How to treat her mother-in-law again after confinement, and the woman will never forgive her?

Does the mother-in-law have the obligation to take care of her daughter-in-law in the month?

As we all know, there is no explicit provision that a daughter-in-law is confined to her confinement and her mother-in-law should do her best to take care of her.

Just between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If we can talk about feelings, it's best not to talk about anything else. Once the pros and cons are weighed too much, it becomes a business to pursue who wins and who loses.

In fact, no matter which side wins or loses, both sides will lose in the end.

No matter how you behave or do things, just pay attention to the word conscience.

Especially between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should not be antagonistic, let alone enemies.

So, really, no one should do this.

After confinement, a reader expanded his dissatisfaction with his mother-in-law to the extreme. Facing his cruel mother-in-law, she said, "I don't want to forgive her in my life after confinement."

In the final analysis, the mother-in-law intervened too much in her son's marriage.

To what extent does mother-in-law intervene?

She described it this way: "Sometimes I suspect that they are the ones who want to be together for life, and I just gave birth to a child for their family."

First of all, be clear.

The most correct situation is that women marry and men marry:

It should be two people who are independent from their original families, set up their own families and repay their parents' love with their own abilities.

I don't think it's the water spilled after my daughter got married, and it has nothing to do with my family. Does the daughter have no obligation to support?

It doesn't mean that a boy marries a wife, which means that the wife is a member of his family and should listen to his family completely.

If the mother-in-law holds this idea after her son gets married, she will inevitably interfere with her son's marriage and do things that hurt the feelings of two people in the name of being good to her children.

Because there are many boys who can't properly solve the problems of their mothers and wives, the palms of their hands are full of meat, so they simply play dumb and let the two sides compete with each other.

As a result, things became more and more serious.

02

The reader's mother-in-law prefers boys to girls. Although she has two children, she is mainly centered on her son.

Take care of your home when you are young, and want to take care of your son's home when you are old.

Before getting married, my mother-in-law didn't show anything bad. She has been to her house several times. Mother-in-law is very kind and enthusiastic, and has always said that she should be treated as a daughter in the future.

Later, I learned that my mother-in-law did this because her husband was close to 4 years old and she was not young, so she tried her best to please her and wanted to marry her as soon as possible.

After marriage, my mother-in-law began to change, picking on her everywhere and talking strangely.

But she has a good temper, so she doesn't care about her mother-in-law.

It was not until after her pregnancy that her mother-in-law thought that the marriage was completely stable and she couldn't run away if she wanted to, and she began to intensify. I want to eat fruit when I am pregnant, and my mother-in-law dislikes her wasting money.

Her husband is usually very silent. As soon as she mentioned it, she said that mother was used to hard work and frugality, so let her not take it to heart.

No matter how strong her heart is, it is still not the boundless sea, which can bury all her dissatisfaction.

She doesn't know when she will explode.

Two days before giving birth, she was admitted to the hospital. She has always been a person who is afraid of pain, and it is inevitable that she will be afraid. It stands to reason that being a mother-in-law at this time should encourage her.

Who knows mother-in-law, it's right to say these things.

Then without waiting for her answer, I began to talk about how hard I worked when I was young, what I suffered when I gave birth to a child, how difficult it was to bring up two older children, and how much I suffered when I bought a house. ...

My mother-in-law told her these things over and over again.

At first, she said something comforting, and then she didn't want to hear it at all, especially at the moment of giving birth. My mother-in-law was still stressing herself, and finally said, "What's the use of telling me all the time?" I didn't cause you pain. "

My mother-in-law looked at her in disbelief.

Later I learned that my mother-in-law told her husband that she disliked her.

03

After giving birth to the child, the mother-in-law held the child more than once during confinement and repeatedly said, "Why not a boy?" If only it were a boy. "

Before giving birth to a child, her mother-in-law was very good at taking credit, and kept telling her neighbors what her daughter-in-law would cook for her when she gave birth, thus refuting a good reputation for her daughter-in-law in vain.

During confinement, she saw what her mother-in-law said, but she didn't eat anything. She stewed a chicken and drank a bowl of chicken soup, but her mother-in-law said it was gone.

This led to sitting for a month. After she came out, she lost more than 20 kilograms and her husband gained more than 30 kilograms.

The biggest contradiction lies in children.

Mother-in-law told her that her son worked hard during the day, so don't wake him up when the child cried at night. Help her.

As a result, when the child really started crying, her mother-in-law slept next door, as if she had never heard of it, but she just couldn't get up anyway.

Once she was really angry and asked her husband to coax the child into the living room in the middle of the night. In less than half an hour, my mother-in-law came over and said that she was not sensible.

She asked her husband, "Did you wake your mother?

Her husband said no, and she knew where her mother-in-law couldn't hear, but she was obviously faking it. Now even my husband's deceptive voice can be heard clearly.

She said that in addition to these, her mother-in-law has many deeds, such as leggings and sleeping peacefully ... She raised a question and her mother-in-law said, "This is my granddaughter. What qualifications do you have? "

On one occasion, she clearly heard her mother-in-law holding her child in the living room and talking to herself: "The baby should like her grandmother, be filial to her grandmother, and give her money in the future. We don't like her, and her mother is also a bad person. Should we kick her out when we grow up? "

Her back is cold and she doesn't even know how to react.

But the mother-in-law likes to rob the children during the day, that is, she cries at night, and insists on hugging, kissing her face and pinching her feet when the children fall asleep during the day.

She won't listen to anything she says.

Every time she talks to her husband, he pretends not to hear, says nothing, and then goes to sleep silently.

04

All kinds of behaviors make her feel that it is a joke for her mother-in-law to treat her as a daughter, let alone a daughter, but to treat her as an individual.

And mother-in-law, she didn't feel anything wrong. Once she spoke to her mother-in-law, and her mother-in-law blamed her for being heartless, saying that she had served for a month.

Mother-in-law began to reverse black and white, saying that she tried her best to buy her something to eat during the second month, saying that everyone around her saw it.

Yes, all the dishes her mother-in-law bought in the second month will go out to show, for fear that others will not know.

She said, "It seems that your son is in confinement, not me. Anyway, most of those things are not what I eat. "

Anyway, later she and her mother-in-law didn't like each other. In her heart, she felt that she could never forgive her mother-in-law. The mother-in-law also said that her son married a bad woman.

Empathy between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a very important but scarce existence.

As a mother-in-law, does she really not understand the suffering of her daughter-in-law?

Don't forget, my mother-in-law also came from the daughter-in-law era.

Of course she knows, but few mother-in-law can put themselves in the daughter-in-law's shoes, but stand entirely in the son's position. When a woman becomes a mother-in-law, she will forget that she is a wife at that moment.

There is even a kind of mother-in-law, who is afraid that her daughter-in-law has not suffered the hardships she suffered when she was young, but has enjoyed the blessings she did not enjoy, so she is desperately looking for trouble.

This kind of mother-in-law is not ignorant, but bad.

If the mother-in-law only fights with her daughter-in-law when she is young, she will have no position to intercede with her daughter-in-law when she is old.

Between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you come to me to produce affection and pay.