The sign of a woman deciding to give up on a man (this is the most obvious sign)

"Tomorrow in Kersville" tells us:

"In fact, the real farewell, without the pavilion and the ancient road, without urging you to drink another glass of wine, is in a normal morning. , some people stay in yesterday."

Think deeply.

When a person really makes up his mind to leave another person.

There is no imaginary noise and no imaginary heaviness.

Some people are just silent, as if they have been pressed on the "mute button".

Then, there are no afterthoughts.

01. Really leaving, no sound

When browsing Moments, you will often see such dynamics:

“Those who leave without saying a word” "Can you tell me before you delete my friend?"

In recent years, when WeChat released new features, some netizens commented, hoping to add the function of deleting friends.

But the reality is that, let alone functions, even a small deletion reminder cannot satisfy it.

Because on those nights when the "delete button" is pressed, there is often no sound.

Just like parting in love.

In 2017, "Predecessor Strategy 3" was released.

The movie's ratings are not high and its reputation is not very good either.

However, it was such a movie that made many people cry in the cinema.

The reason is simple. These spectators more or less see their own shadow in the hero.

In the movie, the heroine Lin Jia and the hero Meng Yun are a couple.

The two have been together for five years, and Lin Jia has watched Meng Yun grow from the big boy he once was to a mature, gentle, and independent man.

Unfortunately, such a man is her past, but not her future.

Once, Meng Yun told Lin Jia:

"If I don't want you, then I will pretend to be the Supreme Treasure and shout 10,000 times on the busiest street: I love you In Lin Jia."

Lin Jia responded:

"Then if I don't want you, I will eat mangoes and die of allergies."

At that time. , they love each other deeply.

I didn’t expect that the joke at the time would turn this relationship into a "joke".

In this long-distance love race, one party is stubborn and the other is unwilling to compromise.

In the end, it lengthened time and the distance between them.

Then, a classic scene appeared in the movie.

On the crowded street, Meng Yun dressed up as the Supreme Treasure, crying and calling Lin Jia, I love you.

On the other side, I decided to leave Meng Yuncheng and Lin Jiacheng. I sat in front of the sofa, crying too, eating mango until I had an allergic red spot on my body.

See , people who have loved, what a tacit understanding.

We will still keep our promises, but we will not let the other party know, and we will not disturb the other party again.

Just like this song goes:

"It's very honorable to leave, so that I can live up to the picture of loving passionately and conscientiously over the years. Don't let obsession ruin yesterday." , I loved you, neatly and simply.”

You don’t need to say it, and I don’t need to answer it.

Leave clean and decent.

02. Really leave, think deeply

I saw this conversation online.

Someone asked a master why his beloved left suddenly.

The master replied:

"It's not sudden, it's all a carefully considered choice."

That's what happened.

All the momentum to leave is actually a temptation.

A real departure has no goodbyes, no haste, but only careful consideration.

It's also the movie "The Ex-Raiders 3".

Before Lin Jia decided to leave Meng Yun, he had countless hesitations and trials.

That day, Lin Jia was in the living room, pulling three luggage back and forth.

But in fact, there was nothing in the suitcase. In fact, she left some things behind and did not move them away.

And the reason why she did this was simply The reason is that she didn't completely let go, and she didn't really want to leave. She just left some time and some opportunities for Meng Yun to keep her.

But Meng Yun was destined to disappoint her.

Due to the so-called face, or his confidence in this relationship, Meng Yun did not stay. He just watched Lin Jia leave without saying a word.

After receiving the shipping address from Lin Jia, Meng Yun just replied with a simple "ok".

People often say that in a relationship, a woman will fall in love deeper and deeper, while a man will fall in love shallower and shallower.

Lin Jia is no exception.

So, before she really made up her mind, she gave Meng Yun several "steps", but Meng Yun didn't take the step down.

After being together for so long, Meng Yun knew that Lin Jia was prone to catching colds when the seasons changed. When it came time for Lin Jia to catch a cold and have a fever, Meng Yun not only did not deliver the medicine in person, but also gave up the opportunity to others. WeChat I typed half of them, but deleted them all.

When Lin Jia learned that Meng Yun had a new girlfriend and cried sadly, Meng Yun, who rushed in in a hurry, once again missed the chance to save Lin Jia. He was attracted by the pair of men's leather shoes at the door. Scared away, not having the courage to open that door.

What Meng Yun did reminded me of Higashino Keigo’s words:

“As long as you give up once, you will develop the habit of giving up, and problems that could have been solved will also It becomes irresolvable."

It was Meng Yun's giving up again and again that made Lin Jia look down on this relationship.

After careful consideration, I finally left.

No goodbyes, no more entanglements.

03. Love is not afraid of being late, love is only afraid of missing it

Haruki Murakami once said:

“I don’t know why, but the right words always come too late. , Missing the most appropriate opportunity."

He still loves her, but he doesn't want to talk about it.

Obviously I will regret it, but I still hesitate.

But one day you will know that time is not enough, and your lover will not always stay where you are, waiting for you to look back.

Thinking of "Sahara" I reviewed a few days ago.

Sanmao wrote in the book that when he first decided to marry Jose, he told him that they had different nationalities and different personalities, and they might quarrel in the future when they get married.

At that moment, Jose responded to her like this:

"I know you have a bad temper, but you have a good heart. Quarrels and fights may happen, but we still have to get married."

So, seven years after knowing each other, they finally got married.

After marriage, Hexi learned Chinese with the help of Sanmao.

In this regard, Sanmao wrote:

"Poor foreigner, I have taught him the word "renren" so many times, but he still can't tell the difference. I can only tell him what he said. , this matter finally let him go, but in the future, children will have to learn Chinese even if they die, which he quite agrees with."

Everyone knows what happened next.

Sanmao and Jose have no future and no children.

It’s not that they don’t love each other, nor do they miss each other, they are just teased by fate.

Therefore, whenever I see lovers in the world, because of their stubbornness and so-called face, they miss each other and let the other person leave with regret, I will feel sorry for them.

For some people, ten thousand years is too long and they only seize the day.

And some people, even though they have ten thousand years, they are still wasting it.

How luxurious?

Fortunately, not everyone does not know how to cherish.

On March 2, some media photographed actor Wang Yanlin having a dinner with his friends, accompanied by a female companion.

The two drank a drink together and behaved intimately.

Not long after, Wang Yanlin admitted his relationship on Weibo, and his girlfriend was fellow actress Ai Jiani.

It is worth mentioning that the two are not only peers, but also classmates.

It turns out that Wang Yanlin and Ai Jiani were once college sweethearts, but later they broke up due to various unknown reasons.

But in the end, just as Wang Yanlin said in the official announcement:

"The name engraved in my heart cannot be missed for a while, but not for a lifetime."

The earth is so big, we go around it again and again.

Unfortunately, I have missed you.

Fortunately, I never want to miss you again.

04.

There is such a passage on the Internet:

“Those who really want to leave will only choose a sunny afternoon to wrap themselves up. The most commonly worn coat goes out and never comes back."

How indulgent a person is when he loves you, how determined he is when he leaves you.

What you can save is always the person who still loves you.

And when you really don’t love someone anymore and let them go, you won’t have any chance to get her back.

She will just pick an ordinary day and disappear from your world without saying hello.

True love, don’t tell it too late.

True love, don’t let your lover be discouraged.

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