"The wedding should be grand, and the luxury car banquet can't be less." The fiance broke the contract decisively. Is the woman asking too much?

In today's society, bride price and wedding have become a stumbling block for young people to get married. Sometimes, in order to marry a daughter-in-law, the man loses everything, but he still can't resist the "bride price" of his mother-in-law and the "wedding" of his daughter-in-law.

The original purpose of marriage is because two people love each other and then go to the palace of marriage. The purpose of holding a wedding is to give the woman an inherent right and let her be respected and recognized.

But now, with the development of society, people's psychology has gradually changed, and the phenomenon of comparison at weddings has become more and more serious. The wedding is no longer the original purpose, but it is decent to pay attention to "face". So now the wedding is gradually "stale".

Marriage is a palace of love, not money. Everyone has vanity, but unrestrained comparison will affect one's life and hurt the feelings of both sides. The so-called comparison and vanity deviate from the essence of marriage, which eventually leads to the breakup of both parties. It's really sad!

But that's what young people do now. In order to show his so-called "ability" in front of friends, he did not hesitate to spend more than he could bear, resulting in various debts in his later years.

There are also some sensible young people who can straighten their position and see the real "pie", but often their reason is not recognized by the other side.

Among them, Xiao Zhang and his fiancee are like this, and they have reached the point of talking about marriage. But it happened that this step stumped their feelings. Xiao Zhang is a pragmatic person, but his fiancee's requirements for the wedding far exceeded his expectations, which eventually led to the two running counter to each other.

Emotional story

Xiao Zhang and his fiancee met on a blind date. They come from a rural family. Because I work outside all the year round and want to earn more money for myself, I have no time to find someone in these years. At the age of marriage, I am still single, and naturally I am urged to get married by my family. So, during the Spring Festival, both parents set out to find someone for them.

Introduced by the matchmaker, Xiao Zhang and his fiancee met, and they both felt good and got along well. It is the woman who is used to seeing the scenery in the city and is not very satisfied with his family conditions. But he is also a good man, steady and honest, as she promised, as long as she is willing to marry him, she will not suffer.

For women, the most important thing in marriage is a man's character and loyalty. In the days together, Xiao Zhang did fulfill his promise and was very docile to his fiancee.

At first, because they were far apart, there were not many opportunities for the two sides to meet, so they negotiated to meet once a month. During the period, Xiao Zhang took the initiative to find his fiancee and worried that she was tired and hard. Usually, the fiancee is busy at work, and it is also Xiao Zhang who takes the initiative to contact the woman.

After all, everyone is an adult, and young people naturally don't care so much about these small details. When you get married, you still put the overall situation first. This state lasted for more than a year, and both parents thought that since there was no problem getting along, this marriage was given! Both sides have no opinions, and this matter is settled!

Xiao Zhang hasn't gone out to work since he got engaged. He has arranged the wedding at home, and he handles it all by himself. She didn't come back until the woman used it, which was quite worry-free.

Because of the woman's request, the two took more than 8,000 wedding photos. Xiao Zhang believes that since his fiancee likes it, it is not intentional, but it is because Xiao Zhang's parents are not sensible and have no life. It is unnecessary to spend so much money to take photos.

But things have passed, and Xiao Zhang's parents no longer interfere too much. But compared with the banquet, what they didn't expect is still behind. The woman doesn't want the wedding to be held in the country. It's too troublesome and tiring.

Because according to their custom there, it takes three days for the man's house and two days for the woman's house, which is a little tired for them. So in this general direction, the two unified their opinions and unanimously decided to hold it outside.

But when it comes to the details of the wedding, their opinions are quite different. Xiao Zhang means that as long as you don't lose your parents' face, you can give the woman a decent wedding. But his fiancee said:

"A woman will only marry once in her life. If she doesn't pay attention to how to raise her parents, it will also make me look down on relatives and friends. " This makes Xiao Zhang very confused. Is face or date important in this wedding?

At first, Xiao Zhang was very opposed to his fiancee's practice, so they were deadlocked for some time. In the end, he could not resist his fiancee's determination and took the initiative to compromise.

In order to take care of his fiancee's "decent" wedding, he chose a local four-star hotel with 30 tables per table according to the standard of 1000. The wedding car is rented separately, and the first car is more important. Xiao Zhang chose a BMW 2500 for one day, and everything else was 200 for one day.

Hearing this arrangement, Xiao Zhang's fiancee not only didn't praise his thoughtfulness, but directly overturned all his arrangements. It is also required that each banquet needs the standard of 2000 tables, and all wedding cars must be luxury cars, even if it is 2500, there must be 9 cars, and it must be one brand and one color.

After listening to his fiancee, Xiao Zhang began to get angry. After careful calculation, every sum of money is beyond his budget, and the days to come can only be poor.

In his view, everyone's relatives are rural, and of course they will not pay so much attention to the dishes of the banquet. A big row of noodles is enough. Why are you so extravagant and wasting money on these?

Banquet is just one of them, as well as wedding cars and videos. These are all places where money needs to be spent. Getting married alone will cost 654.38 million yuan, which is a bit too much for a migrant worker.

The two have been deadlocked because of the wedding. The fiancee has always refused to give in, and she still holds the promise that Xiao Zhang made to her at that time. In Xiao Zhang's view, the wedding held now is just one thing. What I am most afraid of is that my fiancee will keep such a "decent" attitude towards life in the future, and their marriage will suffer.

Because of the wedding, Xiao Zhang's parents have great opinions about her. Even if she gets married later, the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is still a problem. Considering these reasons, Xiao Zhang finally made a rational decision and proposed to break up with her. At first, the woman insisted that there was nothing wrong with herself and madly accused Xiao Zhang of being a sad person.

After breaking up with Xiao Zhang, the woman didn't realize her mistake until she saw her friend's wedding. Even if her friends are rich, they don't need many faces like her.

She also began to regret not cherishing Xiao Zhang. A friend advised her: "The wedding is just a ceremony. The real married life is still two people. Xiao Zhang is a very suitable person for life. He also cooperated with your so-called rituals. Try to lower your posture and get back together with Xiao Zhang. You are not young. "

When she decided to get Xiao Zhang back, his parents had introduced him to a new blind date. Although she was crying for a reunion, it was too late.

Emotional advice:

The depth of water is the sea. Do what you can, and you will always be satisfied. Don't lose your mind and die in the abyss.

In China, a place where love and righteousness are important, the wedding is an important ceremony of marriage. In some places, the wedding advocates simplicity, and in some places, the wedding advocates extravagance, but the most important thing is to look at the ability of both parties. You can't judge whether a person loves you or not by how much she can give you. How can a person with only 65438+100000 marry a person with 65438+100000?

Marriage is when two people are attracted to each other, really like each other, and then want to start a family. Whether marriage is grand or not is not the standard to measure marriage. We should establish a correct concept of consumption and never be confused by the "pie" in front of us.

Whether in marriage or life, one's ability is an important criterion to determine the quality of our life. Don't do things beyond your ability for the sake of so-called face and comparison, but in the end you will face a series of bills and lower your quality of life.

A happy relationship requires the joint efforts of two people, not just one person. Weddings reflect understanding and sincerity, and are not representatives of social status, nor are they standards for measuring marriage. Understand each other, don't let the so-called face defeat our love.