How to guide middle school students to channel their bad emotions

The development of modern education requires teachers to be not only the carriers of human culture, but also the defenders of students' mental health. Whether students' psychology can be scientifically grasped and students' healthy growth can be promoted according to the situation is an important symbol of the success or failure of the class teacher's work. Optimism is a sign of harmony between physical and mental activities, an important manifestation of mental health and the basis of efficient learning. And bad mood and bad psychological factors are the important causes of physical and mental diseases. [Keywords:] Guiding emotions and guiding positive emotions such as stability and happiness are beneficial to the normal activities of internal organs and glands and enhance the body's resistance. A good mood is also conducive to improving memory, attention, reaction ability and establishing good interpersonal relationships, which is conducive to efficient learning. Marx once said: "A good mood can relieve the fatigue and pain of the body more than ten medicines." Middle school students are in the initial stage of the formation of world outlook and outlook on life. Their mood fluctuates greatly, their emotional reaction intensity is strong, their self-control ability is weak, their mood is easy to change, or they are unhappy, unhappy or irritable. These all affect their normal life and study, and sometimes they do something radical. Therefore, it is particularly important to guide middle school students to learn to control and adjust their emotions. 1. Find out why you are in a bad mood. When you are depressed, worried, fidgety, uneasy and unhappy, don't let it develop freely, but take the initiative to find the reasons. Whether it's the misunderstanding of others, something you did wrong, or difficulties in study, unsuccessful exams, or family reasons, we should find out the crux of the problem and try our best to solve it. If you can't find out the reason, then you may be in the "low tide period" of the emotional cycle. Girls can also think about whether it is a "physiological special period" or the influence of the weather and other environments, and it will be fine after a while; It is also possible that the quality of sleep is not good, and lack of sleep has a great influence on the mood. Find the reason and solve the problem with the right medicine. 2. Countermeasures (1) When the body relaxes to divert attention, it is too nervous and fearful, and psychological tension can be relieved by physical relaxation. You can take a deep breath first, and then exhale slowly, which can make your muscles relax quickly. At the same time, constantly hint at yourself to "relax, relax" and repeat these steps until some bad emotions are alleviated. At the same time, focus on interesting things or events that interest you, stay for a while, or open the window to see the blue sky, green trees and smell the flowers in the distance. Or listen to your favorite concert to help you relax. If you can jump a few steps to the rhythm of the music, you will feel better. You can also chat with your good friends or family and tell them what you met in the chat. This will not only increase the connection between you, but also transfer the tension and share it with friends or family. (2) vent appropriately in an appropriate way. Middle school students are in a period of intense emotional changes, and it is easy to get angry about some small things. Suppressing anger is very harmful to the body, especially to the liver and heart! Letting it out sometimes hurts others and yourself. It's better to avoid it for a while and let yourself calm down before looking for a more suitable solution. For example, when you have conflicts with your classmates, you don't have to struggle, sigh or blame yourself. You can relax by playing ball games, taking a walk, listening to music, chatting with someone or taking part in some other meaningful relaxation activities, and then objectively analyze the cause of the matter, whether you are wrong or the other person misunderstood you. Take it easy, criticize and self-criticize when necessary. For example, if you are criticized by the teacher in class, you should take the initiative to admit your mistakes. Even if you feel a little wronged sometimes, you should have positive psychological hints. The teacher is usually very kind to me, especially concerned about me, and forgives my mistakes. If all this fails, you can take the initiative to communicate with your parents, teachers, classmates and friends, objectively analyze yourself and face yourself squarely. As the saying goes, "shout to solve a thousand worries." Emotional fluctuations and mental depression caused by various reasons, sometimes as long as you shout one or several times, you will suddenly feel calm, refreshed and full of vitality. This is because yelling can speed up blood circulation, make the cerebral cortex in a state of moderate excitement and make physical and mental health at the best level. Modern science has proved that tears are not a sign of cowardice. It has been observed that people who have been depressed for a long time and do not shed tears are twice as likely to get sick as those who often shed tears. According to the survey, many people say that they feel much better after crying. So you should cry and laugh. Vent appropriately. (3) Reading more and learning more, and establishing a correct world outlook is a scientific cognitive system and the core part of personality, which regulates and dominates people's attitude towards the world around them and also determines the changes of emotions. Read more history books and psychology books, draw nutrients that are beneficial to your progress, and consciously regulate your behavior with moral standards. At ordinary times, we can also look at the examples of Chinese and foreign celebrities' tenacious struggle, learn to think dialectically, hint at their tolerance for others, and think positively when things happen. Only in this way can we calmly deal with setbacks and failures, bravely face the difficulties in work, life and study, and keep ourselves in a good emotional state. (4) Regular exercise, reasonable diet and telling jokes. Humor researchers have found that fitness exercise can cause a series of physiological changes in the body, and its effect is similar to those drugs that can refresh the mind. Exercise is one of the most effective ways to relax. Therefore, we should cultivate our interest in exercise at ordinary times, especially in group events, such as ice skating, badminton and basketball. When you are depressed, playing a ball with your partner, sweating all over, and then taking a hot bath will have a very obvious effect on overcoming your bad mood. This will have a better effect on emotional regulation. All the energy of brain activity comes from the food we eat, so mood swings are also related to the food we eat. Som, the author of Food and Emotion, believes that to ensure a good mood, we should develop good eating habits: eat regularly (especially breakfast) and limit the excessive intake of caffeine and sugar (they may make you too excited). Judith Wartemann, a nutritional biochemist in Massachusetts, believes that carbohydrates can increase the content of serotonin in brain blood, which is considered as a natural sedative. All kinds of fruits, rice and miscellaneous grains are foods rich in carbohydrates. Laughing often is humorous. "Smile, ten years old" and "always quiet", telling jokes, having fun and relaxing are conducive to regulating bad emotions. (5) consider the problem from the other side's standpoint. If you are in conflict with others, even if you are right, there is no need to be opinionated. Instead, we should actively, calmly and objectively analyze the causes of things and think from each other's standpoint, which will help to solve the problem objectively. Learn to tolerate others, learn to criticize yourself, learn to broaden your psychological capacity, and let yourself have good cultivation and broad mind. "Tolerance is a virtue." For some trivial matters, there is no need to spend a lot of time arguing and pestering, and there is no need to be competitive in everything. Everyone has advantages and disadvantages, everyone's intelligence is limited, it is impossible to surpass others in everything, and it is not easy to succeed in one or two aspects. There is no need to look great everywhere, which will only make you often fall into bad emotions such as dissatisfaction, anger, self-blame, mental stress and bad temper. (6) Have the spirit of "sour grapes". When you fail to pursue a certain goal or get angry for no reason, in order to reduce your inner disappointment and dissatisfaction, finding a reason to comfort yourself can dilute your inner pain. Using this method occasionally helps to avoid mental breakdown. For example, you are sad that you are not selected for the competition because of limited places! Think about it from another angle. If you are selected, you will take part in the training, which will take up a lot of your time, not only affect your study, but also increase your pressure. Not being selected will not affect your study! In this way, by saying that you will be sour if you can't eat grapes, you can help yourself accept the reality that you can't eat grapes, which is good for stabilizing your mood.