How to deal with the deliberate rhetoric between colleagues in the workplace?

In the workplace, there is such a person:

1, they are very shrewd and won't offend people easily because of their work. On the surface, their relationship with anyone is passable.

2, they usually talk and do things, very cautious and rigorous, methodical, watertight.

It's hard to see them laughing or losing their temper, it's very calm.

4. They wrap their hearts tightly. You trust them, but they just pay lip service.

An insidious colleague

Because they show these good psychological qualities every day, it is easy to gain the trust of leaders and colleagues. This kind of person is actually very insidious. They always consider their personal interests. As the saying goes: "People sell you, and you count money for them." They conspired against you behind your back. You'll never guess who did it. On the contrary, you will be moved to tears by their brave words and help.

This kind of malicious person, for the sake of personal interests, often pretends to care about his colleagues, so that his colleagues fail to take precautions for the sake of rhetoric. Because they have a disguised "kind" appearance, people are hard to prevent and are often fooled.

mixed feelings of remorse and shame

02 5 situations that are easy to be careless

Man is a perceptual animal. In any case, few people can keep a clear head. In these five situations, a person often relaxes his vigilance and is easily caught out:

1, I feel that my relationship with others is very iron.

For example, Zhang San and Li Si usually seem to have a good relationship. If Li Si sets Zhang San, Zhang San will easily tell Li Si what he shouldn't say.

2. When you are very happy and excited.

3, when emotional impulse

For example, you have just been reprimanded by the leader and hold your breath. At this time, if a colleague comes to comfort you insincerely, you are likely to say something radical: "What a big deal!"

Be reprimanded by the leader

4. When moved by other people's words and deeds

5. When drunk

We all have personal experience. On the wine table, when we were half drunk and half awake, we began to talk nonsense. We will answer whatever others ask.

How to prevent being cheated?

In the workplace, if someone sets you up in a roundabout way, there is no doubt that they have ulterior motives. "What you say is the spilled water." If you are framed and say something you shouldn't, it will bring you bad consequences.

1, raise awareness of prevention.

(1) There is an old saying that "gossip" and "disaster comes from the mouth". In the workplace, you can't trust others just because you receive a little kindness from others, let alone say anything in front of others. If you open your heart to others defenseless, it is easy to be betrayed or used as a gun, and you will suffer in the end.

(2) Don't trust anyone. In the face of interests, classmates, fellow villagers and friendships will be vulnerable.

(3) Whether you are happy or sad, you should keep a clear head and don't talk nonsense.

(4) roughly judge the motives of colleagues to frame you.

Judge the motivation of colleagues' words

2, only tell jokes on the wine table, don't talk about right and wrong

With communication, there is socialization. Drinking and eating with leading colleagues is to harmonize feelings and celebrate happy things. The purpose of the picture is to be happy. Drink as much as possible according to your own capacity. Don't drink too much and make sure you don't get drunk. People will lose their self-control ability when they are drunk, which will lead to unconsciousness, so we must avoid gaffes after drinking.

3. Just tell the truth, not say it.

In the company, when colleagues allude to those right and wrong issues or sensitive topics, you can only say that you know this, but you don't talk about your own views or show your attitude.

Colleague Xiao Liu: "I don't know what deep hatred Zhang Zong and Vice President Wang have. Now they are incompatible, which makes the whole department feel uneasy. "

You (Zhou Xiao): "We don't know what the contradiction between them is. Let the company handle it. "

Chat with colleagues

4. Play dumb and change the subject

When you find that your colleague is setting you up, you should play dumb, change the subject and talk about him.

Colleague Xiao Liu: "When I was eating in the canteen at noon yesterday, I heard everyone whispering about Manager Zhang of the Human Resources Department and Xiaoyan of the Export Department. I don't know if it's true or not. "

You look at Xiao Liu and say, "Xiao Liu, I haven't heard of it." Have you finished reading the book Cost Control that you borrowed from me last time? "

Play dumb.

5, understatement

When you have a conflict with the leader, some colleagues with ulterior motives often pretend to care about you to set you up, so as to catch your pigtails and calculate you:

Colleague Liu: "Zhou Xiao, Manager Zhang often scolds you for trifles, which is really too much. Manager Zhang seems to be deliberately targeting you, so you should pay more attention. "

You (Zhou Xiao): "Nothing, I made a mistake. It's normal for Mr. Zhang to criticize me."