How to solve the quarrel between parents

Question 1: What should I do if my parents quarrel badly? There will always be many setbacks in keeping yourself calm, and venting your emotions to people close to you may be the choice of most people. Maybe sometimes they seem to argue fiercely, but in fact they just don't talk and vent their emotions. You must be calm and don't let yourself slam the door in a rage before the posture here opens. This will have serious consequences. 2 to preserve our sanity

If you want your parents to quarrel, let them quarrel. There is no harm in quarreling occasionally, as long as it is not excessive. Interrupt casually, it's too late to regret! What you need to do is to quietly observe the development trend in a group to prevent things from getting out of control and persuade them to leave in time.

Don't interrupt the help casually.

As the saying goes: the son does not say that the father has passed. In other words, it is not for us to judge the elders, especially the parents. If the quarrel between parents is serious, I'm afraid all the old things will be turned out and criticized one by one. With so many trivial things that are not in our memory, how can we judge who is right and who is wrong? Rushing in to take sides will not help the development of the situation, and I am afraid it will only make the other side sad.

4 break the quarrel atmosphere and divert attention.

If you are cheerful and bold and intervene when the storm is about to start, then break the calm atmosphere at home and divert everyone's attention! For example, girls can cry and coquetry and tell their parents how sad and scared you are when they quarrel like this. Most parents will cherish their children. They will understand even if they are angry when they hear that you are afraid. Besides, when two people quarrel, once the atmosphere is broken, it is best to have laughter, so it is difficult to quarrel again!

5 Prepare to pull the frame

Sometimes parents may be really angry and have a serious argument. You'd better stand aside at any time and prepare to pull them away and take them to different rooms to calm them down.

Invite relatives and friends to our home.

As the saying goes, wash your dirty linen in public. If someone is a guest at home at this time, then no matter how big the contradiction is, we should temporarily put it down and entertain the guests with a harmonious family. In fact, this is a delaying tactic, giving two people a period of calm and buffering time, letting go of irrational impulses and anger, and solving problems better. However, the person you invited had better be close enough to tell him the truth and let him know that he is here to help. Don't let people know. When I arrived, I felt that the whole family was very strange and I was afraid to visit them in the future.

There is a kind of love called letting go.

If you are sure that you are calm and rational enough, if your parents really have irreconcilable contradictions and can't get along, then you can tell them that you can separate and don't care about yourself. Parents don't live for themselves, they should have their own life and happiness. If you tie two people together, your life will not be happy. I've been there. It's hard. Sometimes I even think it would be great if they divorced early when they were young. However, it is best not to use this method, to persuade and not to persuade! You don't have to divorce if you quarrel, and you can't live like this.

Question 2: What should I do if my parents quarrel? 1

The first is mental preparation. I think I have been a mature person with cognitive ability since I realized the problem of parents quarreling. At least a few years old children don't care about such problems. All he does is cry. Therefore, since we have cognitive ability, we must first correct our mentality. This is very important. The triviality of life will always make people feel bored and bring many contradictions. Mom and dad live together all day, and friction is inevitable, even essential. Couples who never quarrel do not exist. If there is, it only means that they are not in love. Recognizing this, you will have the ideological basis for correctly handling parents' quarrels.

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Specific to practice. I divide the problem of parents quarreling into the following situations, and I will have different answers to each different situation.

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When we see parents quarreling, if it's just a trivial quarrel with verbal abuse, it doesn't involve principles, you can ignore it. Quarrel is also part of husband and wife's life. It is in this kind of quarrel that husband and wife can achieve the tacit understanding of body and mind and enhance their feelings. Therefore, when you meet your parents' trivial matters, you can choose to turn a blind eye and listen to them. When the quarrel stops, the contradiction will be solved. This is the initial method, the most basic and simplest way to deal with parents' noise. Nothing can be done.

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If the topic of parents' quarrel involves old problems, minor problems and difficult problems, but it is not a matter of principle, and the scene of the quarrel is not intense, similar to a debate (such as the debate about what TV program to watch), you can insert a few words to adjust the atmosphere, but remember, if you talk too much, you must not say too much. Be neutral when you speak, and never take sides, otherwise it may intensify contradictions.

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When the topic of parents' quarrel involves principles, you should show your position and views, stand on the side of truth, and don't take sides with one side for other reasons. For example, on housework, parents may often quarrel. In the face of this kind of quarrel, you should be clear about your standpoint, that is, everyone has the obligation to do housework, no matter how powerful or high the position at home is. I believe that the losing party will naturally stop quarreling, return to negotiations and settle the dispute peacefully.

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When the topic of parents' quarrel involves some irrelevant issues, but the quarrel is fierce, don't say a few words casually. You should also make it clear that you are on the weak side. Usually, in an argument, mom is the weak one. At this time, you should stand firmly by your mother's side and fight with your father reasonably. I believe that no matter how fierce the father sees this situation, his arrogance will be reduced and the contradictions will be resolved.

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When the topic of parents' quarrel involves principles and the circumstances are fierce and serious, you can't just stick to the truth and sympathize with the weak. You need to treat this problem dialectically and treat it in several situations. In the first case, the strong is right and the weak loses. In this case, what you have to do is not to completely adhere to the truth, nor to fully sympathize with the weak. You have to take a compromise, that is, stick to the truth and sympathize with the weak. For example, when mom and dad quarrel about housework, dad is diligent but strong, and mom is lazy but weak (of course, this is rare). You must first convince mom that you support dad, and everyone has the obligation to do housework, without exception. Then, you have to convince dad to find some excuses to forgive mom. For example, it's hard enough for mom to be busy every day, and besides, mom's health. In the second case, the weak is right and the strong loses. In this case, you should unswervingly support the weak, stick to the truth, and convince each other from an emotional point of view. This situation is relatively simple, so I won't elaborate on it. In short, you should have a firm attitude and a stern tone, so that the losers can retreat after difficulties. In the third case, the weak and the strong have their own reasons and lose their reason. I think this kind of situation is the most common, because it is difficult to tell who is right and who is wrong in life. Come to think of it, everyone has some truth. But fighting is always bad. What we do is limited to our own ability, and we can't give specific methods and steps. Even if we do, it may not be correct, so don't take the liberty to say it. I'll just talk about the principles to be followed in this situation. > & gt

Question 3: How to solve the parents' quarrel all the time? Let's see what the experts say: Attitude 1: The child has been ignoring the quarrel and quarrel of Mr. Xu's parents for more than 30 years. The feelings of parents have not changed much because of the quarrel. It's normal for him to have some minor frictions and contradictions. As long as there is no big problem of principle, they won't care about their quarrel. When his parents quarrel, he either goes out or does his own thing, and it never happens. And now life is very stressful. I hope I can have a happy meal with my parents when I get home. If I get involved in my parents' quarrel, it will easily affect my mood, so I will ignore it. Expert comment: children can't completely ignore the quarrel between their parents. Sometimes parents' quarrel is also a sign to attract children's attention, so when parents quarrel, we must analyze the reasons for their quarrel. Of course, in most cases, bickering between parents does not need intervention, because living together for a lifetime will inevitably lead to friction, especially when you are old. Moreover, some old people make trouble simply to adjust their lives, just like greetings and greetings in our daily life. You don't frown when you say a word, but there are some jokes, concern and warmth. In addition, parents' arguments can allow them to fully express their views as long as they do not involve issues of principle. If there are contradictions in the quarrel, the children should still intervene to prevent the quarrel from escalating into a cold war or even violence. In the case, it is not advisable for Mr. Xu to ignore his parents' quarrel. Children can coordinate in a humorous way, tell a joke, dilute a person's shortcomings or faults, enliven the atmosphere, change the subject, make the atmosphere harmonious again, and prevent parents from quarreling for a long time to create new problems, especially for middle-aged and elderly people, because emotional excitement may lead to dangerous events. Attitude 2: Once the quarrel is forcibly opened, the quarrel between parents is mostly irrelevant. If it is not stopped, it will get louder and louder. When parents are old, quarreling can not only solve any problems, but also cause some unnecessary troubles and even hurt feelings. Therefore, Mr. Han doesn't want to see his parents quarrel. Every time he sees them arguing about a trivial matter, he always tries his best to persuade them. If they think they are serious, Mr. Han will forcibly separate their parents to ease their emotions, otherwise the quarrel will escalate, but this is no joke. Maybe the cold war will last for a long time. Expert comment: This method is not desirable. As a child who participates in parents' quarrels, first of all, you need to find your own position and grasp the sense of proportion. It is not convenient for the younger generation to interfere in their parents' affairs. On the other hand, everyone has different values and views on the problem. There is bound to be a generation gap between parents and children, and it is easy to put yourself in the position of referee without consultation. When the referee's ruling can't convince both sides, both parents may bury their incomprehension of each other in their hearts, and it is easier to dig up old scores in the next quarrel. In addition, forcibly pulling apart parents who are quarreling can prevent parents from quarreling and escalating to a certain extent, but it is also equivalent to forcibly depriving them of the opportunity to express their opinions and communicate with each other. Some things can be made clear in an argument. After the forced withdrawal, there may be new misunderstandings before the words are made clear, which will deepen the contradictions. When parents quarrel, the best way for children is to finish housework and then easily ask, "Is the quarrel over?" I've finished all my work ","Let's go to dinner after the quarrel "and" Let's go out for a walk after the quarrel ",which is easy to ease the atmosphere, divert the mood of quarreling and save face for parents. It can be said that this is a better way to deal with it. Attitude 3: the child is biased towards one side. Ms. Xiong doesn't have much time to go back to her hometown because she works in Beijing. When she comes home, if her parents quarrel, they usually favor her mother. Her reason is that her father's main energy is spent on work, and he rarely cares about family affairs and doesn't know his troubles. If it is because of trivial things at home, it is obvious that his father is unreasonable. In addition, compared with the father, when there is a dispute, the mother is in a weak position both in momentum and voice, and the daughter will naturally turn to the weak side. And emotionally, the father is in a dignified position in the daughter's heart, and the daughter is naturally closer to the mother, so when the parents have a dispute, they will definitely favor the mother. Mr. Hao, on the other hand, believes that parents quarrel because of family chores, mostly because their mothers are too picky, and a little thing is always nagging for a long time, so it is inevitable that their fathers will be angry. Besides, in many quarrels, my father ... >>

Question 4: How to solve the problem of parents quarreling? Have you tried to understand why they quarreled and why the neighbors spoke ill of your mother? There must be a big problem between your parents. Only when you know it clearly can you know how to mediate. In fact, my parents often quarrel, but it's basically today, and tomorrow will be fine. At first, I was afraid that they would quarrel until they got divorced, but later I got used to it. I don't care if they quarrel, because I know they will make up soon, and quarreling is their way of getting along. You are now 18 years old and you are responsible for this family. You can't go home to escape because of this, you must find a way to solve the problem! Hope to adopt!

Question 5: My parents always quarrel. What should I do? Brother:

There is a skeleton in the cupboard. I am 24 years old and graduated from college for two years. As long as I can remember, my parents have often quarreled and my father has a big temper. Every time we quarrel, my mother cries. The reason is because of some trivial things. Sometimes I really can't figure out why two people choose to walk together, and that kind of anger and fierceness will erupt when quarreling. Sometimes I call my mother and worry about whether I have quarreled recently or whether my father has lost his temper again, so sometimes I have to be sensitive.

I'm embarrassed, too. I feel uncomfortable, I can't tell, and I don't know the way. Many times, my father is a very gentle person who knows right from wrong, but when he is angry, he will vent all his dissatisfaction on my mother, which is really unfair. My only wish is to earn money as soon as possible, have a right to speak at home, and let my mother suffer as little as possible.

Since two people choose to be together, it is for eternity, and it is not easy for parents themselves. In an eternal word:

Like will be presumptuous, but love is restraint.

We strive to make our family better and be better to our wives and parents in the future. This is what we can do. As for life, it is not always beautiful.

I wish you a happy Mid-Autumn Festival and a happy family reunion.

Question 6: What should parents do if they often quarrel? It is very similar to my previous family situation. I have the most say in this question, because I succeeded in making peace. Today, my family is harmonious and my parents love me.

In fact, our children are the catalyst and mediator of the relationship between parents, and we can greatly optimize and promote the relationship between parents. Now that things have happened, don't think about whose fault it is. We only discuss how to resolve the contradiction between parents, save their feelings and save family harmony: you! Talk to your parents alone and speak your mind. Be sincere and cry when necessary. Tell them you want to talk to them when you grow up.

(Ease your parents' quarrel, but don't change the subject from the bottom of your heart) Tell your usual mistakes and things that are not sensible, and promise to correct them later, so as to reassure your parents and make them realize that you are really grown up and sensible. And tell them what you should do if your high school grades are not satisfactory. You are determined to enter a good university and win glory for your family. Combine your own and family situation.

Then, euphemistically cut into the subject and talk about the quarrel between parents. In front of my father, tell the reason why my mother did that, and let my father think and forgive. In front of my mother, it is wrong to say that my father did that, but there are also reasons. Please think about it and forgive me. (reason: it's all for the good of our family)

Finally, it's not the first time they have quarreled, but they haven't divorced for so many years, which shows that parents are very important to each other. Let them stop quarreling and fighting for your growth and family happiness.

When necessary, finally kneel down to your parents and beg them to make up and live a good life. Don't be embarrassed, it's normal to kneel to your parents, not to mention for family harmony.

Trust me, good luck. -Muyu Xiao Zhuo

Question 7: How to deal with parents' quarrel depends on the specific situation. If it's that kind of bickering, don't worry too much. If there is a big quarrel, you can persuade them not to let things get out of control. Let them calm down with beautiful words and persuade them one by one. Convince people by reasoning, of course, otherwise they may not listen, because they are angry after all. If necessary, they can drink a glass of water, or touch their backs with their hands to calm their hearts a little.

Question 8: What should parents do if they quarrel? 10, too.

A kind of communication

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Hmm. How interesting

Question 9: What should parents do if they quarrel? Better see what happens.

With your parents,

Talk alone

Say you want a complete family, a warm family.