People who never praise your circle of friends have these four mentalities, and no matter how good the relationship is, they should stay away.

There is a saying in Zhihu: "Modern people would rather not eat and make friends."

Socializing in a circle of friends has become a popular social way nowadays. If you don't play in the circle of friends, or don't play WeChat, others may think that you are out of tune or out of tune.

However, for us, what is the role of making friends?

In fact, if you send a circle of friends, others will praise you, and then you will feel very happy. Because being recognized by others is ultimately a human need.

What does it feel like to send a circle of friends and no one likes it at the end? Just a little lost and empty. You know, human beings are always happy or sad for their inner dissatisfaction.

How do you feel about those WeChat friends who don't like you?

The average person's feelings are actually very simple, that is, "doubt" and "dislike", thinking what others think of themselves and what others think of themselves.

At any time, people who never praise your circle of friends often have these four kinds of mentality, and no matter how good the relationship is, you should stay away from it.

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Mentality 1: There are contradictions with you in reality, and you deliberately turn a blind eye.

Some old classmates in the past and some colleagues in the company have a certain relationship with us, but they just don't like it and even block you. Why?

Many relationships in reality are fake. You see that others are particularly kind to you, but in fact they are just "going through the motions" and have no true feelings at all.

Since there is no true feelings, others will not take you to heart.

It can be seen from the circle of friends that you care about him very much and praise him every time, but he still doesn't return to you or even turns a blind eye to you. This shows that others have a problem with you.

What should you do at this time? Should we continue to treat each other warmly or change our attitude?

There is a truth that we should understand. If we can't make friends, how can we keep good friends? Then, we might as well be indifferent to them and don't need to live "wishful thinking".

Yes, it's a breeze. You respect me, and I respect you. Now I give you face, but you turn a blind eye. This can only show that the fate of both sides is over and everything is fine.

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Mentality 2: I can't see that you are doing well and don't want to add icing on the cake.

Praise is the icing on the cake. Especially after you win a big prize, you send a circle of friends just to share your joy.

But it is an "award-winning" type of circle of friends, and few people will like you.

In this regard, we can sum up these two views from life.

First of all, if you send some friends who have not made achievements, such as sharing food, sharing where to travel and sharing your feelings, others will certainly praise you.

Secondly, if you send some friends with special achievements, such as how much money you have earned, promotion and salary increase, and which leader has praised you, then others will definitely block you and will not praise you at all.

There is a simple reason. People look at your circle of friends, just want to see your life busy and your life mediocre, but they don't want to see your life beautiful and fruitful. This is the "shameful" mentality at work.

Imagine that it is unrealistic to give charcoal in the snow, but now there is no one who can add icing on the cake, and even a favorite friend can't do it. What's the point of such a relationship?

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Mentality 3: The more connected people are, the less they praise you.

I've seen such a contradiction.

Lao Wang has been praised by the general manager recently, and he is quite indomitable. As a result, he sent his achievements and the process of being interviewed by the general manager to a circle of friends.

After two days, Lao Wang found that almost all outsiders praised him, but his relatives didn't like him, and even his cousin who played better with him chose to turn a blind eye.

Lao Wang is strange at this time. In the past, he held family gatherings and sent food to friends. Relatives praised him. Why not praise him today?

Slowly, Lao Wang himself woke up, not that his relatives didn't want to like it, but that he didn't like it at all.

There is a saying that relatives want to know about your life in order to know that you are worse off than them, not that you are better off than them.

People, in fact, are very realistic and will only compare with "people around them". When your life is not smooth, your relatives immediately laugh at you and praise you. When you have a good life, others pretend to be invisible and treat you as an invisible man.

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Mentality 4: I only like diving, and I don't like leaving any traces.

In real life, there is such a person who is used to diving and doesn't like to have too much contact with others. He is only willing to watch, but he doesn't like praise.

Such people are actually very low-key and fickle. In their eyes, passing colleagues are not friends, only intimate friends are friends.

It is difficult for us to deal with these people, because others have no intention of dealing with you at all.

We can sum up a truth that the more fickle and single-minded people are, the more they like to praise their close friends, not outsiders and passers-by. This kind of praise is their inner "recognition".

Speaking of which, I believe we can understand a truth. If others don't praise you, they just don't treat you as a friend.

Nowadays, it is better to stay away from people who can't even make friends. Because no matter how hard you work, others may not be good to you. That's all.

Text/There are deer in Shushan