Would you rather let your children pursue a career that you favor, or would you rather let your children choose freely?

The children of the future are very different from our generation. They are more independent and more focused on self-satisfaction. It is impossible for most of them to follow their parents' "instructions" to choose a career, so the concerns you raised are unnecessary, because in the future most children will definitely make free choices, and their parents will not be able to interfere if they want.

What we should worry about is: Will our children really be capable in the future and have multiple choices to choose from?

Our generation, as well as our parents’ generation, actually do not have the right to choose. Because we are coerced by the social environment and public perception in which we live, "study and getting ahead in order to gain success recognized by the world" has become our only choice since childhood. Therefore, everyone is envious of Gao Xiaosong, because his mother told him that "in addition to the current humiliation, there are also poems and distant places", so his life is wanton and colorful.

If parents have limited cognition and still use the same old methods to explain life, success and happiness to their children, they may raise children who will not have any free choice in the future. It seems that they can choose freely, but because their personal thinking, ability, and vision are already there, these things accumulated and shaped during the growth process restrict them. It seems that they have a choice, but in fact they have no choice. Just like most of us (parents of children), we get good grades, go to a good school, and finally find a "good job." But among all kinds of professions, where is the so-called good job? If you are looking for a job to make a living, then all jobs will lead to the same goal.

What do parents need to do so that their children can have "real" free choices in the future?

1. Parents should upgrade their understanding of the relationship between life, career, and happiness. ?Whether parents choose or children choose, in the end it is nothing more than hoping that their children will be happy in the future. As parents, we must first clarify our understanding of the relationship between life, career, and happiness. What kind of career is successful? What kind of life is happiness? The way and angle in which parents interpret these issues will have a profound impact on their children. For example, if parents have high-level and low-level careers in their hearts, their children will not have so much freedom to choose in the future. 2. Cultivate children to read and think independently. I have always believed that a child who loves reading and thinking should not have a bad life. Even if he lives an ordinary life, his heart will be rich.

Reading can promote independent thinking, and children with the ability to think independently generally have a clearer idea of ??what kind of person they want to be and what kind of life they want to live in the future. Parents of such children basically don’t have to worry too much.

3. Pay attention to enthusiasm and help children discover and cultivate enthusiasm. Look around you and ask how many people love their position? Whether it is a double first-class institution or an ordinary institution, how many students choose a career that is their passion after leaving the institution?

Whether children can live happily in the future has nothing to do with whether the career is chosen by the parents or the children. It has nothing to do with whether the career is the child's passion.

Passion is a powerful "inner driving force". This driving force is an inexhaustible source of energy. With it, your life can be successful, just like Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Bill Joy et al. Enthusiasm allows people to spontaneously challenge difficulties, allows people to invest 10,000 hours without getting bored, and allows people to gain a sense of satisfaction and happiness.

It can be said that if you have no passion for the profession you are engaged in, it is destined to be as miserable as living in hell.