Why do men regret after marriage?

On the surface, there is some truth in the reason for regretting marrying the present wife, but in detail, it is full of loopholes, which is very wonderful and makes people disagree.

Whether this anonymous netizen said that his wife was cold-hearted, or other netizens said that his wife's education, appearance, figure, cooking and other reasons could not stand scrutiny. Because these situations should be known before marriage, not after marriage.

Then, why can you accept these "shortcomings" of your wife before marriage and regret it after marriage?

In fact, the answer is very simple, because love is before marriage and life is after marriage.

As the saying goes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. When in love, a man automatically adds beauty and filters to his girlfriend, which is all her advantages, even the air is sweet. After marriage, these beauties and filters will be broken, men will see their real wives, and her shortcomings will be magnified, so that men can taste the bitterness of marriage and regret it.

Therefore, the wife has not changed, but the man's heart has changed. Just like the "seven-year itch" in marriage, both husband and wife have not changed, but their hearts have changed, so they will look at each other and feel bored, resulting in a marriage crisis.

There is a popular saying that marriage is simple, but people are complicated.

Few marriages don't regret it.

On one occasion, I saw this passage on the Internet:

Men regret marrying whom, and women regret marrying whom. Because after marriage, we are "our own people" who live together day and night. We only look at each other's shortcomings, without expectation or praise.

There is some truth in this passage. Few couples do not quarrel, and few marriages do not regret.

After marriage, the love between men and women will gradually turn into family affection, and the enthusiasm and passion during the love period will gradually fade away, becoming the "main theme" of life. Romance and sense of ceremony are just "spices" of life, which occasionally make a quiet life ripple.

I always say that love and marriage are two different things. Love is full of romance and pink bubbles, and every second is romantic and sweet, while marriage is full of daily necessities and trivial matters, and every second is real and dull.

Many people can't accept the huge gap between love and marriage, and they will regret it after marriage and even want to divorce.

One of my classmates once told me about his wife at a class reunion:

Before getting married, I thought my wife was very diligent and gentle, and almost never quarreled with me.

I didn't expect that after marriage, she simply became a dissatisfied housewife, and I couldn't stand nagging every day. It doesn't matter, but she doesn't even want to do housework. A woman takes care of her children at home when she doesn't go to work every day. Shouldn't she do some housework? Am I tired outside all day and have to go home to do housework at night?

Besides, she wants to take care of my money and let me give her my bank card. The reason turned out to be to prevent me from spending money indiscriminately. I am a big man, let a woman take care of money, which makes people laugh. I can spend what I earn at will, which is beyond her control.

If I had known that she would become like this after marriage, I would never have married her. I really regret it now.

After listening to his speech, my heart was full of complicated feelings. The man's mouth is full of disgust for his wife, denying everything her wife has done. His wife works hard at home to take care of the baby, and in his eyes, it is as leisurely as a holiday. He also complains that his wife doesn't do housework.

Anyone who has taken care of children knows that taking care of children is definitely not an easy task. Sometimes I can't even eat, and I will be very tired after a whole day, and I have no time and energy to do housework.

In some men's stereotypes, women have to do housework and look after children, and men have to earn money to support their families. This is a fixed division of labor between men and women. However, housework and child care are not the exclusive tasks of women. The family belongs to the husband and wife, and the child is not brought by the woman from her family. Both husband and wife should raise it.

However, in many men's mouths, words like "I'll babysit for you" and "I'll help you with the housework" often appear, which hurts women's hearts.

Husband and wife need to run in, and marriage needs to operate. The most important thing in marriage is to understand each other, and the most important thing is to learn to praise each other, so that both parties have expectations for marriage and confidence in the future, and marriage can last for a long time.

Unfortunately, many people don't know how to get along with husband and wife and the rules of marriage management. When they encounter contradictions and problems, they will blame each other. The feelings of husband and wife will fade in repeated quarrels and accusations, and there will be more and more complaints about each other, leading to regret.