Psychology: What is the mentality of Buddhism?

I have a classmate who has been very Buddhist since he was a child.

The academic performance is neither good nor bad, so take your time. He rarely talks, not because he is introverted, but because he is too lazy to speak. He looked indifferent to anyone who argued with him. He was rarely particularly happy, and no one had ever seen him cry. The whole person looked stupid, like a fool. The family is worried about his future.

In fact, he is the kind of person who understands everything but doesn’t say anything. Because he feels there is no difference between saying it or not. It’s tiring to say it, but it’s even more tiring not to be understood, so just don’t say it. In the eyes of others, he is just an ordinary fool.

After graduating and joining a company, he was scolded by his boss. He just agreed and then did whatever he had to do. He was not interested in the topics of his colleagues and was too lazy to say hello to each other. He doesn't even expect anything from love: if he wants to talk, he can talk, and if he doesn't, he can break up.

He has always lived with such a peaceful mind. Although he sometimes suffered a little for this, he finally did not show a very bitter smile.

There are such Buddhist young people all over the Internet. They spread the beans and blossom everywhere, cultivating several unique characteristics:

1. No feedback.

There is no response to other people's criticisms and praises. At most, they echo their thoughts, but they just laugh and forget them in the blink of an eye. They have little outlet for their emotions, eventually leading to depression and unhappiness.

2. It doesn’t matter.

It doesn’t matter in every aspect of life. Spicy or sweet? It doesn't matter. Should I buy this or that? It doesn't matter. Adidas or something from a street vendor? It doesn't matter. Shall we break up? good.

3. Helpless.

Sometimes they have insufficient ability and low self-discipline. Although they have a certain desire in their hearts, they cannot be satisfied and have to give up. In the end, they have no interest in anything.

These are typical three-no people.

Regarding the last point of "helplessness", there is a category of people who are exceptions:

The reason why they show the three non-beings of Buddha nature is because they are really not interested in the matter itself. They have their own goals and are very active and effective in achieving their goals. They have goals and responsibilities and are extremely self-disciplined.

However, they are "insensitive" and "disinterested" in other "trivial matters" that do not contribute to achieving their goals.

So whether the "Buddhist" mentality is good or not depends on whether you have a goal and principle. If you restrain yourself because reality cannot satisfy you, then you are being too negative.

Once I was discussing the topic of "Buddhism" in my reader group, and someone shared a screenshot of someone else's discussion on Buddhism.

This article compared Buddhism and Buddhism Buddhism has been blurred into one and diluted

This is not a dispute, but a paralysis of Ge You! How can it be compared with Buddhism?

Besides, Buddhism talks about Nirvana and Lotus Life, not just about giving up.

In the 1970s, before China opened up to the outside world, Americans at that time Looking at the Chinese people, I feel envious. I think the Chinese people have too strong awareness of environmental protection. Cyclists are everywhere!

Question, huh? Are we environmentally conscious?

That’s not the case at all. It’s because we can’t buy a car, and we can’t afford a car, so we’re not allowed to buy a car either.

This Buddha is not that Buddha, it’s far from that!

It is said that young people are tired and have troubles, but Buddhism is a kind of twilight and a disease after all. A young man in his late teens or early twenties is so depressed that " It doesn’t matter.” I’m really worried about young people.

It really doesn’t matter, it’s okay, it’s otherworldly.

The problem is, how can this be the highest state of "indifferent" in life after a person has experienced possession? It is actually a kind of "giving up treatment" after "hopelessness"!

Of course, for young people, I will never tell them "should or shouldn't". You should be full of vitality, not sluggish, you should work hard, and not worry about happiness in your heart. , in fact, this is all bullshit preaching

Because "should and shouldn't" are "natural" for adults when they are "calm". If you are really in a hurry, would you try it?

Philosophical issues should be discussed calmly. It is not an effective medicine in emergencies!

How should Buddhist young people be treated? We might as well talk from the perspective of nature and society!

First of all, we are all slaves of nature. To conquer nature, we must first obey nature. For example, if human beings want to sleep, this is a natural behavior and a law. In other words, human beings cannot help but sleep. But if you go against nature, the lack of sleep will affect the next day's study and work, even affect your mood, and even affect your thinking. Scientists have found that people who don’t get enough sleep tend to be irritable!

As soon as irritability comes, troubles will take advantage of it. To relieve boredom, you must give your natural impulses a chance to be compensated.

Therefore, I advocate getting a high-quality sleep before treatment!

We often say good night and peace of mind, but actually we emphasize letting go. Why do people suffer from insomnia and depression? In the final analysis, it is because there are things that cannot be let go!

Of course, human sleep, including sleep in nature, is definitely not just for sleep, but for tomorrow’s sun, better prey, better development, and better creation tomorrow. This is to obey nature. !

In nature, if you don’t move, develop, create, or sleep anymore, it means you are approaching death

The pets closest to us in life, such as Dogs and cats are happy and healthy when they move, but they must be sick when they are motionless!

In fact, so do people!

Therefore, movement is better than stillness!

In the face of unhappiness, every age group has its own way of dealing with it. If a child is unhappy occasionally, he will cry loudly. After crying, the anger will disappear, and even I have forgotten why I am unhappy, so this movement is the most energetic!

Older people should be more restrained when they feel troubled. You are not allowed to cry loudly! If you hold it back and the pain is in your heart, you will feel the pain more and more easily, and you will easily get sick, and finally you will lose your vitality!

In terms of life stages, young people are more likely to worry than the elderly and have stronger unreasonable emotions than children. Therefore, young people have the strongest vitality and will not be depressed! On the contrary, I have the ability to turn unhappiness into motivation!

When Goethe was young, he wanted to commit suicide due to a lovelorn relationship. Fortunately, his literary talent took over and he worked hard for two weeks to write "The Sorrows of Young Werther". When the book was completed, his anger was exhausted and his thoughts of suicide disappeared. Dismissed.

If you look at the poets in the past, how could they write so many popular poems if they didn't encounter something unhappy?

If Yuan Haowen had never encountered a sad, touching, and deeply touching love tragedy, how could you write, "Ask the world, what is love, and tell us whether we are committed to each other in life and death? Flying across the world. "Guest, how many times has Lao Chi returned to the cold and heat"?

Therefore, it is better to move than to be still!

Of course, young people are under pressure, and they do not necessarily have to write poems or books, but there are always ways to vent, such as playing a game, watching a season of American TV series, listening to a good show, even if it is just to borrow Drinking can relieve sorrow and open your mind.

However, if you can create something when you open your mind, that would be great!

What is happiness? That is, no matter what you do, you must do it to the best of your ability. To create, you must go to the extreme of your nature!

Fulfilling one’s nature, this is not what I said, it was Mencius. This is the purpose and method of life.

If life is not based on “fulfilling one’s nature”, then How to find unlimited pleasure?

Having said this, I would like to re-examine the "Buddhist" state of young people. In fact, there are two types.

One is to give up efforts in a certain direction. , but do not give up other efforts, for example, I will clean the room, play a game of basketball, play a game of football. I will work hard in areas that interest me, rather than adult "you should" efforts. This is actually It's also moving, but what's not moving is actually just the aspect I don't like

From this state, is Buddhism a disease? No, it is more like a kind of resistance, a kind of resistance against the current conventional social success model!

The other kind is that I am no longer interested in anything, nothing matters, and nothing can arouse my feelings...

This is a disease, and it is also something I feel I must do. It needs to be cured!

Get moving, only by running and jumping can you talk and laugh!

What is the mentality of Buddhism? Answer: The mind is the Buddha, and the Buddha is the mind.

The Buddha’s teachings are that the heart is the Buddha, the Buddha is the heart, the heart also represents the lotus, and the heart also represents the troubles (demonic nature).

Example 1:

A sentient being (Zhang San) sent a red envelope worth 10,000 yuan to another sentient being (Li Si). Of course the one who gave the red envelope was unhappy. Those who receive red envelopes are happy. An unhappy person and a happy person have a positive and negative attitude, and the two are just connected in cause and effect. The person who gave the red envelope became a negative cause and effect, and the person who received the red envelope became a cause and effect. The two middle students had a causal relationship.

With the existence of sentient beings who have negative cause and effect and sentient beings who receive cause and effect, in the future reincarnation of two people, one will receive it back and the other will pay it back.

Of course, cause and effect are complicated. It was not Zhang San who paid Li Si, but Li Si who paid back to Zhang San. The whole process will be reincarnated in the future. From now on, we have to pay for this no matter what, whether we are men, women, old or young, or at home.

Example 2:

Zhang San beat and scolded Li Si. Of course Zhang San relieved his anger. Li Si was beaten and scolded, and of course he was not happy (Buddha).

In future reincarnations, Li Si will not necessarily beat Zhang San back. Anyway, Zhang San beats and scolded people, and he will also receive the retribution of being beaten and scolded in future reincarnations. No one can escape karma (including Buddha).

Example 3:

Hitting and scolding people does not necessarily mean you have a vicious heart (Buddha), and speaking sweet words to all living beings does not necessarily mean you have compassion for all living beings (Demon). It is difficult to paint the skin and bones of the heart (Buddha). ), only your own heart (Buddha) is the clearest. The so-called Buddha is the heart, and the heart is the Buddha.

Summary:

What Buddha taught in the past was psychology. All kinds of human behaviors come from the heart (Buddha). And today's technology says that people's thinking comes from the brain. It is the same regardless of technology, brain or heart (Buddha).

Namo's Great Merciful and Great Compassionate Guanyin Bodhisattva

The "Buddhist" mentality mainly refers to a state of life and attitude in which one looks down on everything, lets it go purposefully, and lives according to one's own lifestyle.

Buddhism, as a popular mentality, describes a living state and attitude of many people nowadays who "take everything lightly" and live according to their own wishes.

There is a single man in my workplace. He can eat whatever he wants after get off work. If he doesn’t want to eat, he will not eat anything for two or three days in a row and only drink water. Sometimes he even doesn’t drink water if he is in a bad mood. drink.

According to what he said: Take everything lightly, but the Dharma is boundless. Many people urged him to find a partner. He said: The Huns are not destroyed, so why do they need a family?

In fact, this is of course a joke. In fact, it makes him think that fate will come when it is supposed to come, and it will not come if it is not supposed to come. If he never came, it was fate, not at all.

So he wants to eat and sleep, but everything else is fine.

That's good.

Buddhism is a term that has become very popular in recent years. It probably refers to a kind of mentality of not fighting with others and seeking nothing from the world. There is also a misunderstood "Buddhist" mentality, which is very dangerous. You can identify it.

In life, you will encounter many unpleasant things. A Buddhist mentality will make people less likely to get into trouble and lead a more peaceful life.

But some young people have misunderstood Buddhism:

1. When faced with work, stop learning and ruin your future.

2. In the face of love, you are too casual, don't pay attention to details, and don't care about others. Although you are not pretentious, you can't "don't care" or "it's okay", which results in a breakup.

3. Wrong "Buddhist life", living one day at a time, not caring about anything, having no requirements for life, and no principles for doing things. This kind of Buddhist life will quickly lose oneself and become Numb and indifferent to life.

The Buddhist mentality should be a peaceful and gentle mentality, rather than a reason to retreat and not make progress.

I feel that Buddhism means not caring too much and being able to accept the status quo.

First of all, don’t care too much. When someone says something you don’t like to hear, don’t be secretly angry in your heart, and don’t argue with that person. Instead, tell yourself that what others think and say is their business, not mine. I cannot control what others think, nor can I ask everyone to only say what I like to hear. Although I can't control what others say, I can decide whether to listen or not. Sometimes what others may say unintentionally seems to mean something else to us. As long as it doesn't touch our bottom line, we really don't have to worry too much about it. Some people get angry or even get into fights with others just because of a single word. This is actually punishing themselves for the mistakes of others. It's better to be more Buddhist. If you don't like to hear the words, just go in the left ear and out the right ear.

Then let’s accept the status quo.

When you hear someone say to you: "So-and-so has a very high salary and often buys this and that for his parents." "So-and-so is married to a rich husband and has a luxury car at home. "So-and-so has a particularly wide network of connections," etc. How do you feel in your heart?

When we were children, we were afraid of other people’s children, and when we grew up, we were afraid of someone. Some people are fair-skinned and beautiful, and live a very wealthy, privileged, and enjoyable life, but the majority are still ordinary. We may not be born into a privileged family, our salary is not very high when we join the workforce, and we may even look ordinary. We may not have much to show off, and we may not be able to live the "exquisite life" that is built with money. Is our life worthless? Is our life not worth living? Of course not.

We are sincere and kind, we are serious and responsible for our work, we have three or two close friends, we can accept the fact that we are ordinary, and we are willing to work hard to become a better version of ourselves. People generally think that good things, such as wealth, status, and achievements, are good if they have them, but there is no need to blame yourself if you don't have them. Buddhism means being able to accept your current situation, not blaming yourself, not comparing yourself to others, and not being jealous. This will save you a lot of worries and pain, and allow you to live in a way that suits you. Buddhism means "my world is small, but just right".

"Buddhist mentality" expresses a mentality of "it's okay to have it, it's okay not to have it, look down on everything, and don't care about winning or losing". In the small things in daily life, when faced with some small things that have nothing to do with principles and do not damage the bottom line, it is less necessary to compare every penny and tit for tat, and more tolerant and laugh at it, which can be regarded as open-minded. However, at work, this kind of Buddhist mentality is unacceptable. If our team, especially party members and cadres or young cadres, maintain a "Buddhist mentality" in government affairs and principle issues, it will inevitably lead to the growth and spread of "Buddhist silence", "Buddhist mentality" and "Buddhist inaction". The creativity, cohesion, and combat effectiveness of the cadre team have been greatly reduced.

My understanding of Buddhism is somewhat different from other people’s. Buddha is not actually free from desires and pursuits. Buddhism is too profound for ordinary people like us to fully understand it. My understanding of Buddhism is not to embarrass yourself or others. The so-called embarrassment must be a requirement that exceeds personal ability. Not embarrassing yourself means not making yourself feel uncomfortable. Not arguing with others means letting yourself go, because any conflict will bring pressure and displeasure to yourself. Therefore, the biggest feeling I have with Buddhism is not getting angry.

I recently read "Being a Girl for Life" written by Elizabeth Gilbert. The two points mentioned in the book may explain the Buddhist mentality from one aspect.

Minimalism, letting things happen, and not forcing yourself are the main colors of these two mentality.

In a sense, the Buddhist mentality is a bit narrow: first, it lacks the passion for pioneering action, and second, it lacks altruistic initiative.

Buddhist mentality is indispensable and cannot be commonly used.

The word "Buddhist" first originated from Japan. In 2014, a Japanese magazine introduced a new type of male that has become popular recently - "Buddhist men". They look like ordinary people on the outside, but they often have the following characteristics on the inside: their interests and hobbies always come first, and basically everything they want to do is done in the way and at the pace they like. I always feel that falling in love is too troublesome. I don’t want to waste time and energy on it, and I don’t want to have a girlfriend. I just like to be alone. Being with girls will make me feel tired.

But what we previously understood is that it comes by destiny and leaves without destiny. Things in the world are like this. What is supposed to come will come naturally. It is useless to hope for what is not supposed to come, and it is useless to ask for it. If you are destined, don’t push it; if you are not destined, don’t ask for it. Those who come are welcomed, those who go are watched off. Let everything take its course. Things in this world will never go as you wish if you force yourself to do so, and forcing them will not be sweet. What we can do is to try our best to be ourselves. This is generally the case in the world. We have no regrets about our efforts and our dedication.

The current Buddhism refers more to a person who likes to stay at home, eat alone, watch movies, sleep alone, and travel alone. He is neither sad nor happy about people or things. isolation.