20 yuan of new year's goods, hit back at the humiliation of my mother-in-law three years ago and shattered my marriage. Why?

Life is like a puppet show. I have the clue that affects the puppet, and there is no disorder in any silk thread. I am free to take and take action or stop, and I am not restricted or influenced by others at all, so I am out of the game field.

Only husband and wife can dominate the fate of marriage. Some people blame others for the bad consequences of marriage. In fact, the chances that others can influence marriage are very low. Your mind and tolerance will be reflected in marriage to a certain extent. How broad-minded you are, how much pressure your marriage can bear.

People often like to make irresponsible remarks about other people's marriages and intervene artificially. At this time, we should use our brains to distinguish and concentrate on suppressing some unpleasant sounds. Cherish the fate with your partner, as long as the line that affects marriage is not chaotic, no one will disturb the rhythm of your control of marriage.

No matter what others think and say, as long as it doesn't hurt your feelings for your spouse, you should pick it up heavily and then put it down gently. People who are easily rhymed by other people's words may actually care more about their feelings.

New year's goods may seem unremarkable, but perhaps marriage is a major event related to the relationship between husband and wife. On New Year's Eve, people will start buying new year's goods early to express their joy. At this time, the couple will also buy new year's goods for their parents to show filial piety. So in everyone's marriage, will both parents treat each other equally? Does everyone have a bowl of water?

No, not everyone will be as close as their parents on the issue of new year's goods. Some people are not well-known and care very much, and will prepare the "weight" of new year's goods according to the attitude of their parents; Some people will measure how much money they spend according to how good their spouse is to them; What's more, just avoid it.

The first of the three is the most common. People who deal with problems with emotions are prone to disagree with their spouses when buying new year's goods. After all, parents are our own, and everyone wants to show filial piety in the new year's goods. You spend more money on your parents, why do you spend less on my parents? It's not fair.

A taxi driver named Zhu Hongda was born in 1985. His marriage history is short, and his marriage lasted only three years, so he got stuck on the issue of new year's goods. According to his summary, both his wife and his mother-in-law are unreasonable people. Obviously, they paid something, but in the end they didn't get it. His wife opposed him and divorced him. He said, "20 yuan of new year's goods avenged my mother-in-law's humiliation three years ago and shattered my marriage."

The humiliation of her mother-in-law at the wedding laid the groundwork for marriage.

Zhu Hongda has a strong self-esteem, which is why he is old and unmarried. There are two younger brothers in his family. My father died in middle age and my mother was paralyzed in bed all the year round. As long as the average girl hears about his family, she stays away like a refugee. In order to avoid being rejected by others first, men never take the initiative to find a partner.

Until I met Yang Wanhui who tallied goods in the supermarket, he found the other person's wallet in the taxi and gave it back to the girl who had a good impression on the taxi driver. The two talents gradually began to associate.

Miss Yang's parents didn't agree at first, but finally agreed. Hong Chu also tried her best to give Yang Wanhui a decent wedding. However, what everyone didn't expect was that the mother-in-law gave her son-in-law a duel at the wedding. At the wedding, in front of everyone, she sarcastically criticized her son-in-law, saying that she had no room at home and her mother was sick, which dragged down her daughter as beautiful as flowers and pure as jade.

It is this humiliation that makes the groom wish he had a crack. He is a man with strong self-esteem, with clear love and hate, and he is satisfied to marry a dear girl. But his mother-in-law wouldn't let him go at the wedding and embarrassed him in public. This incident, like a thorn, deeply penetrated into his heart and laid the groundwork for their future marriage.

Don't meet, don't bother, doesn't mean I don't care.

Zhu Hongda is not an open-minded and generous person. Although he conquered Yang Wanhui with the spirit of finding money, this man is still a little petty from the heart. The wedding left an indelible impression on him and made him deeply feel the power of money in people's hearts.

After the mother-in-law married her father-in-law, she gave it to her eldest son to take care of the children, which also avoided the embarrassing situation that he followed his wife back to her family. But seeing and not disturbing doesn't mean that he has completely put it down.

After half a year of marriage, his mother died, so he stopped running taxis and started a business. Perhaps because of his luck and honesty, he earned seven figures in just two years. He bought a house and a car almost at one go. Hearing his mother-in-law calling to congratulate him, he felt that it was not enough.

In addition to achieving economic strength, he also hopes to repay the harm caused by his mother-in-law's humiliation at the wedding. In his view, only in this way can the repressed breath in the chest be completely spit out.

20 yuan's new year's goods are my "reward" to my mother-in-law.

Here comes the opportunity. Last year, my parents-in-law came back from other places, hoping to spend the New Year with my daughter and son-in-law. Although Zhu Hongda was busy with business, he readily agreed to the request. Yang Wanhui hasn't been near her parents for several years, and she is very happy to hear the news.

She specifically told her husband that this year's new year's goods should buy very advanced things. It is said that women are careful, but in their family, the opposite is true. Yang Wanhui is a careless person. Generally speaking, things like shopping are left to Zhu Hongda, who agreed to his wife's request.

A week ago, my wife went directly to her parents' home after work and told her husband to come directly to see her after buying the new year's goods. According to her idea, her husband will definitely buy some high-end gifts, because he is not a stingy person at ordinary times. This is the first time to spend the New Year at her parents' house. It must be like a dog.

Zhu Hongda arrived as scheduled, but he only brought 20 yuan's melon seeds. His explanation is also grandiose, and time is too late. I don't think the gift wrapped outside is so good, or the melon seeds on the roadside are the most authentic. When his wife heard his words, she was very angry and felt ashamed. He thinks he is very Japanese. He is rich, but with his mother-in-law, he feels that he has "pulled back a game".

My intention broke my wife's heart.

When they got home, they had a big fight. His wife thinks he is unreasonable, and he thinks his wife and himself are not United: isn't it just a new year's goods thing? The retirement salary of parents-in-law is so high, do they lack this thing? Although his mouth is hard, what he thinks in his heart is that through this incident, his mother-in-law also knows that he has a grudge, which is the best "reward" for his contempt for her mother-in-law.

He broke Yang Wanhui's heart on purpose. She almost forgot what her mother said at the wedding, but after they had a big fight, the man who fell in love with him turned his back and said that he just wanted his mother-in-law to see what would happen if she looked down on her son-in-law!

She felt that there was really nothing to say with this vengeful man. Revenge on her parents, that is, slapping her face, made her feel very sad when she saw her mother's disappointed and lost eyes, and even began to regret choosing Zhu Hongda as her husband.

After the quarrel, Yang Wanhui packed his bags and left home. In this regard, Zhu Hongda, who is proud of his personality, did not keep him. Two months after the cold war, they chose to divorce. The fuse is because of 20 yuan's new year's goods. Yang Wanhui, who has become his ex-wife, still can't understand why a person should deliberately retaliate against her mother-in-law after marriage.

Narrowness of mind makes marriage a farce.

In this case, I can't say that my mother-in-law is not at all wrong, but after many years, I should forget what I should forget and retaliate against my wife's closest relatives with deliberate revenge. I can only say that this person is really narrow-minded and doesn't understand what it means.

From another point of view, the humiliation of her mother-in-law also had a great influence on him and affected his attitude towards life. But anyway, you are married, so the affection between you and your wife is the most important thing. You are bent on getting back at her relatives and hurting the marriage from the side.

Narrow-minded people often regard their marriage as a farce and make themselves a joke. If you have the ability and conditions to give your family a good material condition, most people will give generously. Why do you have to dig up old accounts because of a new year's purchase?

This 20-yuan new year's goods really hit back at his mother-in-law for humiliating him three years ago, because he is rich now, and not spending it means that he still remembers the past, but it is also completely shattered for their marriage.

Short-sightedness can make people stubbornly look only at the present. What is the most important thing in a happy marriage? Forgetfulness. Only those who are good at forgetting trivial matters will grasp the big and let go of the small and safeguard the integrity of marriage to the maximum extent.