People who don't know you either think you are showing off or think you are melodramatic.

All my friends around me know that I used to be an optimist, and I was as happy as suddenly taking out 5 yuan from my old clothes pocket every day. I am also keen to share the happiness of life, from the early QQ space to the later Weibo and friends circle.

I believe that sharing happiness is a win-win situation. Perhaps because of this, I was very popular since I was a child, and I never felt lonely. Until 20 14, my creed began to shake.

At the end of that year, I was lucky enough to win the outstanding employee award of the group. To tell the truth, with my work experience and extremely low award-winning ratio, it's not my turn at all, so I was so excited that I couldn't wait to send a message in my circle of friends on the day of winning the prize. On the one hand, I want to tell my friends that Ziggy's work in other provinces is progressing smoothly, so don't worry. On the other hand, I want to say that my efforts have paid off and I encourage myself to record it.

In praise and praise, there are two strangers' comments: Winning the prize is nothing to show off. ? Just like a kindergarten child with a little red flower. Hehe?

Telling the truth, I was puzzled at that moment and asked myself, what did I do wrong, how did I show off, and how did I become a kindergarten child? I am such a person in the eyes of my friends. I was depressed at once and wanted to talk about it. I found that they were not my friends, but the interviewees I had met once.

Come to think of it carefully, not all the friends in the circle of friends are true friends, but also some related people added for other reasons (most of them are interviewed). They are just spectators, just want to satisfy their desire to express themselves at the moment, and don't care about your sharing and feelings.

At that moment, I realized that sharing happiness with the wrong person has become a show, just like sharing sadness with the wrong person has become melodramatic and even a joke.

A senior has known me for many years and has a good relationship. She often gives me energetic compliments. Not long ago, she asked me, Brother Qi, are you still a reporter in Shandong? I was particularly surprised. It has been drifting in the north for more than a year, and it often changes dynamically. She also praised me. Why don't I know where I am now?

Later, I learned that although there are hundreds of praises and comments on every trend, most people don't really care about your life. So I think it's good to know a lot of things by yourself, and there's no need to show them to others.

Remember: people who don't know you either think you are showing off or being melodramatic.

02

Last night, I initiated an interaction to let you talk about how you passed and what you haven't passed. Hundreds of friends told their experiences and misfortunes backstage. After watching it all night, the number of replies is limited.

My friend Bai Xue told me, Brother Qi, why did you post such an interactive topic with many negative stories again? You always look at these negative energies, and I'm worried that you will become depressed.

I don't want to read your warm-hearted stories and stuffed dog food every day. But you can share these beautiful things with anyone you want, but the' negative things' you told me must be difficult to talk about, and there is no one to tell, so you can't be wronged. It doesn't matter. Brother qi is willing to listen.

A reader said that her grandmother died yesterday, but she was far from home, so she couldn't catch the funeral by train, and flying was too expensive for her family to afford. Yispace.net, she is very sad, so she talks to her boyfriend, but he just plays games in a perfunctory way. She is angry with her boyfriend? Is my grandma important or your game important? ? Her boyfriend yelled at her: People are dead. What's the use of being sad? What can you do besides crying? ?

? Grandma raised me independently for 8 years. Brother Qi, do you know how desperate I was at that moment? Readers can feel the sadness in front of the screen when they say this to me. I had to chat with her for a while and let her pour out all her grievances.

In fact, people who really like you will care about everything you say, and people who don't like you are wrong no matter how rational they are.

Some things always linger when they are said affectedly, not when they are wrong. Everyone will be weak or depressed sometimes. You need someone who understands you. He won't laugh at your affectation, and won't tell others your scar as a joke.

03

Many times you choose silence, not because you are introverted, but because you don't know whether he is the one who is willing to listen to you. You are always worried that your pain is a joke of others in their spare time.

So, you don't want to send a circle of friends as brazenly as in the past. Even if you make a dynamic late at night, you will delete it when you wake up the next day. Maybe you want someone to comfort you, but he didn't come, so you pressed the button in despair and deleted it.

I have a good friend who is studying in Beijing, and now school begins. She has always loved sharing and made no progress. I will say hello to her on WeChat: How are you recently? Soon the other party replied with a crying expression: Brother Qi, I am not good, not at all. I quickly asked, what's the matter? She sent a few words: My mother left.

Apart from sending a bunch of hugs, I am weak. I don't want to call her, knowing that she must be crying with her mobile phone. She is a kind and sunny girl and should not want to hear her sobbing.

Then, she told me a lot of heartfelt words, and she felt that she could not pass. As a friend, I must find a way to help her out of trouble. After talking a lot, she finally said, thank you, warm-hearted seventh brother.

There is really no empathy in this world, so we can only know ourselves in the cold and warm.

I think she will feel better at that moment. I think the best relationship is not to be on call and talk every day, but that once something happens, the other party will go all out to help you, regardless of the pros and cons.

The best relationship is that I send a message and you see a natural reply. I won't be suspicious because you didn't reply, and you won't feel sorry for not replying in time. It is enough to trust each other and care about each other.

04

Every time I saw something interesting before, my first thought in my mind was to tell him immediately how funny the joke was and how touching the story was. But it suddenly occurred to me that he might not find it funny and would never be moved. I was even more afraid of his simple words? Hmm? Finally, I prepared a long speech, which made me feel helpless.

So, you followed the wrong person, and the whole world knows your scandal and sadness. Sharing happiness with the wrong person is like being poured cold water on.

In fact, many times, melodramatic really shouldn't always be accused. When you face the things or feelings you love, it is inevitable that your feelings will overflow and you will be at a loss. Everyone is like this, but the talent doesn't know that none of the hidden people show it.

Therefore, I haven't sent a circle of friends casually for a long time. Take away all the good and bad, and you won't tell anyone everything. If you want to talk, you will also find someone you can trust to talk in the small window. You just want to find someone who understands you, your vulnerability, your grievances, your stubbornness and your strength.

You may no longer send friends casually, but I hope you have someone who can open a small window casually and share your joys and sorrows with him. Take out each other's most sincere hearts and say some sincere words.

I hope that in my lifetime, I will only complain about warmth, not sadness, meet my heart and be safe and warm.