Wang: Why should I persuade others to make a will?

First of all, I want to ask you a question: Do you think the will is important?

I saw our scene. Although everyone's face is young, about two-thirds of our friends raised their hands. Like me, you think the will is very important.

I have carefully read all the cases of wills disputes in Beijing Gaofa 20 16, and more than 70% of them are caused by intestacy. Some old mothers sue their children, some younger brothers sue their older brothers, and some couples sue each other.

I don't think any of them thought that I would come to this state of life and I would sue my relatives. And all the family ties are unconsciously involved in the whirlpool of interests.

When the smoke clears, all the stories of dog blood are finally human tragedies and jokes in the eyes of others. There are no winners here, let alone survivors.

And solving this huge human tragedy, or unnecessary pain, is actually very simple, that is, writing a will.

I want to ask everyone, has anyone written a will, please raise your hand? Like 99% of my friends at the scene, I didn't write it.

I'm a writer, but I didn't write either. Why? Why do we all think it's important and necessary, but we haven't done it?

I've thought about this problem seriously. Finally, I found that writing a will is really the hardest article in the world.

The first difficulty: facing death.

People in China are very taboo about talking about life and death.

My grandmother brought me up when I was young. She will tell me with an authentic Jiaodong accent: children should not talk about death and life.

Especially during the Chinese New Year, if you accidentally say such a taboo word, you should say it three times quickly: bah, if you are naive, you will live a long life; Bah, the child's words are unscrupulous and live a long life; Bah bah, children will live a long life by whatever means they say. And then you'll be fine.

Is it childish?

However, we are so naive in dealing with death, the biggest problem and the biggest fear in our lives.

However, can it really escape death?

I never dreamed of it. I will lose my husband when I am thirty-four. However, death is so real, suddenly, it happened.

He and I are both young and healthy. How could he die? There are so many people in the world. Why did this happen to me? I didn't grow up. Every time I talk about some taboo words, I sincerely say: Bah, childish words, long life?

Why, my husband, will he die? When the undertaker cleaned up my husband's body. I stood beside him and watched his every move without blinking an eye. Then I touched him, from his hair to his toes.

This process has been repeated in my mind for the next six months, repeated, repeated. So this is death.

I gradually accepted the disappearance of my body and the change of this state. But I still can't figure it out. I will send a message to my good friend in the middle of the night: Hey, where did you say he went?

For a long time, I really couldn't find a reason to continue living.

Forgive me for dreaming too little. I don't want to be an entrepreneur, I just want to be a good wife and mother.

At that moment, my world view collapsed. It was not until a month after my husband died that a friend of ours called me.

She said: Xiao Yu, I dreamed of him. He was wearing a red hoodie, squinting and smiling, just like before.

A friend asked him, do you have any regrets in your life? He said: Xiao Yu has no wedding. The friend asked again: If so, what would it be like?

He said: The best place is at the railway station. How wonderful it was to see her at first sight in the crowd.

I began to believe that my husband and I would meet again. People you meet will always meet again, won't they? When I die, I firmly believe that he will stand there waiting for me and give me a warm and big hug.

If I can live to be 60, I still have 25 years. What new changes will take place in the world in these twenty-five years? I'll write it down in detail and tell him. He is an entrepreneur who likes new things and innovation very much.

When we meet again, I will be more confident, more interesting and more beautiful than now!

This is how I learned to face death from the age of 34, from a plane crash in my life.

Me too, starting with facing death. For the first time, I seriously thought about what is worth doing and what I should do in the next 25 years.

What about you, everyone here? Have you started to face death? When we don't know which comes first, tomorrow or accident, shouldn't we do something first?

The second difficulty: wealth

Gentlemen, do you really know how much property you have in your name? Or I can put it another way: How much are you worth?

A guitar and an old dog, it's worth it. How much balance do you have on the bank cards scattered between this bank and that bank?

How much are your options, stocks and equity worth now? What percentage of your house and car really belong to you? Your Weibo account number, micro signal and QQ number; Your account number in the glory of the king; Your League of Legends account; Your article, your blog; Your music, your creation, are these all the treasures of your life?

So, how much are you worth?

Maybe a friend wanted to laugh, and he said, I'm sorry, I didn't say that. Congratulations. You also have the most important variable to create a net worth of billions-time.

Please do three simple arithmetic problems with me.

The first arithmetic problem:

Please silently calculate your minimum monthly living expenses. What will it be? Then please imagine again, how old may you live? Please multiply this cost of living by the remaining months, and the figure you get is the minimum wealth you need to earn in your life.

The second arithmetic problem:

Do you have a dream? What else do you want to experience? How much will it cost? Please add this in. This is the life you need enough, jumping, working hard and fighting for. Expect wealth value.

The third arithmetic problem:

What's your monthly income now? Please separate the first two figures. This is the time when you can retire if you continue to work in your current job.

When I started my will project, I met every good friend of mine, and I would kindly remind Ta: Have you made a will? Do you want to do some arithmetic problems and write a composition with me?

A good friend of mine accepted my suggestion and joined the will project. When we met again a month later, the first thing he said to me was: Do you know? Writing a will seems to have cured my depression.

You see, the solution of trouble is sometimes simple. Just need you and yourself to solve a few math problems.

The third difficulty: who?

The last question about writing a will is that I have struggled all my life. Who will I leave the rest of my wealth to? Or I can ask you a question now. Can you ask yourself: If I die now, who else do I want to be kind to? Who else do I want to love? Who else do I want to be responsible for

That's why I started Project Will.

Let's stop being ostriches. Don't repeat the old mantra of "Bah Bah, children's words are unbridled, live a long life". Let's talk to death.

The world is what you believe.

Source of this article: Yiou, columnist (Yu Dongwei)

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