How introverted are the most introverted people you have ever met?

Last week, an employee who graduated from 985 school was dismissed. It is not that he is incompetent, but that he is too introverted.

Before inviting him in, the boss was attracted by his background in 985 College. The only fly in the ointment is that his work experience is relatively short. The boss thought that there was no room for the big bodhisattva in those small temples, and then he became more confident in the welfare treatment of our company. After a quick chat, I decided to let him come to work. Who knew that his performance after he came surprised all the people in our department, only to know that personality problems led to the shortcomings of the work. Because I have never met such an introverted person, I thought I was not lively and outgoing enough. I didn't expect that there were people outside, and there were mountains outside.

Many colleagues reported that they had nothing to say after meeting him on the road. He is the kind of person who asks one question after another. If you didn't find a topic to talk to him, he would never take the initiative to talk. If he answers you, it is as small as a mosquito's voice. If you don't try to listen, you can't hear what he is saying clearly.

During working hours, he can sit in his workstation all day, and other colleagues occasionally chat and joke. He is like a Buddha, and external things have no influence on him. I later thought that this personality may be the main reason why he was admitted to 985.

Once I really counted what he said one day, and there were always four sentences.

First, "no", this is the cleaning aunt asking him if he still wants the box on his desk.

Second, "no", this is when the leader asks him what problems need to be solved by the leader.

Third, "You go to eat first", which was asked by other colleagues when they called for dinner at noon.

4. "I'm not at home now, please help me put it in the cupboard." The last sentence was said when he answered the express phone.

There is a big problem with his expressive ability. Obviously, when the leader asks him something, he can't even tell the basic story clearly, or he speaks intermittently, and the listener is very entangled. The same is true when reporting work. I never ask questions, and there are no questions that need the cooperation of others. I just sit there and listen to others.

At first, others asked him for advice out of courtesy. Later, when I saw that he was anxious to death every time he spoke, I gradually stopped asking him. In fact, this is an extremely dangerous signal at work. Once the leaders and colleagues have nothing to look for you, it means that you are marginalized and not far from leaving.

Personally, I think introverts will have some problems in expression more or less because they don't talk much and lack exercise. Once they are not focused on formal occasions, they can't express themselves clearly even if they know what is going on. This is actually a very serious problem.

The company will have afternoon tea every few days. At this time, it is a rest time after working all afternoon, and the administration will arrange to buy a lot of snacks for the company. At this time, colleagues will go to the teahouse in twos and threes to eat a cake, roast chicken wings, or sit down for a cup of coffee and coke to chat. This guy never goes. Sometimes our leaders can't stand it. When calling him, he shook his head to show that he would not go. Either he is not hungry, or he doesn't want to eat on the pretext that he is not feeling well.

The same is true for departmental dinners. He can not go. He has been employed for three months. We have dinner once a month, so he went there once. Everyone was having a hard time, so he followed.

As a result, he went as if there was no such person, and he had been playing with his mobile phone. It seems that the topic of others' conversation has nothing to do with him, so he can't get in a word. After eating, I made an excuse and left in a hurry. After he left, a group of us gossips wondered if his marriage had suffered any blows before he became like this. This is the first time in everyone's life.

He always gives people the feeling of avoiding all opportunities to communicate with others as much as possible. To give a few simple examples: he always avoids the rush hour at noon. Everyone goes back to the office in twos and threes. He cleans up and goes out to eat alone. For example, when everyone is waiting for the elevator to get off after work, he will open the fire door and go down the stairs by himself, on the 15 floor. He does this every day.

What is more exaggerated is that once I went to the bathroom, I was the only one who was convenient in the bathroom, and there was a seat next to me. He hurried in. As soon as I got there, he was going to open a single room for squatting. Unfortunately, all three doors are occupied. When I thought that he had to be next to me, I was trying to find something in my mind to avoid this embarrassing moment. He went out again, then pretended to wash his hands outside and saw that I had finished washing.

He tried in our company for three months, and everyone, including leading colleagues, found it difficult to integrate, communicate and work well. He only has a diploma from 985 University, so when he is about to become a full member, inform the personnel department to let him go.

I have to say, it's the first time I've met such an introverted person. People used to think that honest children were very good and would not do bad things, even if they were introverted. However, this view is no longer feasible in this society. In today's Internet information age, more emphasis is placed on communication and exchange between people. Only in the process of communication can we promote the sublimation of emotions and make the works more perfect and closer to each other's expectations. Being too introverted will undoubtedly greatly reduce the impression of others.

I dare say that most people don't like silent people, because such people are too tired to get along with.

Xiaoji has a decent job, stable income, introverted personality, unhappy, inarticulate, no career achievement, no marriage and love. He is 38 years old, single, full, and his family is not hungry.

There are countless blind dates, and none of them succeed. Two years ago, an acquaintance introduced him to a girlfriend. Xiao Ji is very satisfied. Girlfriend thinks Xiaoji is introverted and inarticulate, but she is kind-hearted, honest and reliable, and agrees to establish a relationship.

The first time I met her parents, I was at a loss. I'm wordy and incoherent. I dare not look people in the eye. I sat motionless on the sofa, and others asked me what to do and told him what to do. From beginning to end, I didn't say a few words, like a puppet.

When eating and drinking, his girlfriend told him to eat vegetables, only the dishes in the bowl in front of him, and turned a blind eye to the delicacies in other bowls, and dared not cross the line. In a short time, the two bowls of vegetables in front of him were eaten up by him.

Drink without toasting, drink alone, and others will respect his wine, no matter how much is in the cup, do it at once. Unconsciously, I drank too much, saying that my future father-in-law was very close and made a big joke.

The woman's parents thought that he was not only introverted, but also silly and unwilling to pull a few, so people in two of a kind were forced to separate. Xiaoji is still alone and doesn't know where his girlfriend is.

In my opinion, Xiaoji's introverted personality is a manifestation of his lack of self-confidence, courage and responsibility. Because of lack of self-confidence, he is afraid of saying the wrong thing and doing the wrong thing. The more you do, the more afraid you are of talking, the more afraid you are of doing things, and the more introverted you are.

Therefore, introverts must strengthen their study and practice, constantly enrich their cultural knowledge and social experience, and constantly improve their self-confidence, so as to overcome the chronic diseases of inferiority, self-confidence and introversion.

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1: I trembled when I introduced myself.

At the age of marriage, the mother and fetus are still single.

3: I have no friends of the opposite sex around me.

4. When talking to the opposite sex, you will be nervous and blush, and a few words will end the topic.

Never dare to speak in crowded places.

6: I listened silently during the meeting and kept silent.

7: Stay at home on weekends and never participate in activities of colleagues and friends.

8: Never toast the leader on the wine table.

At the party, we all sat in the corner.

10: I usually talk very little and just listen.

1 1: I don't like excitement, so I am humble.

12: I will think about it because of someone else's words.

13: I hate noisy communication and like one-on-one communication.

14: clever and quiet, with a sense of existence.

15: I don't know how to say it. All kinds of work are stressful, but other people in the same position are very relaxed.

16: Never please leading colleagues and never say anything against your will.

17: Calling a dinner is like calling an execution ground.

18: Lack of self-confidence and dare not admit myself.

19: I felt sorry for my boss when I went to a small shop and didn't buy anything.

20: When you are nervous, you will tremble with nervousness.

I brought an apprentice, who is an extremely introverted person. On the day of his application, I happened to be temporarily arrested by the director to interview several of their shortlisted candidates. It was the first time in my life to interview someone else, and it was also an interview that I still regret. Because the difficult conditions of this colleague are so beautiful, the double 985 master's degree and various scholarships attracted me at once. You know, our unit generally can't recruit 2 1 1 master's degree for several years, let alone double 985. To tell the truth, it was selfish of me to invite him in I think it is also excellent to recruit him to help me share some hard bones in the project. I asked a few more technical questions, and when I was sure that my strength was no problem, I tried my best to recommend him to the director, greeted the personnel department, and took the green channel to get him to the department to be my apprentice. I thought I could have another right-hand man in the future, but in fact, this incident has made me unable to lift my head in the department and become the laughing stock of everyone.

The child has some strength, but his personality defect is serious and he is too introverted. What are the specific aspects?

Every time he meets a leader, he is afraid and hides. Sometimes you can't hide and run. According to the logic of normal people, seeing the leader must be greeting, even if it is just a simple greeting or nodding. But this guy's performance once embarrassed the leader, and he almost fooled the leader. The leader called me over and said, "What do you recruit? Take it yourself, if you can't take it out, it's up to you! " . I can only talk to him and show him more about workplace etiquette. As a result, it's even more useless not to talk about it. I thought it was two big men talking openly face to face, and even made this guy cry, which made me very unhappy. Of course, that conversation didn't have any substantive effect. He still lives in his own world, and he doesn't like greeting people or communicating with them.

It took me a long time to understand that communication and dealing with people are really access conditions in the workplace, and his personality completely delayed work. Originally, I thought that since you don't like to communicate with people, you should bury yourself in your work, but in fact, I am naive. When assigning tasks, he only knows how to bury himself in it, has no feedback, and doesn't know how to hold a meeting to discuss problems. He is completely immersed in his own world, and some problems can be solved immediately when everyone discusses them. He can work overtime and stay up half a day without saying anything, which greatly delays the progress of the project. Moreover, after I talked to him several times, I didn't talk to him directly, avoiding me and telling him to have dinner together for several times at noon and ignoring me. Later, I heard from other colleagues that he didn't eat directly at noon and slept alone on his desk. Everyone refused to participate in the league building activities for various reasons, which directly led to the fact that the work could not be carried out at all.

After working for so many years, I lost my new intern internship before it was over for the first time. Persuading him means leading. I want to fight with the leaders. After all, I recruited him. As a result, the leader pulled me aside and severely criticized me. The leader is afraid that this guy will do something extreme and can only do it hastily.

In fact, it is sometimes painful for introverts to go to society, especially to the workplace, because they always treat the world in a way that they think is kind, peaceful and gentle. But in the eyes of the general public, they are really hard to get close to. They like to wrap their hearts tightly and make people unpredictable, so their behavior is so weird and even a little scary. For example, as we all know, Ma Jiajue, a college student who shocked the campus many years ago, killed many roommates with a hammer. In fact, Ma Jiajue's heart is fragile. Because of her extreme introversion, it is difficult for Ma Jiajue to blend into everyone's circle. Everyone finds it difficult to understand his behavior and communicate with him effectively. He also did a lot of things that he thought he paid for, but his roommates didn't buy it at all. After a series of behaviors, it is difficult for everyone to assimilate this alien. Then they began to laugh at and even tease Ma Jiajue, which led to the tragedy of Ma Jiajue's nervous breakdown and anger killing his roommate.

Therefore, when you meet introverts in your life, you must be kind to them, don't ask for understanding, but don't challenge their fragile hearts.

Suspect X, introverted Shi Hong in appearance.

Introverted Ma Jiajue

I am aloof and aloof all my life. I never make friends, take part in any activities and seldom talk. No matter what others talk or say, I don't want to interrupt, no matter what others do. I won't be like everyone else. No matter what I see others doing, what do I know? I won't talk about it. Just be yourself all your life and bow your head to be a willing cow. Although I am depressed, introverted and socially fearful. But at any time, I am different from others. A hundred provinces a day, always thinking about yourself. I have been depressed all my life, and I can't wait to make up my mind!

I have a male classmate who has always been a loner, taciturn, does not like to communicate with others and rarely talks. I am a person who talks to him very much, and he is very shy. I tried to make friends with him, but he didn't take part in many entertainment activities and didn't go out to surf the Internet. After studying together for three years, I feel that he is too introverted and really has no sense of existence. He should communicate with others more, get along with others more and leave more beautiful memories for himself! Maybe an introvert has a different world view, but we just can't understand it!

How introverted are the most introverted people you have ever met?

When I served in the army in the late 1970s, I often engaged in military training in the countryside. Our landlord and his wife are typical introverts. People don't ask, they won't take the initiative to talk to you. They didn't hear them chatting with each other all day, and they didn't take the initiative to chat with us.

The villagers gave them a nickname "Old Boring", that is, boring in the new and never telling others.

People of this character are most likely to commit crimes. Once, a cadre living in a village team said that when he was hoeing in the field, he only wanted to speed up, broke a large part of the hoes of rice seedlings and asked him to pick up the careless rice seedlings. This angered him, and the honest man lost his temper even more. He threw a hoe at the head of the cadre in Baocun village and smashed it to pieces. Seeing that the situation was not good, Baocun cadres quickly bowed their heads and avoided. The hoe missed the head of Baocun cadres, but hit the waist of Baocun cadres. So he didn't feel wronged, and wanted to attack again with a hoe, and was quickly embraced by the members. This prevented a bloodshed.

However, he has violated the law and constituted a crime of intentional injury, so he was arrested by the Public Security Bureau.

Inexplicable, what's wrong with introversion? Aren't Deng Gong, Mary, Mary and Stephen Chow all introverts? Maybe some young people just graduated and lack communication skills. They need more tolerance and encouragement from society.

Generally speaking, people's personality is extroverted and introverted, which is genetically determined. But in reality, introversion and extroversion are not absolute. There are many introverts around us, and it's no different. But there are also a few introverts who don't like to talk very much and get along well, that's all.

I used to be very introverted, especially when girls talked, and it was easy to blush. Although we can't talk about Kan Kan now, basic communication is not a problem. The disadvantage is that people you don't know are too boring to find a topic, and it's easy to embarrass yourself.

Another disadvantage is that it is not easy to let go. Sometimes, really, you can be very good, but you choose to be patient and give the opportunity to someone worse than you. If you compete with him, he tramples on you; If you and he are teammates, your group has poor grades.

In this society, there is competition and cooperation, and it is difficult to achieve results alone. All walks of life need to communicate with people. They are introverted and don't like to talk. Nobody really wants to talk to you.

This society doesn't need introverts, really. I hope introverts will try to change.

Recalling how ridiculous it is to blush when talking to girls, how many classmates I missed, how many opportunities I missed to talk to girls, and how many I missed because I couldn't let go and didn't perform well …

Don't be introverted if you can be extroverted. There is no way out for introverts, especially if they dare not say anything and talk about development.

Walk around the society more, and society will teach you to be a man.