How much is the bride price appropriate and how to decide?

Coordinate Guangdong, where the bride price is about 30 thousand.

I think the bride price can be a touchstone of love or a stumbling block. Because I think everything has two sides. From the perspective of the woman's family, the bride price is the touchstone of love. From the point of view of the man's family, this bride price may be a stumbling block, especially for families with difficult family economic conditions, not because they don't want to give it, but because they can't afford it. Therefore, I suggest that both families decide how much bride price to give or how much to ask according to their actual economic situation, and don't care too much about this amount.

Let's talk about the examples around me:

I have a best friend's sister whose family just broke up because of the bride price. In the end, I can only choose to part ways.

The thing is: my best friend's sister got pregnant before marriage, and then their family started talking about the wedding bride price. The man's parents think that since the woman is pregnant, she should not accept the bride price. The woman's parents think that no one around her will lose money when she marries her daughter, and there is no money for the bride price, which will make people laugh. I also ordered a bride price of 28 thousand, and no one will marry. This price belongs to our local market price.

Because both parents are stubborn, the man's family economy belongs to the more difficult side. What disappoints my best friend and sister most is that her boyfriend is cold and indifferent. His idea at that time was that since the woman had it, she would definitely marry, so he supported his parents' idea. The final result of this incident was that the woman did not compromise and let her daughter give birth to the child and raise it herself.

So far, the child 12 years old. Perhaps at that time, the parents of both sides could make appropriate concessions, which would not have caused today's situation. Presumably, it is a pity that children grow up without father's love.

Finally, I hope that friends who are about to enter the marriage hall, when talking about bride price, must be rational and actively communicate, and attitude can really decide everything.