Is it worthy of respect that ancient widows cared about their reputation?

Widows are not a special group at present, but have lost their spouses. In a society where accidents and diseases are so frequent, people are not surprised. In addition, people's minds are much more open than before, and these women who advocate losing their spouses are encouraged to rebuild their families and find someone to spend their lives with. However, in ancient times, widows were a very special group, and people looked at widows with colored glasses.

The ancients once said, "storms can't enter the widow's door." When there is a storm outside, it is very lucky to have a place to shelter from the wind and rain temporarily. But why did our ancestors teach us that we would rather stand in stormy weather than go to the widow's house to shelter from the wind and rain? The reason for saying this is to start with the social status of widows in ancient times.

The ancients had a natural prejudice against widows. In our opinion, it is a pity that a woman becomes a widow, and her neighbors will show more concern and help to her. However, in the eyes of the ancients, widows were a symbol of bad luck. They think that such women bring their own decline, even their husbands are dead, so we should keep a distance from them to prevent these unfortunate things from happening to ourselves.

In addition, the identity of the widow itself is very embarrassing. The ancients had very high demands on women, not only to be obedient and virtuous, but also not to marry her husband after his death, otherwise she would be drowned by others' spit.

Remarriage was originally a matter of personal freedom, but in the eyes of the ancients, it was an immoral thing. People will think that such a widow is unclean. If you enter the widow's house in a storm, then you are suspected of having an affair with the widow.

Moreover, widows themselves attach great importance to their reputation, which may be oppressed by feudal ideas. In ancient times, widows dared not pursue their own happiness. They seldom contact with others and are afraid of other people's gossip. Even if they are innocent, in the eyes of others, widows who have contact with other men are misbehaving.