Wang Leehom is joking.

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I am a slow-witted person. I don't like these melons in the entertainment circle very much, but I can't stand the word-of-mouth of my colleagues, which is also a transparent one.

Compared with Wang Leehom who was released by the woman they were entangled with, I can only be forced to apologize. I am more concerned about whether there is a problem with family education in Wang Leehom.

As can be seen from many official accounts of entertainment gossip WeChat, Wang Leehom's mother has been in charge of all aspects of her son since childhood.

In study, Wang Leehom's brother can read more books, which is the standard template for Chinese families in the United States. Wang Leehom is under great pressure.

Wang Leehom's brother, Wang Lide, graduated from high school with full SAT scores and won a scholarship for outstanding students in the United States. At the same time, he received offer from three famous universities: Yale University, Princeton University and Williams College. In addition, Wang Lide followed in his father's footsteps and became an excellent oncologist. Wang Leehom has said on many occasions that my brother is much better than himself.

When I was a child, Wang Leehom, as a native of China, was discriminated against and rejected in the American campus. At home, her parents also have expectations for her children's success. So Wang Leehom felt that music was his only refuge. When he was a child, he often ran to the roof outside the window to play the piano.

In fact, from this description, we can see that Wang Leehom has no trust in his family. When he is discriminated against and rejected, his loneliness can only be alleviated by playing the piano alone on the roof outside the window. In other words, he would rather endure such loneliness than tell his parents that he was treated unfairly and bullied. There are many children in our ordinary family, and the same will happen. Children who have encountered similar situations before. I often want to change my parents' idea that I want my son to be a dragon and my daughter to be a phoenix. In the final analysis, this is a very selfish concept. What kind of person my children grow up to be should always be decided by my children themselves.

Further exploration, in many reports, I can also see that Wang Leehom was already interested in music when he was a child, and his parents required him to get excellent grades before practicing the piano. In fact, there is a big problem with this kind of education. Hobbies and art are both exports of life, not commodities that can be exchanged at equal value. Of course, it is right to ask children to have a good basic education, but suppressing their emotions and emotional release in order to strictly demand grades will make children feel depressed very early and lose their natural emotional mechanism. Simply put, children will lose their natural emotional experience, and their joys and sorrows will be suppressed or controlled all their lives. Such children tend to be avoidant or narcissistic when they grow up. In short, their personalities often have some obstacles.

In fact, all this stems from the fact that Wang Leehom's mother regards her child as a "work", excessively appreciates and cherishes it, and is unwilling and impossible to let him wander freely in the world. This is the characteristic of many "elite education" in the East, and often the children who are taught look excellent, but they have psychological problems.

In fact, Wang Leehom once said in an interview that he also felt that he didn't know when the work would end. Such depressing remarks make people feel that he obviously loves music, but he is tired of his work. I think he can also realize that his mother's bondage has caused psychological problems, but he can't resist his mother head-on.

In Li Lianglei's version, Wang Leehom can only escape by getting married, and let Li Lianglei be a shield to resist, but Li Lianglei is not his comrade-in-arms, but his tool. He is the last beneficiary of the struggle with the Queen Mother.

So we can see such an avoidant and narcissistic love rat.

In fact, in our ordinary life, how many parents once thought that Wang Leehom was really a model student. After all, this elite oriental education was really popular for a while. Even now, I can still see such oriental elite education among some quite young parents.

I don't deny that this kind of education may educate some excellent children with good physical and mental health, but it also lays a huge hidden danger. Obviously, we can have better and better educational methods, which can not only ensure children's physical and mental health, but also let children reap his own success. The reason why many parents are unwilling to choose the latter lies in the success of children's own identification, not the success of parents' identification. We are all asked why we should study when we are young. There is a standard answer, as Premier Zhou Enlai said, that is to study for the rise of China. I am very moved by this sense of faith, but is this the answer that all children should say? Similarly, when we were young, we were all asked what we wanted to be when we grew up. The standard answers are almost all brilliant and great occupations, such as scientists, doctors and teachers. If a child says in class that I want to be the best cleaner in the world, he may be laughed at by other children. If he goes back and tells his parents, his parents may laugh and cry, but most of them don't agree.

But in fact, this child is amazing. He can say that he wants to be the most powerful scavenger in the world. At a young age, he seems to understand a sentence that we have forgotten, 360 lines, each line is the best. I asked him the real reason, and he also said that it was because I once learned a text about street sweepers, and I thought the street sweepers in it were great, and I wanted to be such a person.

Every teacher has experienced this example to some extent. In many cases, I can only express helplessness, because my personal strength is really small, and sometimes it is also a deep-rooted family education concept, which makes such a valuable sincere answer a joke in my classmates' mouths.

In the process of family education, we can use many skills, but we must always adhere to one principle. The child you want to mold must be a healthy child. Many times we can't guarantee the health of the body, but the inner health is the part that we can really escort. Don't always try to shape what kind of person children become, but guide them to think about what kind of person they want to be.

Look at 45-year-old Wang Leehom, who has such amazing melons, which reflects the family education problems when he was a child. Once a high-quality idol was a person whose moral behavior was corrupt. I don't want to defend Wang Leehom, and I don't want to attribute everything he has done to his family. This is really unfair, because as an adult, he had many opportunities to do things well by himself, but he didn't. But if we really want to trace back to the source, maybe in childhood, we have planted the curse of today's incident.

At the very least, when a child with a relatively good family education grows up, when watching this, he will feel that Wang Leehom is really a complete love rat, and you can even describe him as a bad guy.