Silence is an inner strength and a way to save yourself in a crisis.

Today, the teacher is talking about a way to grow wisdom, and growing wisdom with constant concentration is the embodiment of usual practice concentration. How clean the heart is, how firm the determination is.

The real reason why a person is unhappy is to wake up after reading it.

Perhaps in the minds of many people in the past, whether people are happy or not is related to whether money and material things are satisfied. As long as they can earn enough money, they will be happy.

But in fact, with the development of society, things are getting richer and richer, but people have not become happier because their lives have become better.

Whether a person is happy or not, the most important factor only depends on one's own.

For an unhappy person, even if life has a thousand reasons to make him laugh, he can find a reason to make himself cry;

For a happy person, even if life has a thousand reasons to make him cry, he will find a reason to make himself laugh.

In daily life, if you look carefully, you will find that too many people are unhappy not because of how hard life is, nor because of how unhappy they are, but because of the following three reasons.

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Cann't let go of the past

"When I was a child, if I had a bad memory, I would be scolded. However, when you grow up and get old, you will find that some people are happy to forget some things. "

Yes, it is very important to learn to forget and let go.

However, there are always too many people in life who will blindly immerse themselves in past regrets, either because of their own mistakes or because of the people they missed.

And these things that can't be put down, like a thorn in some people's hearts forever, sting the softest corner from time to time.

TV series "Do you know? At that time, Xiao was always worried about losing Sheng.

This regret has been buried in grandpa's heart, making him laugh. It also makes him who was gentle and kind become cold and unreasonable.

And all this, in the final analysis, is just torturing yourself and the people around you!

Is it really hard to let go? You really can't do it? Actually, it's not. The reason why you can't let go is just your obsession.

You always feel in your heart that this is a very big thing and a hard thing to pass. But in fact, when you really let go, you will find that it is no big deal.

As Yi Shu said:

"When you are really old and look back, you will know that thirty, forty and fifty are not the same thing."

What you can't let go when you are young, now and the past together; People who had a knot in their youth are not worth mentioning now.

So let bygones be bygones. When you have cleared the past, you can readjust your mood and get on the road easily, towards the distant.

Want too many things

Some people in Zhihu ask why people are not happy at all when life is getting better.

One of the anonymous netizens said the essence of the matter in one sentence:

"People's desires are endless. If you have a good one, you want to be better. If you have something better, you want to be the best. "

Many people sometimes do this, and their desires grow like weeds.

However, life can't satisfy all your desires and needs.

Always want too much, then in the end it will only become a burden, so that no matter how much you get, you will never be satisfied and never be happy.

I read such a story on the Internet:

A man was hunting in the mountains and killed five rabbits and ten pheasants. Many people admire his fruitful achievements, but he is not sad or happy at all.

Someone asked him, you have gained so much, why are you unhappy? He said, "I could have killed a rabbit, but I finally let it get away!" " "

In fact, this is the curse that too many people can't get rid of. As long as there is a little disappointment, then everything will be clear.

However, life is not like this, and it cannot be like this.

After all, there is not enough time to complete everything in one's life, nor enough time to accommodate every desire. Every eager pursuit of desire and demanding of results will make people lose their way.

"If you lose a human desire, you will regain a point of justice. How easy it is. "

In fact, there are not many things that life really needs, so, ah, don't be tired of some unnecessary things, learn to be optimistic.

Only in this way can you enjoy life more calmly and fully in this world full of desires and temptations.

Take yourself too seriously.

Maybe many of us will feel this way.

That is, when you do embarrassing things in your life, you always feel that others are watching you; At work, I made a little mistake, always thinking that the leader would seize it.

So you dare not indulge in life, fear at work, and make yourself anxious and nervous every day.

But in fact, in other people's minds, you are really not that important.

I have seen such a video:

A man and a woman go to a restaurant for dinner. At that time, the girl was sitting on an empty stool carelessly and squatting on the ground, making a lot of noise.

In this way, at that time, all eyes were focused on their dining table, and the girl blushed. She quickly put her head down in her boyfriend's arms and whispered to him, "It's a pity that we still left."

The boy just patted her on the shoulder and asked her to look up. At this time, she found that when others should eat and chat, no one paid attention to them.

Actually, this is life.

In this world, no one will really care about you that much.

If you are embarrassed in life, others will forget it as soon as they turn around; If you make a mistake at work, the leader will let it go after a few words.

Only you who take yourself too seriously will be entangled, confused and not happy for yourself.

I really like a sentence from Mr. Jiang Yang:

"We are so eager for the waves of life. In the end, we found that the most beautiful scenery in life is actually inner peace and calmness. We are very much looking forward to external recognition. Finally, we realized that the world is our own and has nothing to do with others. "

In life, there are really not so many people staring at you, and no one will try their best to see your jokes.

When you don't take yourself too seriously, then you can live a relaxed and comfortable life.

In this life, the most important thing to be alive is happiness.

When you know how to let go of past regrets, know yourself, and know not to take yourself seriously.

Then your burden will naturally be less and your mood will be suddenly enlightened.

At present, Buddhist classics such as Heart Sutra, Diamond Sutra and Shurangama Sutra are very popular in the world. Many people buy it and read it every day, and they don't know what they are talking about. They especially like to teach others with their own poems and are addicted to them.

After reading too much, I claimed to be full of Buddhism and joy, and realized the joy, purity and tranquility brought by Buddhism. However, when I went to the vegetable market to buy food, I still haggled with the vendors, and I had a big fight.

Is such a person clean inside? In fact, it is still filthy and has not changed. Buddha is made, not read. The ancients said that "the paper is shallow and I don't know how to do it."

Everything is said without practice, and there is no real meaning at all. I am addicted to reading Buddhist scriptures. I read them day and night. If I read too much and don't do good deeds, it is equivalent to reading in vain.

Only by practicing and practicing according to the methods of Buddhist scriptures can we deeply feel the truth and realize the Tao.

Random release type

I once saw a news that someone bought live fish and released it at the dock despite the cold. The fish died as soon as it entered the water. These people seem to be released, but in fact they turn into killings.

Many people like to take part in release activities in life, but they don't know whether the natural environment is suitable for release, and they don't care whether the released creatures can survive. Are they released because they love life? In fact, they have done a lot of wrong things, and they want to make up for it. Releasing them for the meaning of the word "release" is an act of disorderly release.

Such release has no merit, because they don't really do these things with respect for life. Before release, we should investigate whether the environment is suitable for release and whether the life after release can survive.

Instead of releasing it for the sake of releasing it, only by letting this life survive and truly return to nature can it be truly released.

Silence is a feeling from the heart. Quiet is also a way to enrich your heart. It can keep you away from impetuous inducements, calm in the face of fame and fortune, and take your time in the face of difficulties.

Silence is an ability.

Silence can cultivate the mind, and silence can produce wisdom. As long as people keep quiet, they can stay away from impetuousness and keep a clear head at all times. Chairman Mao, the great leader of our country, specially asked to study in the most prosperous downtown area of Changsha when he was young, thus cultivating his ability to be calm as water and not be disturbed by the outside world.

When things happen, no matter how sad and scared you are, it won't help. Sometimes it makes things more and more complicated and even leads to a dead end.

Zeng Guofan, on the battlefield with tigers in front and poisonous snakes behind him, will also choose to wait and die when he is anxious, and let his heart calm down completely before making a decision.

Almost all people who can achieve great things have a * * * nature, that is, the ability to be quiet, because silence can cultivate the mind and produce wisdom.

Silence is a kind of cultivation.

There is an old saying: "A full pot is silent, and a half pot jingles." In life, a kettle full of water will not ring no matter how it is shaken, but when there is only half a pot of water, it will ring when it is shaken a little. We found that people are all the same. The more talented and knowledgeable people are, the quieter they are.

The Wright brothers, the famous American inventors, became famous after they invented the plane and successfully tested it, but they regarded their reputation as dirt, did not attend meaningless parties or give news interviews, and just continued to work silently.

People who are truly knowledgeable and capable will hide their mountains and rivers, and they will hide their secrets. Only those who have little knowledge will choose to talk endlessly.

However, in the animal kingdom, there are also achievements belonging to animals. Parrots and eagles belong to birds. Parrots like to parrot and croak, but no matter how they fly, they can't fly high. Eagle has the ability to soar, but likes to be calm, so it can easily lock the target prey and catch it quickly and accurately.

Life is in a hurry, just like the blink of an eye. Cultivating inner peace is actually a kind of realm.

In today's society, many people are too impetuous. In order to satisfy vanity, they prefer to pursue fame and fortune. They forget their original intention, and the result is often not worth the candle.

Only by calming yourself down can you be rational enough to treat things. Only by calming yourself down can we find out the solution accurately.

Only when you calm down can you keep yourself. As Laozi said, "If you don't want to be quiet, the world will decide." People can be quiet as long as they have less greed and less desire. When people are quiet, the world will naturally settle down.

There is a saying in Yi Shu's Until the Sea Rots. She said: "Everything is quiet, come quietly, go quietly, work hard quietly, harvest quietly, and avoid making noise."

In this impetuous society, we should have a good understanding of Yi Shu's words. Calm yourself down! It is best to guard against arrogance and rashness. Now that you have worked hard, let's wait for the result. What should come will always come.

As we all know, Buddhism talks about "suffering" and that all the world is suffering.

That is to say, in Buddhist theory, it is believed that all sentient beings are trapped in the suffering of the world and cannot be freed. This bondage is like a demon. It has no beginning, no end and no limit. No matter how hard you struggle, you can't untie it.

It is for this reason that Siddhartha, the prince of Gautama in ancient India, resolutely became a monk and sought his inner outlet. After a long journey of asceticism, he finally witnessed the stars in the early morning of one day and realized the Tao.

He was surprised to find that all the sufferings and demons actually originated from "not letting go", that is, the persistence of various desires and reluctance to let go, so he sighed and said:

"It's amazing! It's amazing! All sentient beings have the wisdom and virtue of the Tathagata, which cannot be proved because of their obsession. "

Because of this, he continued to live in the world for 49 years, constantly walking to one village after another, in order to explain the truth to the people there.

The core of this truth is "letting go", that is, "letting go" from the bottom of my heart, because he knows that "not letting go" is the biggest demon and the biggest constraint.

So he talked about in the Heart Sutra:

"Because there is no income, bodhisattva. According to prajnaparamita, the heart is not in the Tao; No obstacles, no terror, stay away from upside-down dreams, nirvana. "

What he means is that if you can let go of everything, you can't achieve anything, but you can't achieve anything. Of course, there is no longer any concern, and there is no need to be swayed by considerations of gain and loss. Not being swayed by considerations of gain and loss means that you will no longer be bound by illusions or delusions.

The so-called practice is the level of practice, so that we no longer have any fear, know the truth of life suffering, and show nirvana.

Therefore, the so-called practice is actually the word "let go".

Why do you say that?

We explain it from the perspective of Heart Sutra, which includes four aspects, namely:

"I can't let go" is a problem.

Buddhism believes that the biggest reason why there is suffering in the world is that there are too many desires and they are not satisfied.

In the final analysis, these are all caused by "not letting go". Because "can't let go", there will be obstacles. If there are obstacles that can't be realized, there will be "bitterness". In other words, if everything can be abandoned or put down, of course, there will be no obstacles, and the so-called "bitterness" will be out of the question.

Therefore, "not letting go" is the root of pain and the devil of human beings.

Second, "not letting go" is scary.

The word "terror" here does not refer to such things as terror, but to the disappointment when faced with completely different situations after giving up everything.

Because in Buddhism's view, everything in the world is "bitter", but for most people, these sufferings have long been used to it. Many times, people even mistake suffering for happiness, so they don't want to leave this "false joy", and of course they are afraid that there will be no other "true joy" besides this "false joy".

Just as the great man said that Maitreya has a heavenly daughter, in order to meet people's needs, this convenience is necessary. In other words, if the pure land of Maitreya is not so good, who wants to make a wish to die?

"I can't let go" to reverse my dream

In the theory of Buddhism, everything in the world is upside down, which is by no means the truth. This is the real reason why Buddhism makes practitioners want to stop insisting.

And all sentient beings are bound by all kinds of desires and delusions just because they don't understand this truth.

Therefore, it is better to say that you can't let go than to be bound. In other words, if you recognize the upside-down truth in the world and then let go of everything, how can any desire or fantasy "bind" you?

"Can't let go" can't prove nirvana.

The ultimate goal of Buddhist practice is to prove nirvana.

Experience nirvana has two premises, one is to recognize the illusory nature of everything in the world, and the other is to let go of these illusory ties.

In other words, if the yogi can't recognize the essence of all things without self, then he can't get rid of this bondage.

Therefore, it is impossible to prove nirvana, and the most fundamental reason is "not letting go."

In other words, if we can "let go" everything, then there will be no demons, because the so-called demons are actually rooted in the persistence of various desires.

It is precisely because of this that we say that all demons come from "not letting go".

Laozi emphasized the role of "quietness" many times in Tao Te Ching, warning everyone to be a quiet person as much as possible.

Chapter five Lao Tzu said: between heaven and earth, isn't it like a bellows? Although it is hollow, it is endless. The more you encourage it, the more air will flow and never end. Too much talk and too little talk. It's better to stay in the middle. People often get into trouble if they talk too much. It's best to keep quiet and keep your words to yourself.

Chapter 15 Lao Tzu said: who can stop the turbidity and be quiet? Who can live in peace for a long time?

I hope everyone can keep a "quiet and far-reaching" heart in the noisy and impetuous society, so as to live more transparently.

In chapter 16, Lao Tzu said: "To the virtual pole; Keep quiet ",try your best to make the emptiness of the mind reach the extreme and keep the peace of life unchanged. "All things prosper together, and I can observe the truth of Tao from it.

In chapter 26, Laozi emphasized: attaching importance to roots, being calm and impetuous, impatience will lose roots; Impatience can lead to loss of dominance.

To sum up, I believe that no matter how disturbing the outside world is, as long as we are calm, wisdom will naturally come. As the saying goes, stillness makes wisdom, stillness makes enlightenment and stillness makes enlightenment.

In fact, not only Taoists, but also Taoists and Buddhists attach great importance to the word "quiet".

Confucianism says: A peaceful mind breeds wisdom. Therefore, Confucianism advocates "sitting quietly" every day and often calming down to reflect on oneself, so as to make fewer mistakes, eliminate evil and promote good.

Zeng Guofan was often impetuous when he was young, and his problems were very serious. Tang Jian, his teacher and master of science, gave him a kit with the word "Jing".

Since then, he has paid great attention to personal cultivation, specially formulated the terms of cultivation 12, and also stipulated that he should sit still for half an hour every day to experience the kindness of Jing Shengyang and be in a calm situation, such as Ding Town.

It is in this day-to-day and year-to-year meditation process that Zeng Guofan realized a lot of life wisdom and came up with many ways to deal with people and study politics, and finally made himself immortal.

Buddhism also says: "Meditation can produce wisdom, and wisdom can produce wisdom." Meditation and meditation are synonymous with Buddhism.

Why do Buddhist practitioners pay so much attention to the word "quiet"?

Because people are calm, they can let go of all kinds of worldly desires and troubles and gradually understand the great wisdom of the Buddha in the practice of "abstaining from wisdom".

Nan, a master of Chinese studies, used the "seven-step method" to teach everyone how to meditate and how to practice meditation.

He said: "The way you look at the university is the method of meditation. Know, stop, settle, be quiet, be safe, worry and gain', a * * * seven steps, seven politics. Therefore, Buddhism later said that meditation should be practiced, and the translation of this meditation is' Zhi Zhi can decide', so meditation is also called' meditation'.

Finally, I tell you through a small example, "Why can you produce more wisdom when you are calm?" .

My girlfriend told me something, and I immediately found the clue and pointed out the key points.

My girlfriend asked me why I could find out the crux of the problem so quickly.

I replied: on the one hand, because the authorities are confused, the onlookers see clearly, on the other hand, because my heart has always been quiet, so I can see the problem more thoroughly.

There is a saying that people who spend half a second seeing through the essence of things and those who spend their whole lives not seeing the essence of things are doomed to be completely different fates.

Why can some people see through the essence of things in half a second?

It is because they are always clear-headed, peaceful and always quiet and wise.

In fact, the ancestors have long explained the significance of peace of mind for acquiring wisdom in life.

"Zhuangzi Heaven" wrote:

"The water is still bright, but the spirit! Heart of a saint, calm down! The mirror of heaven and earth is also the mirror of everything. "

The general meaning of this sentence is: Ming Che is sober when he is calm, not to mention the human spirit! How ethereal and peaceful a wise man's mind is! Can be used as a mirror of heaven and earth, can be used as a mirror of everything.

Because the saint's heart has a quiet realm, the saint's heart can be called a mirror reflecting everything in the world.

If we can learn from the meditation of saints and take our hearts as a mirror, we can also show many monsters, good people and bad people in life.

For example, when our hearts are quiet enough, if someone comes to tell us how bad someone is, we won't believe it easily, and we won't just queue up. We also know that those who say right and wrong must be right and wrong.

When someone talks big in front of us, promises easily and promises easily, we won't believe it easily, because "there are fewer people who promise easily" and "the words are not beautiful, but the words are not credible".

A quiet person will not lose his mind because of sweet words;

A quiet person will not be carried away by anger;

A quiet person will not be blinded by desire;

A quiet person will not lose himself in an impetuous society.

As the writer Zhou said: "The best state of life is abundance and tranquility. Quiet, because get rid of the temptation of the outside world. Rich, because you have the treasure of the inner spiritual world. "

I like a Buddhist poem very much: Bodhi has no trees, but a mirror can't stand. There is nothing, so there is no dust.

What can foreign things do to us when our mind is as quiet as a mirror?

If you can be calm as water, you can really understand the realm of Zhuangzi-"Heaven and earth coexist with me, and everything is one with me", and then you can understand the road from the surrounding environment and understand many life truths. The more you live, the more transparent and the smarter you are!