Can telling others really comfort yourself?

Can telling others really comfort yourself?

I think the so-called "others" here can be "acquaintances", "good people" and "good people"; It can also be a stranger, a villain, a villain, a person with ulterior motives and so on.

From this analysis, the answer has been "ready to come out."

If you talk to acquaintances, good people and lovers, you can not only comfort yourself, but also these "others" can give you advice and guidance.

(2) On the other hand, for strangers, wicked people and people with bad intentions, it can only be worse than a wound.

That's all. Thank you.

If you have something to say to others, it must be that you have a pain in your heart and you can't solve it, so you can get comfort from others, or others can crack it, find an exit and get rid of it.

No one can take your place to enjoy happiness, and no one can take your place to suffer. You have to solve things yourself, you can't solve them yourself!

Don't immerse yourself in pain, find a way out of the predicament and act now instead of doing nothing! Even if the method is ineffective, it is a positive attitude to seek!

Family ties are very important. When you think of the person you love, you will put something down. Nothing is more important than affection! There is both responsibility and blood, and it is difficult to give up, so it is not to alleviate the pain but to take responsibility.

Personal views are for reference only!

Theoretically, it is possible. You are willing to talk in advance, and there are suitable people to talk to.

Man is a mixture of sensibility and rationality. What you think and do about something mainly depends on whether it is perceptual thinking or rational thinking that affects your judgment.

Under normal circumstances, as long as you speak calmly to an event, rational thinking will gradually dominate, and then you will look at the problem rationally and solve it.

Of course, except for people who love to get into the dead end, such people tend to go to extremes, either excellent or extremely poor, that is to say, they are always rational or always emotional. Such people either don't have to talk to others or talk like Xianglin's wife.

In fact, the most important thing is whether you want others to help you analyze and solve problems or reduce stress. No matter what the result is, first of all, open your heart and accept everything, and don't embarrass the person you confide in, such as asking the other person to keep secret, which will easily cause pressure on both sides.

Generally speaking, we should finally let go of our comfort. I don't remember a famous person who said this sentence, which probably means: it's not the event itself that hurts you, but your persistence in it!

Thank you for inviting me!

If you talk to others for comfort, it may not be satisfactory. When your desires are not satisfied, your mood will naturally not be good!

If you talk to someone else, it's only to solve your troubles and vent your grievances. You need someone to accompany you, someone to listen to you and someone to pay attention to you. There is such a process is enough! But if you always vent negative energy whenever you encounter setbacks, then such friends will be farther and farther away from you!

Everyone has their own life, their own distress, others can not feel the same! If you always want to talk to someone and seek comfort from others when you encounter some difficulties, then for others, you will get bored and secretly ridicule you, but you always want to get care and comfort from others as your confidant!

If you talk to someone for help, ask others for some experience, learn some methods to solve problems, and just say the facts without complaining, then friends may provide you with some suggestions and methods, and then you will get the comfort you need!

So when you talk to others, you should first ask yourself, what do you want? In fact, there are many ways to solve troubles and make yourself happy, so write it down. Even if you are complaining to your close friends, don't complain too often. After all, you should also consider each other's feelings!

Sometimes, some words are not necessarily suitable to say, and some pain can only be borne by one person. No matter how big the world is, there are many friends, but it is really not easy to find a friend who is willing to listen to you. Everyone has their own things to do, and yours is nobody else's. At best, I can only perfunctory. Who really cares about your feelings ...!

To sum up, we know that we should not talk about our pain to others easily, because everyone is like us. We expect others to understand us, but we can't comfort others, so we should learn to love ourselves, and the only one who can really comfort ourselves is ourselves!

Of course you can.

I don't know if you still remember the methods of adjusting emotions in the school ideological and moral textbooks.

Will control, attention shift, cognitive change, reasonable venting, pouring out ... If nothing else, pouring out is really a good way to adjust your mood, and adjusting your mood will naturally comfort you.

Russian psychologists have done research, tears are the most effective "prescription" to relieve mental burden. In fact, crying when you are wronged or tortured by sadness can vent your pain and is very beneficial to improve your mood.

What is described by gabbing, gabbing and gabbing is not a good thing. For example, complaining to the boss, the helplessness that life is unfortunate but unable to change, and the dissatisfaction with friends or family ... These things are basically negative energy, and nothing can be kept in the heart for a long time except injury. Therefore, it is necessary to talk, but it should be timely and moderate.

When we talk to others, sometimes we can find the voice of * * *. If we are oppressed by our superiors, if we are wandering alone, we can really get comfort in our hearts at this time. There is always a dark place in people's hearts. When we see people who are as miserable as we are, we can comfort ourselves in addition to sympathy.

Sometimes, when we speak, we don't expect the speaker to feel the same way, and we don't have to seek verbal or spiritual comfort. We just want to get a short release after being wronged and sad, and then clean up and move on.

You can comfort yourself by talking to others, but don't talk to others frequently or continuously, or you may become a negative energy carrier in this person's eyes. Learning to comfort yourself is actually a course. In the dead of night, we should also learn to lick the wound and tell ourselves: I have a lot of fate, but I still remain confident.

From my personal experience, talking can really enlighten and comfort myself.

When you encounter problems at work or emotionally, or encounter setbacks, your mood will be very low, you will be listless about anything, and your reaction will be dull. There will be a sense of stagnation in the chest, and I can't spit it out and swallow it. The traffic jam is quite uncomfortable. But when you talk to others, you will feel a sense of relief, all the repressed gas will be exhaled, and your spirit will be improved. Even the sky seems to be much brighter. This is the effect of talking. It's amazing and useful.

But only if someone is willing to listen to you. It's easier to get a thousand dollars than to find a bosom friend. Even fewer people can let you speak freely. If what you confide is unreasonable, then the whole unit may know about you the next day, so you must choose the person you confide in carefully. Furthermore, we should consider each other's situation, talk about negative energy and complaints, stand in each other's perspective, don't complain blindly, enough is enough. After all, it is very likely that someone else's good mood will be destroyed by you.

Finally, to repeat, we must combine self-regulation with heart-to-heart. I can't find anyone to talk to at any time. Try to enrich your life and exercise moderately every day. The secretion of dopamine can bring a good mood.

Wish you all the best!

First, the object of listening. When we have something to do, we usually talk to our relatives. For example, if we encounter criticism from leaders at work or trivial matters between colleagues, we can go home from work and listen to the opinions of our relatives. Relatives will not only comfort you, but also suggest ways to deal with things, which can really comfort ourselves.

Second, the content of the talk. Everyone has more or less unspeakable secrets in his heart. Sometimes this secret thing is hidden in my heart, and I am very stressed and depressed.

At this time, not everyone you listen to can talk to. For example, the contradiction between husband and wife in the family, there should not be many people who can honestly open their hearts, either quarreling when they encounter problems or cold war.

At this point, you can't wash your dirty linen in public, and you can only tell your girlfriends or very good friends. Because a true friend will put himself in your shoes and comfort you. And after you talk to your best friend, you can really comfort yourself and your bad mood will be alleviated.

Therefore, it is suggested that friends should prioritize the things they encounter, and distinguish clearly the objects they listen to and the contents they confide in. Don't pour out everything. Many times, you do your own thing, think about your own thing, and handle your own thing.

It's purely a personal opinion. Your advice is welcome.

I am Chen Guan. Let me have a chat.

I think talking to others,

It depends on who you trust.

If it's the person closest to you.

It's okay. You'll be comforted.

But if you talk to anyone,

Maybe not.

Because you will know later.

Everyone else is watching your jokes.

This is why ordinary people have dirty clothes.

So I'm here.

I can tell you very responsibly.

You can't just tell others.

You can find your lover or family.

Talk about the troubles in your life.

Because only they are really good to you.

In fact, everyone will be unhappy sometimes in life. At this time, it needs to be resolved correctly so as not to affect the mood.

When we are unhappy, many friends will talk to their friends for the first time, which is also a good way. People are always confused, but after friends say it, you may suddenly realize. A true friend is someone who gives you a helping hand in your most difficult time. As the saying goes, a friend in need is a friend indeed. I think this is the first choice to deal with unhappiness.

Some people say that I don't have many friends and I can't find friends if I'm unhappy. What should I do? Never mind, the method is always more difficult than the reality. As long as you look hard, there is always one. When you are unhappy, think about your favorite sports, such as running and playing ball ... I like parkour. Every time I am unhappy, I will play parkour, because I can forget unhappy things by engaging in sports that I am interested in.

In fact, our daily struggle is to make life better, but don't compromise yourself for this goal. If we live happily, our energy will be greater. So keep a good attitude and you will be happier!