How does the rural proverb "Father and son don't sit at the same table, uncles don't drink" say?

Do you occasionally drink with your father in your life? How long has it been since you sat down to have dinner with your parents? Nowadays, many young people in rural areas go out and stay at home for a few days a year in order to live and work, and there are even fewer days to eat with their parents. When it comes to eating and drinking with elders, we also know that there are many rules at the dinner table. Doing it badly, or doing it wrong, will make people laugh. And it's been circulating in the past? Father and son don't sit together, but uncle doesn't drink? What does the ancestor mean by saying this? Does it make sense? Today, let's take a look. If there is anything wrong, please point out.

Let's look at the first half of the sentence. Here? Seats? It refers to banquets, especially some important banquets, such as the birthday and engagement of the elderly at home, or banquets with important guests at home. So the meaning of this proverb does not mean that father and son can't eat at the same table, but that at some important banquets, father and son should not eat at the same table.

China is a world-famous country of etiquette, which has paid great attention to etiquette for a long time. And then what? Father and son are different seats? This custom has a long history, and it is also a reflection of the relationship between superiors and subordinates in feudal society. Some people think that what our ancestors said is unreasonable, but it was not unreasonable in the past. We used to pay great attention to respect and inferiority. For example, in rural areas, some people still pay great attention to the seating of banquets. Where to sit and who to sit in this room are all arranged in advance, and you can't sit around.

I still remember going to a party with my grandfather when I was a child, and I would see them arguing for a position for half an hour. At an important banquet, the difference between father and son is not only a manifestation of respect, but also a kind of respect for guests. Imagine that all the people attending the party are people of higher status or elders of the same age. If you sit with them as a young man, it will not only affect their communication, but also make you feel uncomfortable. Today, this etiquette is still quite popular in some rural areas. For example, in our country, if the family holds a wedding, the father accompanies the wine and the young man sits on one side, mainly responsible for pouring wine and serving food to the elders, or serving rice and lighting cigarettes. But this is only limited to some important banquets, such as when there are no outsiders at ordinary times, it is completely ok for father and son to eat at the same table.

Shall we look at the second part? Uncle doesn't drink, right? This means that uncle and nephew had better not drink together. What the ancestors said was reasonable in the social environment at that time. In the past, all ages were orderly, with uncles as elders and nephews as juniors. There is a generation gap between two people. After all, the ancients attached great importance to seniority. On the one hand, it is inappropriate for uncles to sit together, on the other hand, everyone is unhappy and cautious, which is equivalent to drinking.

Another reason is that many people talk a lot after drinking, and they will say something that they are afraid to say at ordinary times, that is? Tell the truth after drinking? For example, swearing, some disrespectful words, or being an uncle before drinking, but becoming a buddy after drinking, obviously it is easy for others to see jokes. In the past, people attached great importance to personal reputation, so they were taboo? Uncle and nephew drinks? .

However, today, with the development of society, the concept has also changed, and this concept has gradually been eliminated by history. Like a farmer, he has a good relationship with several uncles. Every time he goes home, he will have a few drinks with them when he is free. Sometimes people get drunk and go back to their own homes, and then fall asleep, so the second half sentence is basically out of date, while the first half sentence still retains this custom in some areas.