a few.

In a big family, everyone cares about each other and often gets together. In this environment, children will also know how to love and care for others. They will also know that filial piety is not just maintained by money, but requires specific actions and true companionship.

How to raise a child who is both filial and outstanding?

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Raising a filial and outstanding child is inseparable from the words and deeds of parents.

Accompany your children and never miss their growth

Parents and children get along day and night, accompanying and trusting each other, which is the key to raising an outstanding child! Life goes by very quickly, and it is difficult to make up for the lack of companionship when children are young when they grow up.

Be a good role model for your children

Parents must first be what they want their children to be. If you want your children to be filial in their old age, please don’t forget to treat your parents Filial piety. Leading by example is the best way to educate. We should set an example for our children and let them know how to be grateful and filial. This is the best guarantee for our own life in old age.

China Yifu Yihan personalized education would like to tell everyone: No child is born filial and excellent, and it is indispensable for our parents to teach by words and deeds. Only when our parents grow up slowly can we become the guide for our children. In the future, when we grow old, our children will become our support.