How did you get through the lowest point in your life?

In the two years when I gave birth to my daughter, I didn't go to work, but my husband suggested that after my daughter was one year old, we AA, he was responsible for milk powder and I was responsible for rent;

Sure enough, he kept his word, and even before I got my first month's salary, he implemented the AA system for husband and wife. From leaving my daughter at home to getting the second month's salary, it was the hardest day in my history. For money, I dig out the trash can, I pick up the dishes thrown by the market, and I secretly eat the buns left by others. ...

In 20 12, I ended my eight-year love, got married and fell in love, and soon got pregnant and had children. During the period, I didn't go to work well for various reasons. During that time, I was careful. After all, I want the money. I try my best to please my husband in front of him. I have no dignity. I thought it was enough to be as low as dust, but in fact, people don't look at how low you are, just what flowers you see.

Finally, one day, after he came back from work, I cooked a meal for him to eat. He did not move, and called again. He said angrily, damn it, what's this called?

Then I asked, why did you scold me for inviting you to dinner? What have I done to you?

At this time, he immediately jumped in front of me, grabbed my arm, threw me on the bed, and hit me hard in the face. I was at a loss, sad, heartbroken and suddenly out of breath. I don't know how long it took before the landlord came to persuade me, and I recovered. Wow, I cried. ...

In fact, I also thought about jumping off with my daughter to die afterwards, but the floor was too low, and I was afraid I wouldn't die. If I fall, my parents will be dragged down. ...

After that, he didn't feel guilty at all, but talked to me. I hit you, and you can hit me again, so I don't owe you anything!

He also said: I also want to give you a good life, but I have no money. I work alone for more than 3000 yuan a month. When will it end? There is no place to live in my hometown. At the beginning, I said that the child would run away, but you didn't agree. Now that you are born, you asked for it to suffer with adults. Children must be brought to my mother's house when they are one year old, and then they must adopt AA system. You can earn money and spend it yourself, but you can't make money. You can beg for food, and you don't want to spend my money. Also, in the future, you will pay the rent, and I will pay for the baby's milk powder. These two expenses are almost the same. ...

I think this is the result of his careful consideration. Knowing the difficulty, he said firmly: Yes!

20 14 years, after new year's day, I cried and left my daughter at home. When I left, I borrowed 400 yuan from my sister as the travelling expenses for going out to work. When I got to work, I wandered around looking for a job. After all kinds of setbacks, I only have more than 200 yuan left. I dare not eat, drink or take the bus. A week later, I found a job and lost 8 pounds in seven days.

I started my new job on 15, with a basic salary of 3500. I don't consider the first month's assessment. Pay on 25th, and pay on 20th of next month. In other words, my 200 yuan will take 35 days, including the bus fare to work, and occasionally invite helpful colleagues to drink water, make phone calls, sanitary napkins and breakfast and dinner. ...

That's not enough, so I gave up breakfast and ate at the company at noon, but I couldn't keep the dishes for dinner because he had to eat when he came back. He is an uncle, watching me toss and turn, waiting to see my jokes. I don't know!

After half a month, I only have 50 yuan left. I was so anxious that I couldn't sleep at night, so I went downstairs and found a cardboard box next to the trash can. I began to search all the trash cans in the community like a treasure hunt, piled up the waste neatly, got up at four or five in the morning and sold it to the uncle who collected the waste. I received more goods than others because I pulled the trash can at night 12. In this way, the cardboard mineral water bottle I picked up in the past was sold.

Fortunately, because I got up early, I met a big sister who sold steamed buns. She was busy with business in the morning, so she asked me for help for three hours, one hour 12 buns, and she could eat them for free. Of course I will. I finally don't have to secretly eat steamed bread left by my colleagues. Moreover, I am really happy to have an extra income.

But when the rent on 15 expired, my husband gave my phone number directly to the landlord. My husband doesn't know that I've only been working for 30 days and my salary has not been paid yet. He did it just to let me know that money is hard. I asked the landlord for a few days' grace, and the landlady showed an indescribable expression. I am very embarrassed.

Finally, on the 20th, ten days' salary 1200. As soon as I got home at night, I gave 600 yuan cash to my aunt, and then 600 yuan was left. I originally wanted to buy myself a pair of shoes, but on the 22nd, my elder sister's daughter suddenly called me and said, Second Aunt, something happened to my father, and my mother went to the hospital for a few days, so you just.

So, I only had 600 yuan, and I transferred 400 yuan to my niece in high school, leaving 200 yuan, which means it will take 28 days.

Fortunately, I have a part-time job in the morning and I also sell cartons and water bottles at night. Later, the butcher in the supermarket noticed me again and asked me to close the stall at night before cleaning the meat stall. About 1 1 end, 30 yuan for two hours. Occasionally, the proprietress will send me two spareribs, which makes me feel that life is really enjoyable.

I waited until the 20th of next month to get my salary, and I got 4,500 yuan, a lot of money, but I dare not squander it. This money is not easy to come by. I learned to save money and manage it confidently.

20 15 started to invest in a small business, of course, part-time, and the income exceeded half of the salary. I dare not leave my job impulsively, because my job has given me the backing and outlet.

Until now, in addition to taking the baby to work, I also earn some living expenses part-time and earn some traffic by reading code words. Of course, he doesn't know the last two, and I won't let him know!

How can I put it? I am still very grateful to him, because he let me see the reality clearly and let me tutor my children tomorrow. I don't have that fate; So, only run!

My worst time was the Chinese New Year in 2007, when my girlfriend rejected my poverty and proposed to break up. Bite her teeth and pay her back 35 thousand (borrowed her 30 thousand and gave her 5 thousand more interest). My relatives immediately drew a line with me.

How bad is it? I can't even pay two dollars on me. In those days, I have been wandering on the brink of crime, holding a knife every night and waiting for a beer by the river at night to make trouble. Anyway, I always have a bottom line in my heart. I won't steal. Stealing is looked down upon. If I am brave enough, I will catch it. But I don't rob good people, so single men and women are out of my consideration. I've been waiting by the river for the so-called bully who drank too much. I think eating black is more in line with my character.

Seriously, it was the most dangerous three days of my life. I sit by the river and silently observe the night beer stalls by the river every night, just waiting for those drunks to make trouble, and then I can determine my goal. But maybe God doesn't want me to go astray. The fourth day, a friend of mine suddenly called me and said nothing. That is, let me do him a favor and lend him my card number. As a result, he learned from the side that my financial situation was desperate, but he knew my character and starved to death in Dont Ask For Help. So in this way, I was given 1000 yuan for emergency. I remember him all my life, that is, this thousand dollars, which made me stop from the brink in time. To tell the truth, it was at that time that I realized that people are impatient and their brains really get hot.

I still remember one night, the defense team patrolled and saw me sitting alone on a stool by the river and asked me what I was doing. I didn't even lift my eyelids and said I was enjoying the cool. In fact, the knife is in my arms. As a result, the defense team sent me a cigarette and advised me to go back to rest early. In hindsight, I guess those sons might have thought I might be murderous at that time.

Later, with the support of a friend 1000 yuan, I quickly adjusted my mind and went where I needed to go. Anyway, I must pull myself together and move on.

Later, I turned over a new leaf, looked for a job, and took the exam. Cut off family ties, quietly precipitate yourself and work hard. ...

Actually, I am very grateful to my ex-girlfriend for abandoning me. If it hadn't happened, I wouldn't have woken up, and I might still be living in a daze.

After this incident, I feel that I have suddenly become tough, and my personality and temper are getting better and better. Many things have been learned to laugh it off.

In fact, in retrospect, some things are bullshit, which has no effect, and the purse is the last word.

I have been silent for ten years, and finally I have a stable life now, and my lost family and friendship are back. But I know in my heart that these are all illusions, at least I can't go back. Some things are really important, just don't say them. I can never find the feeling that blood is thicker than water.

I will always remember that at the age of 29, I took out two dollars and asked my mother for one hundred dollars. I was helpless and unbearable. But no, a penny can make a hero breathless ... fortunately, I was kind-hearted and didn't do anything bad at that time.

Now, I always remind myself, don't forget your initiative, and I should always remember the day when I couldn't get two yuan. I am 29 years old.

20 14 is the first year when my life began to decline rapidly. In the following years, I lived a nightmare life and was extremely sad.

In 20 14, my wife (ex-wife) suddenly went crazy because she was dragged into a virtual currency circle called MBI. Although I tried to dissuade her, she began to invest behind my back. After getting a little kindness, I began to devote myself more and more. If you don't have funds, you can make various credit card overdrafts and cash out. And tricked me into getting three or four credit cards from different banks. The contact information of these credit cards is her mobile phone number, and only she can receive text messages.

If we just cash out and overdraw a few credit cards, then during the thunderstorm, the currency circle will return hundreds of thousands to the bank, which is a big deal. At most, it will hurt the bones, but not the internal organs.

But she's not content with tinkering around the edges. She is a woman with "lofty goals and ideals".

I remember very clearly that one day around the National Day of 20 14, she told me that she wanted to sell two houses and exchange them for a bigger one. Before I got married, I had my own house, which was a two-bedroom and two-bedroom house with more than 79 points in 2003. When we got married in 2008, it was used as a wedding room. In 2009, she took a fancy to a new small high-rise building across the road. I bought an 89-square-meter house with a provident fund loan. I had no pressure to borrow money at that time. In addition to paying 1400 yuan per month, the provident fund still has a balance of several hundred dollars. We didn't stay in the second suite for a day from decoration to sale, and rented it for three years.

Originally, life was very moist, and I had a lovely son. A family of three is a well-off life, with two suites and one shop. Although I am just an ordinary worker, I also earn about100000 yuan every year. You don't need to buy daily necessities at home, and you can't use them all.

But after selling two suites, it's over. At that time, I didn't see the money when I sold the house, and I don't know how much the two suites sold. There is a saying called "being sold, counting money for others". And I was sold and I didn't see the money.

After the house was sold, she bought a new house with an area of 103 by mortgage. At that time, I was stupid enough to think that it was time to stabilize and life should be calm. I don't know if the new house is coming, and the nightmare is coming.

From 20 15, she suddenly became aggressive and unreasonable, and her "three views" were seriously distorted.

I gave her my salary card and bonus card from the first day of my marriage. Usually, my money never exceeds 100 yuan. Sometimes, if there is an emergency at home, I will take a few tens of dollars to go shopping, which will not cost a penny more than taking the bus and sometimes buying a bottle of water.

In 20 10, our child was born, which brought me great joy. I think my life is worth living. God sent me to take care of them. I work in the field for a week at a time, and then go home for a week. I hardly go out during my rest at home. I do housework at home and cook all kinds of delicious meals in different ways. Play with children in your spare time. At that time, I did three things a day: cooking (washing dishes), cleaning and taking care of the children. I'm not bored at all. On the contrary, I am still enjoying myself.

But 20 15, all this has changed. Whatever I do at home, she doesn't like it. She said I could cook at home, mop the floor, clean the windows and take care of the children. Nothing else. But I have worked hard for more than 20 years, and I have two suites at home, with an annual income of about 20 14100000.

Once, her friends (also from the same community) came to see her. I was cooking, and she complained to her friends that I just stayed at home all day and didn't even have any friends. If I go out to eat, drink and have fun every day, she is quite happy. It's not that you don't know that I have a friend. She said which two or three friends you have and who else. I thought to myself, if nothing else, don't you spend money going out to eat, drink and have fun every day? Do you just eat and drink every day? Am I not a man? Who doesn't want to go out and play? I don't go out because I love this family, and I just want to spend more without spending money.

Another time, it was a snowy morning, and one day I happened to be going to work in other places, and I had to catch the company bus in the morning. She asked me to send her children to kindergarten. I think time is pressing. I told her to get dressed quickly, but she was still in no hurry. I said hurry up or I'll miss the bus, or I'll go first. At this time, she said something that made me feel so painful when I remembered it. She said, you have to send it today, or you can send it. I won't send it to you for a try. Later, I sent the child. I'm scared!

There have been hundreds of such things, each of which is looking for eggs in bones. I always endure it, and if I can, I will endure it.

From 20 16, she won't let me take my children to my parents' house, let them see their grandparents, and let them sleep with me. She wants to cut me off from my children completely. During that time, my heart ached, and I really couldn't help it in the face of this outrageous woman.

Until one day we had another quarrel, and she said that I still owed 300 thousand yuan outside, and I fell into the abyss. At that moment, I was completely disheartened. I took my salary card and bonus card and put down the watch that her father gave me when I got married. I'm leaving. I'm leaving. My inexperienced child looked at me blankly. He didn't know that his father was a walking corpse at the moment.

At the beginning of 20 17, I lived alone in a new house. Facing a brand-new and isolated house. I feel as cold as an ice room. Every night, I sleep in my clothes, curl up in a hard bed and watch the snowflakes falling outside the window.

I have not completely torn my face this year. This year, she continued to be manipulated and played by money pyramid schemes. The hole is getting bigger and bigger, and people are completely crazy. Red eyes and black heart! ! Later I learned that she owed hundreds of thousands of foreign debts this year.

In the spring of 20 18, she still ran around, sometimes sending me messages saying that she didn't have time to take care of the children, and her niece (who came from the northeast on 20 16 to engage in pyramid schemes) couldn't cook, so she asked me to cook for the children every afternoon. Once I was cooking in the kitchen, her niece hit my child because of his homework, and the child cried (writing here, my heart was stabbed once). I hurried out of the kitchen and hugged my poor six-year-old child. At this time, she and her friends came back and saw me holding this tearful child. She told me indiscriminately, don't pretend to be pathetic in front of me, don't think that you are like this, I will let you take care of the children.

This time, I completely broke out. I stood up and raised my hand and knocked over the coffee table. She came and attacked me. I pressed her on the table to vent my pent-up dissatisfaction. Her niece, five big and three thick, also punched me on the back of the head behind me. The child is crying loudly, just like the plot in the TV series. Finally, her friend pulled us away. The child cried and shouted, why do you always quarrel! The child said to me, Dad, why are your glasses red? I want to tell my children that dad has always been a passive party, and dad has endured it for several years. In order for you to live a normal life, dad must be tough.

This time, this time. She let the children follow me back at night! ! ! I walked out of the hellish house holding the doll's hand without hesitation. When I returned to the house, I found that the child said that my eyes were red because of her niece's punch, and there were bloodshot eyes.

Since then, I have brought my child to my side for the first time every week, and I can't wait to be with my child for 24 hours. Cooking for children in different ways every day, so cooking has improved a lot. I take my children back to my grandparents' house on weekends. My parents are so happy. She is still addicted to the dream of getting rich. I borrowed 200,000 yuan from a microfinance company for her like a psycho. It will cost more than 320 thousand in three years.

In the spring of 20 19, MBI, a virtual money pyramid scheme founded by Chinese in Malaysia, exploded. She is unwilling to accept the reality, but the millions of foreign debts that I owe behind my back will not disappear. I still have to pay back the hundreds of thousands I borrowed for her. In April of the same year, we went through the divorce procedure.

In order to pay off my debts, I have no choice but to make a decision that I can't forgive myself all my life and my insides can regret-selling a house to pay off my debts! The house was sold, but the real estate license has not yet come down, and the buyer paid 500 thousand in advance. I still haven't seen any money. I asked her to pay back the foreign debts of insurance companies, banks, small loans and private individuals. I can think of it with my ass afterwards, and more than half of the money was thrown into the bottomless pit of pyramid schemes by her.

I will slowly pay back the hundreds of thousands I owe myself. 2065438+Since May 2008, loans from two small loan companies have been repaid, adding up to 9000 yuan each month. Two months later, I received a reminder from the bank. Only then did I know that the credit card she used cost hundreds of thousands. When I received the call, there were still 50 thousand, two or three times overdue, two or three months at a time. A bank has to pay back nearly 5000 yuan every month. These three sums add up to more than 14 thousand a month. At that time, my salary was about 10 thousand a month.

I was really desperate during that time, and living was meaningless to me. I had the idea of leaving several times. Colleagues and leaders of the unit saw that my spirit was wrong and talked to me several times. The leader said that he would report my life to the company and see if he could help me through the company. I politely refused the kindness of the leader. I don't want outsiders to bear the consequences of my own actions. I spend less than 200 yuan on myself every month, and my children's expenses are unlimited. In order to reduce the repayment pressure, I borrowed tens of thousands of dollars from my sister-in-law and paid off the bank debt at one time. Sister-in-law's money won't ask me for a penny of interest, and the pressure will be greatly reduced.

In February, 20021year, after losing two big teeth in succession, I finally paid off all my foreign debts four months in advance (not counting the mortgage, I had to pay the mortgage for the house I had sold before the transfer), and also paid off her personal debt of 50,000 yuan.

They all say that debt-free is light, but I still feel a lot of pressure. There is no room and no deposit now. My child's foreseeable future needs my care, which requires generous financial support. My parents are over half a year old and still need my care. I worked in the field and was away from home for one month 15 days. My parents are the people I care about most. If my job is transferred back to the city, my income will be thousands less.

However, the most difficult time for me has passed. I gritted my teeth and survived the most difficult time, but I have been thinking about my children and parents, who have been worried about my heart. Every time I think about leaving this world, my mind will see the innocent and lovely appearance of my child, and the voice of my child calling "Dad" one after another.

A child is a piece of meat on his parents. When I left, I left with my parents. When I left, I left with my children. Who in the world would abandon their parents and children?

To others, what happened to me is like a story in a TV series. But this is an accident that really happened to me! !

My most difficult time was because I was exposed to Buddhism, and I understood the cause and effect, which lit up the little things in my life. I am frugal when I have no money, and I can save if I can. I don't want to compare with others. When I was injured, I advised myself not to worry about it. I face it with sympathy and tolerance. I tell myself that the difficulties are only temporary and will eventually pass. I also advise myself that everyone has difficulties, but the difficulties they face are different, so take your time. There is no Amitabha [prayer] [prayer] [prayer] in South China.

17 years, my daughter was born prematurely and stayed in the intensive care unit for one month. That year, my husband rewarded more than 300,000 anchors. He began to lie to me that the investment failed. He never lied to me for more than ten years, so I trusted him and lent him money everywhere. After my daughter was discharged from the hospital, I accidentally found out that he cheated me. When the money was gone, she borrowed money everywhere. Plus my daughter's treatment fee and various nutritional supplements for premature babies, I used a credit card and a loan from Alipay to hide in my room and cry alone, afraid to let Dabao see it. Later, he decisively distinguished the economy from her husband. Fortunately, he has paid off all the debts he borrowed from raising children and his own brain damage, and he also has savings. He is financially independent and does not depend on anyone.

Maybe my journey went more smoothly. I rummaged through it, but I didn't find any despair. Perhaps it is heartless and careless: things have to be solved, things have to be traced, and you are not at ease?

There is no greater sorrow than dying in your heart and risking your life. You will feel this way when the weather is wrong. People sometimes need a little self-deception, live slowly, don't be too sensitive, when they can't figure it out, it's always difficult to find a way again. Make use of the most beautiful flowers, cherish love, and leave the rest to time, regardless of joys and sorrows, it will pass.

Don't confine yourself to your own city and throw away the sad wipes. When I came into this world, I didn't intend to live. Why not let yourself live better?

Most of life will not be smooth sailing, and there will be some setbacks and valleys. From 2005 to 20 12, I was at a low point (at work), as if I had encountered a cold winter and couldn't get out.

I still have a few close friends around me. They often enlighten me when they are free and never leave me. Their enlightenment is like a warm current that is always by my side.

Tired from a day's work, I like to walk alone on the path and listen to light music. Sometimes I will stop and listen to birds quietly, so that I can re-examine myself and position myself.

People are at the bottom, just like climbing cars. If you don't work hard, you will always be at the bottom. Keep a positive attitude and don't give in to the trough.

Year after year, seven years have passed quickly, winter has come, can spring be far behind? Stick to it step by step. Only by sticking to correctness and doing your job well can you not lose yourself.

Life sometimes goes through a trough, with richer experience and reading ability, and stronger perseverance! It's not a good thing not to pay back the money at a low point.

Believe in yourself, a beautiful tomorrow is waiting for you!

I will never forget it. Helpless, I took my daughter back to her family. At that time, my world was dark. I don't know what to do. what can I do? I don't understand how hard I tried. I respect my parents and in-laws. I work hard and am an excellent employee every year. I like reading, cleaning the room and cooking. I am recognized as a good wife and mother by all men and women in the village. The old man and his mother-in-law got cancer after divorce, and their children took care of me for two months without letting me dig shit and urine until my death. The old man finally said to me, "I'm sorry, my father gave them all his property, but he didn't." My answer is also simple: "Dad, I don't want property. It is my duty to serve you. I will accumulate virtues for myself and my children. "

I don't understand that such a perfect woman can blend into the darkness in the eyes of all people. For half a month, I saw through the ugly face of this world. I lost my friends and family. Because I was poor and broke, my family and friends abandoned me. I don't hate them, not at all. I have no strength to hate them. I am tired.

I can't see the darkness in the distance, which scares me. I stayed in the rented cabin, and the oiled paper film ordered on the windy window was ringing. I couldn't sleep all night. I'm scared, I'm scared. Eating Chinese medicine can't save your deepest fears. Western medicine can't see it. Chinese medicine says there is something wrong with you. Only you can overcome it, and no one can cure you, so I will. So I lived for two years, and no one cared about my life. Nobody asked me if I was doing well, if it hurt, if I was hungry. During the day, I work hard with a smile. In fact, only I know that I am unhappy. I'm afraid of the coming of night. I am afraid that I will die alone one night. No one knows, when I close my eyes, it is a cold kitchen knife, a slap in the face, that ferocious face. I'd rather live in a shabby house surrounded by through flow. I'd rather sit alone with a pillow and stay up all night, while my own wound only licks and heals slowly, so I don't want to tell anyone, because I want to open my heart and let it bleed once, while others are watching, but I'm stinging.

I am very lucky and grateful to myself. I made it. I survived, defeated myself, and defeated everything. I didn't refuse my friend's visit again, but I didn't go. As for the person I love, I have paid a lot or even more for my filial piety, but the feeling in my heart seems to never return to the past. I try not to touch it, because I am afraid of pain!

For so many years, everyone knows that I like money and I try my best to make money, but I don't know why I like money so much. A woman is carrying a big bag and wearing high heels in a foreign land of 30 degrees. Everyone talks about me behind my back, even makes fun of me, and never pays attention. Because you have never experienced my despair, you have no right to tell me what to do. Here I want to say to women all over the world: "Dear women,

In our life, everything is not smooth sailing, there will always be difficulties, which is also the so-called life trough. To this end, we must face it correctly. First of all, we should adjust our mentality. Don't worry, wait for the right moment, luck will turn, and you will get out of the trough.

Our life, feelings, feelings, career and so on. There will be a trough. I don't like the arrival of the trough. Therefore, as a smart person, you must have the ability to resist pressure, have a mind that is always more difficult than solutions, be clear-headed when facing the trough, and have clear goals. Face up to your own trough, analyze the reasons, find solutions, and finally save your strength and break through the trough.

Thank you for inviting me! A person's life is bumpy, and there are always valleys and highs. When you are in a trough and predicament, as long as you know not to forget your initiative, not to lose the ideal you are pursuing, to persist in and constantly strive for a better job, and to be determined to change, you will walk out of the trough and the trough, and you will walk out of a wonderful life!

When life is in a trough and predicament, we should not give up and be confused because of the cruelty of reality, and we should not be disappointed and desperate because of the cruelty of reality. At least you should know your responsibilities, obligations and responsibilities in life, and you should also know that life is like sailing against the current. If you are confused or wandering in the trough and predicament, you will only lose the courage to work hard and be eliminated and abandoned by real life. Therefore, as long as you have the desire to survive and hope for the future, you will be eliminated and abandoned. Only by improving your courage, persistence, hard work, action and dedication, you will definitely get out of the trough and predicament and lead a wonderful and brilliant life. Thank you?