How to correctly guide children to get along with other children

There will inevitably be some friction in the communication between children. What kind of attitude should parents take when children encounter this problem? Look at what the article says!

There will inevitably be some friction in the communication between children. What kind of attitude should parents take when children encounter this problem? Look at what the article says!

0 1, keywords: disdain

Age: 5 years old 1 month

Gender: male

Bao, a five-year-old boy, has been puzzled recently. The teacher often gives feedback: he is very disdainful of many things. For example, in kindergarten, he had an argument with his children or said something unpleasant to others. The teacher said that if you go on like this, no one will want to be your friend, so he put his arms around him and cocked his head: No more playing, no more friends, no more friends ... In this way, he often chokes people. He is more mature than his peers, and sometimes he wants to play with them, but he doesn't like the childish games they play. Is there any good way?

Answer: Hello, if you have been learning positive discipline, I will answer with you in a positive discipline way.

1 and 5-year-old children should be in the exchange period and are looking forward to playing games with them. You also said that sometimes children want to play with friends, but they think others are naive. In fact, in my opinion, children may not be able to integrate into other people's games and don't know how to play with others, so they say they don't want to play, but the real purpose behind children is to use this sentence to cover up their inner hurt and negation. He doesn't want to admit that he can't join other people's games.

2. The teacher criticized him, saying that if he played like this, the children would stop playing, but this is not what the children really think. Children need help most at this time, and adults need to teach him how to have fun with others.

The fact that children always feel bullied by others proves this. The child's heart is particularly sensitive. If he is a little unhappy, he will feel particularly uncomfortable, but he dare not show it. He can only be angry or feel bullied by others. Children don't have a particularly good understanding of communication, and there is no good way.

So to sum up, what a mother needs to do is to teach her children the correct way of communication and stop criticizing their behavior. There are specific answers in the three thousand questions, which I recommend to you.

In addition, every time a child has a wrong behavior, you can ask yourself how you feel, and then find the wrong purpose of the child from your own feelings, so that the problem can be solved. One of the most common purposes of children is to pursue a sense of belonging and value. Mothers should also give their children a sense of belonging, unconditionally accept their behavior, meet the expectations behind their children, and make them feel more secure. Children will become more peaceful and tolerant.

02, Keywords: development direction

Age: April, 5 years old

Gender: male

My son is over five years old. He likes watching gourd dolls and black cat sheriff. I asked him why he liked them. He said he wanted to learn skills from them and catch bad guys and monsters. In kindergarten, the teacher also said that children have strength and are suitable for practicing martial arts. I have always wanted my children to learn martial arts. Why does he like martial arts? The father also said that the child is brave and will become a military commander in the future. They say they are three years old. Is there any basis for this? How to better guide children's development? Some parents let their children develop their strengths and avoid their weaknesses. I think what we are looking at now is comprehensive quality. I don't know the direction of educating children? Please ask Sister Miao to point out the maze. Thank you very much.

Answer: Hello, first of all, your family is a boy. Even if you want him to take the road of literature and art in the future, don't let him lose the momentum of a man. You don't want your child to look like a literary man, do you? Well, in this case, boys should be boys. If the child is a lively child, you can learn more sports interest classes. But remember, this is just an interest class, not learning this now. In the future, this child will be engaged in this profession. When children are young, the two most important things are to cultivate their learning ability and hobbies. Parents should do well in these two aspects. As for the children who grow up in the future, they should take the road of literature or martial arts.

The so-called "three years old" does not mean that you can see that your child will follow martial arts in the future, but that you can cultivate your child's awareness before the age of three and his habits before the age of six, so that his child will do well in whatever job he is engaged in in in the future.

03, Keywords: intergenerational education

Age: 2 years and 6 months

Gender: Female

What if the old man always lets his children watch cartoons?

Answer: Hello, I don't know whether children especially like watching cartoons or whether the elderly always take the initiative to show cartoons to their children. If children like to watch, the elderly only allow children to watch. There are detailed answers in the three thousand questions, which I recommend to you.

If the elderly take the initiative to show it to their children, you can explain the disadvantages of watching cartoons to the elderly and discuss some rules with them, such as how much time to show cartoons to children every day and what cartoons to watch. And then let the elderly supervise the implementation. In addition, if the elderly let the children watch it, the children may not know how to play with them, so it is convenient to leave it to TV. If this is the case, we can teach the elderly and children to play some games, or let the elderly take their children to play outdoors. In short, you won't create an environment for children to watch TV.

04, Keywords: prenatal education

Age: less than 1 month

Gender: Female

How to carry out effective prenatal education? Are there any classes in this field? I didn't find it.

Answer: hello, there is no subject class in this field for the time being. I can give you some advice on prenatal education:

1, prenatal education should last for the whole pregnancy, with the mother adjusting in the early stage and prenatal education for the baby in the later stage. In the early stage, the mother adjusted the routine to keep her mood calm, and the mother noticed that the baby was angry in her stomach. Therefore, it is the best prenatal education to keep the child in a happy and peaceful state throughout pregnancy and develop a good routine, so that the child can easily form a regular routine after birth and will not be too tired.

2. After about 15 weeks, the baby can perceive the sound in the uterus and feel the mother's talking, breathing, coughing and even snoring, so at this time, the mother can communicate with the baby more, read some story books and sing to the baby.

After 3.24 weeks, the baby can hear the outside world and interact well. At this time, play some relaxing music to the baby, and dad should also participate, chat with the baby and read stories at a fixed time every day. Things can be taught to dad. As for the early education after the baby is born, what you do for the baby during pregnancy can still be continued, such as listening to music, reading stories and chatting, and don't change. When children are young, they mainly eat and drink Lazarus, so it is very important to develop good life rules for their babies.

Therefore, the most important thing is that you keep a good work and rest, and a happy mood is the best prenatal education.

05, Keywords: care about other people's evaluation

Age: 5 years, 65438+2 months.

Gender: male

Hello, Sister Miao, I think my son is particularly concerned about what others say about him. Because of children's physical reasons, they often need injections. When he goes to school after the injection, he will take off the injection tape at the school gate so that the teacher can't see it. In addition, sometimes the teacher criticizes him, and he will tell me that he doesn't like the teacher. If he is occasionally criticized at home, he will be very emotional. Similarly, how do you think I should guide him?

Answer: hello, is it because the child has been laughed at by others and has been psychologically hurt, so he will pay special attention to this matter? You can talk to your child specifically. Why is he afraid of being seen by the teacher? Are you afraid that the teacher will know that he is in poor health? Or are you afraid that your classmates will laugh at him and think that he loves to get sick? It is most important to ask your child what he thinks, otherwise guessing alone may not really help your child. You can communicate with your child in this way first, find out the real thoughts in your child's heart, and then come here to ask questions. Maybe you can already find the answer in your communication with your children.

In addition, it is normal to be criticized, not to mention 5-year-old children, even adults will feel uncomfortable when they hear criticism. So what you have to do is not to prohibit children from having emotions, but to help children understand and channel emotions.

For example, if a child is criticized by a teacher and comes back to tell you that he doesn't like the teacher, you shouldn't try so hard to persuade the child not to get angry, but you can do this:

1, ask the child what the teacher criticized.

2. Ask your child how he really feels. Do you think you have done well enough? Do you think you have done nothing wrong?

3. How does the teacher criticize? Do you feel uncomfortable and unhappy when you are criticized by your teacher? Do you think the teacher thinks he is particularly bad, so he says he doesn't like the teacher?

4, analysis with children, the teacher just feels that he has done something wrong, and there is no other teacher who feels that he is not good. He must have done a lot of very good things and will be praised by the teacher. Moreover, as long as it is corrected and done well, the teacher will praise it.

5. Always express your love to your children, especially when they do something wrong. Tell your child that his mother still loves you, but this kind of behavior is not allowed. I hope he can correct it. In this way, slow children can easily accept criticism.