Some people say not to despise people who always text you. Why do they say this?

01

When you like someone, always be cautious. There was a little joy in my heart, but at the same time, there was also a little worry. I am afraid that the person I like will not like me, and I am even more afraid that my sincerity will be seen as nothing more than a joke in the eyes of the person I like.

That’s why we say that if you really like someone, there is no way to cheat. You can't wait to show your sincerity to the other person, so why do you think of all kinds of tricks?

However, sometimes sincerity is expressed in different ways, but it is easy to be useless and affectionate.

Your anxiety later became a disaster that blocked fate.

On a social network, I saw a girl anonymously post a few screenshots, to the effect that someone like this still wants to chase me. Is there any way to stop him from posting? ? ?

That screenshot is full of the humbleness of a boy, and the chat mode is extremely awkward.

The first sentence he sent to her was always? Are you there? ?, and then the girl replied after a few hours and said she was there. He immediately asked what he was doing, but it took a few hours for the girl to reply and said he was not doing anything.

It was such a simple question that went back and forth for many days. Obviously, the girl hates this, so she posts the screenshots online and asks strangers to help her with ideas.

As expected, as soon as these pictures were posted, many people commented on them. Many girls said that they have also encountered such a situation, and their inner scores have dropped to negative numbers. They have no good feelings and only feel bored. It is really a headache.

The view expressed by most boys is: If you don’t like him, just ignore him and let him back out. After he posts for a while, he won’t post again; or you can make your words clear. That is, if you don’t like this, tell him not to post it.

It doesn’t matter if you don’t like someone, just say so. Who has never been rejected, the worst they can do is feel sad for two days. After they figure it out, they will let it go and continue to pursue their own happiness.

However, you can’t respond to each other with or without a date, don’t say what’s in your heart, laugh at or even despise other people’s sincerity, and post it publicly online for strangers to judge.

If that person knew about it, he would feel very sad, right?

02

I discovered one thing. Many girls say that such boys have low emotional intelligence and do not know how to chat at all. They only know how to ask "Are you there?" every day. I see it myself. They don't want to talk to each other.

In fact, is this really the case?

If you don’t like this way of chatting, it really has nothing to do with the other person’s emotional intelligence, but is directly linked to whether you like it or not.

I have a friend who originally thought such opening remarks were very embarrassing. She said that two boys who were chasing her always said this to her. Back.

It wasn’t until later that she met her current boyfriend, a very outstanding boy. Her friend introduced the two of them to each other. He is really a treasure boy. His life resume is very exciting, he is highly educated, smart, and has a good job. Okay, and it looks good.

However, that boy is the type who is not very good at chatting. He usually doesn’t talk much. It can be said that he cherishes his words like gold. After the two met, my friend happily told me when she came back that night that she felt like they were having fun because the boy took the initiative to find her after he returned and sent her a message.

She was extremely happy when she said this, which made me think that the other party had sent her something extraordinary. However, she handed her phone to me and read two simple words: Are you there?

I said: Didn’t you say before that you hated boys pronouncing these two words? ?

She was as white as me: "This is from him, how can it be the same?"

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She continued: ?How do you want me to reply? If I reply here, will it seem that I am too cold and make him think I am boring? How about I reply here? ?

I laughed at her and you just replied. Are you being so cautious?

She ignored me and went away with her cell phone in her arms with a smile on her face. It looked like the two of them were chatting happily. After a while, I asked her, how did you respond?

After she flipped up the chat page two pages, she asked me to read the content of her reply. There were four words on it: ?Yes, yes. ?

I lowered my head and thought, this does seem more enthusiastic.

Later, they got together, and now they are preparing for the wedding. Her boyfriend still doesn't talk much, and often starts with the same sentence: "Are you there?" ?, she never tires of it: ?Here it is. ?

03

So, those who agree that someone with a low emotional intelligence is not disgusted with these two words, but that the other person is not the person they like.

In fact, when greeting someone, if the two people know each other but are not very familiar with each other, especially if you like the other person, it is easy to be at a loss for words. Because liking means being cautious, so I don’t dare to speak casually, for fear that the other person will be annoyed, but I want to understand, but I can’t find a different entry point. At this time, "Are you here?" was derived.

A girl once told me that she liked a boy who was a friend of a friend. The two had contact information because of a party, but other than that, there was no intersection in their lives.

She knew that he didn’t have a girlfriend yet, and she really wanted to take the initiative to chat with him and bring the two of them closer together. It would be better if they could be together, but if not, she would have no regrets even if she tried hard.

When she started chatting, she realized that it was really a technical job.

Because she often doesn’t know how to say the first sentence. The two of them are not familiar with each other, so she can’t just send an emoji like a friend with whom she usually has a good chat; his circle of friends is visible for three days. , she couldn't see his updates, and her original plan to investigate his preferences through this was cancelled; and on the days when she added him, he didn't post to any Moments at all, and she didn't even have a chance to like it.

So, finally one day, she plucked up the courage, thought about it a lot, and finally started by saying: Are you there?

The guy over there got back quickly. He said he was there and asked him what happened.

She said: Nothing happened.

Then, the chat was interrupted. She was very upset and wanted to say a few more words, but she didn’t know what to say, and there was no reply. She couldn’t start to take the conversation again.

This is when I sighed: It turns out that it is so difficult to take the initiative to find someone to chat with. ?I added: ?No, it's because it's difficult to chat with someone you like, especially if the other person doesn't respond. ?

04

So, if someone likes you and greets you in a way that seems awkward to you, don’t laugh at it, because they also have to muster a lot of courage. Just made the decision.

Every time you don’t reply or take a long time to reply, they will also be frustrated and sad, and they will also wonder if you don’t like yourself?

They also want to maintain their pride.

However, I like to make them brave, let them temporarily put aside their self-esteem and chase their dreams. Being liked by others is a blessing.

No matter how confident you are, when you meet someone you like, you may become timid and hesitant, so sometimes you seem like you don't know how to chat.

Of course, liking is a mutual thing. If you don’t like it, don’t force it. Just say it clearly, but you must respect the other person. He (she) likes you, not for you to laugh at the other person's low emotional intelligence or other reasons.