"Look at the way you breast-feed in the middle of the night and want a divorce." How to treat her husband's jokes and his wife's ten-year memory?

Many people, the longer they go in marriage, the less they feel the temperature of marriage, not because time makes it cold, but because people's hearts get cold.

A cold heart is like withered grass in winter. When the sun shines on it, it is still dead. As a grass, I am glad that there will be spring flowers in the coming year, but my heart is not.

Everyone is looking forward to marriage, just as every girl is looking forward to a beautiful love, praying for years to look back and love to grow old together.

In fact, hoary heads are never extravagant hopes. Time flies, everyone will have gray temples. This is the law of nature.

In marriage, the hardest thing is that when we walk through the wind, frost, rain and snow together, hand in hand with white hair, we can still have a first look.

Is there such love? There must be, but are there many? Not much.

The most regrettable love is that although some people are still together, their hearts seem to be thousands of miles apart. Wan Li, it's my eyes that look at you. There is no vast starry sky.

I asked a woman who had been married for 10 years, why? She said, "Because when I needed him most, he never gave me the warmth I wanted. When I get over it, it's not rare. "

Her husband never knew, and she even quietly saved a sum of money herself, and kept it all the time. She has left a retreat for her marriage. I once asked her why she didn't get a divorce.

She said divorce was not that easy. With the child's tie, she can't be unhappy and say that she can leave without turning around. As a mother, she must think about her children.

Staying is the best plan for the child. She can live the life she wants for the child. She is loved by her parents, grandparents and grandparents. Although she has a bad relationship with her husband, there is no doubt that she loves her children.

Most importantly, her husband never betrayed their marriage. Betrayal is her bottom line for marriage. Before getting married, she thought that as long as her husband was always loyal, they could always love each other.

02

In fact, the details of marriage are often the key factors to defeat two people's love. All disappointments come from the little things in life.

Because we want to find someone to spend the rest of our lives with, not only for the inheritance of life, but the most important thing is that two people will hold each other's hands and support each other. This is the determination to never give up in the storm.

These things test a person the most.

But back to life, in fact, you will find that most people's marriages are not very stormy, but two people come over with tears and laughter on the most ordinary days.

Tears are inevitable, no one will always be smooth sailing, but it is also valuable to have a smile, because these smiles will make you a bargaining chip when you cry.

You can comfort yourself: look, in fact, how good he is!

After ten years of marriage, she thought about it and then said, "Before marriage, he was really good." There were no children at that time, but two people were fighting and having an affair. She thought it would be appropriate to eat and play together, so she soon entered the marriage hall.

The longer you get married, the more time two people quarrel.

Her husband is male chauvinist, and he doesn't even help the soy sauce bottle when he goes home, thinking that this is what she should do as a wife. Just because the salary is two thousand yuan higher, she also has a sense of superiority, thinking that she will be useless if she raises this family by herself.

Besides, her husband wouldn't listen to her. No matter how hard she tries, how she tells her grievances and tells him what she wants him to do, he always goes in one ear and out the other, never changing or responding, just like the feeling of cotton.

She began to sulk in her heart. Her husband is very generous, but he still knows nothing. He began to have inexplicable self-confidence and felt that he was a good husband because he didn't quarrel with her.

In fact, what she wants to say is that the cold war only hurts people's hearts, because the problem has not been solved and they just choose to be buried. What if one day, all the contradictions come out together?

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In marriage, there is a crucial stage, that is, the period when the wife is pregnant and gives birth and takes care of the children in the first two years.

At this time, if the husband does a good job, he can definitely let his wife remember it for a lifetime, and work harder to run this family in the later life, so that the other party has no worries.

Because the understanding and care between people are always mutual, this stage is the most fragile and difficult period for a woman.

As the other half of her choice, it is time to take the lead. Giving her care and love and sharing is what a responsible husband should do.

But she always felt that her life was like purgatory. At the beginning of pregnancy, she had severe morning sickness. Later, my hands and feet were swollen, I cramped in the middle of the night, and I was so tortured that I couldn't go to work.

She complained to her husband that talking less can comfort her, and talking more will make the other person impatient: "Are you melodramatic, as if you were the only one who had a child?" Then how did others get here? "

So she stopped talking, not because she couldn't beat her husband, but because she didn't want to make herself angry again. She was in a bad mood during pregnancy, which greatly affected the growth of the fetus.

When a person gets through pregnancy, the real test begins when the child is born.

Her husband often doesn't go home and doesn't help when he goes home on the pretext of being busy with work. He also said that it was easy for her to take care of the children alone, but if she asked him to take care of them, he said that he had no time to earn money and asked her, "Otherwise, if you go out to earn money, can we support ourselves?"

After giving birth, she gained nearly 40 pounds. Children like to cry when they are young, and they can't live without people. She has to sleep with her arms around her, so she has no time to tidy herself up.

Her husband disliked her for being fat and ugly, like an aunt, and said how did those stars recover so quickly after giving birth? Call her lazy, don't look for so many reasons, can't you take two hours out to exercise every day?

She said it was easy for him to stand up and speak, but he didn't agree, or he stuck to his point of view.

Until one time, her husband said something that completely broke her heart: "Look at the way you breast-fed in the middle of the night, I want a divorce, so I don't pay attention to my image."

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Although it was impossible to divorce later, her husband's joke made her really remember 10 years, and the other party didn't know it, so she was no longer willing to give her heart.

It is normal for women to get fat and ugly after giving birth and raising children, get tired of dressing up and stop working.

Because a person's energy is limited, 24 hours a day, he has devoted too much effort to his children, and naturally he will feel haggard and unwilling to do other things, and everything must make way for his children.

This is nature and maternal love.

And every mother, in this environment, endured the pain of growing up with tears, and finally became a superman mother in the eyes of children. Being a mother is just.

But, ah, the child will grow up eventually and will not cry completely. Even you will find that this process is very fast. The baby is lying in bed, and it is very short for you to hold it in your arms and feed it.

What is eternity? It is the love and warmth you feel at this time. If it is neglect and indifference, it can last forever. You will always remember that he abandoned himself on the day when he was most needed.

Even if some people want to make up for it later, they can't make up for it because it looks fake. What are the benefits of icing on the cake? Besides, it's not rare. Broken hearts have already cooled down.

Therefore, everyone who enters marriage should keep in mind the words of love and responsibility, especially as a husband. Knowing this truth will not make the person you once wanted to take care of all your life feel cold in ordinary days.