You can be a housewife, but don’t live a resentful life

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Little A has been married for several years and has been very troubled recently. The child started to struggle when she was six months old. The child is about to be one year old. Should she go to work?

Discussing this matter with her husband, he insisted that she take care of the children at home.

However, she was very unhappy. The child is one year old and does not need breast milk. It can be easily solved by just calling her mother or his mother to come over and help during the day. The children still follow me in the evenings and Sundays. This will not affect the parent-child relationship at all.

But even if she has millions of reasons to go to work, her husband also has millions of reasons to convince her.

She said: After all, I am an undergraduate from a prestigious school. I don’t go to work, but do laundry, cooking and hygiene at home. How can this be justified?

He said: In my eyes, laundry, cooking and hygiene are a noble profession. Not every undergraduate graduate from a prestigious school can be as good as you.

She said: Women who do not work are parasites of men.

He said: Who said it was a parasite? I'll kill him. In my opinion, a woman who does not work is the breadwinner of the family. Men are the parasites. You see, the daily necessities of food, rice, oil, and salt are all taken care of, and the children eat, drink, poop, and sleep well.

She said: You don’t know that today’s society has always respected “women who don’t work are the most miserable.” All the aunts in the community know that housewives have no technical skills.

He said: I guide the country outside, and you guide me at home. Without your promotion, I wouldn't be where I am now. In my heart, you are a housewife and the most reliable pillar of the family. Don't have some inexplicable worries caused by hearing something outside. As long as you don't become a resentful woman, this family will always be centered on you, and my children and I will always be the two basic points.

It is generally believed that society is still a patriarchal society and housewifery is a high-risk occupation. Many men lie down as soon as they get home from work. Never use your hands when you can use your mouth. It is deeply ingrained in the brain that if a woman spends my money, she must work hard without complaining. They did not see that their stubbornness turned a gentle woman into a shrew, and finally into a resentful woman.

Once a woman becomes a resentful woman, her home will no longer be a gentle haven, but will become a battlefield without gunpowder.

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A few days ago, I talked about marriage with my best friend. She said, I like how you look now, you are positive and sunny.

This also reminds me of myself having just given birth. I have no job, no income, and spend less time with my husband and more separation. In the past three years of marriage, for one or two years, she was completely resentful.

Whether it is QQ space or Moments, it is full of complaints and sorrow.

Children are the fuse of resentment. As a first-time mother, I experienced the baptism of life and felt traumatized and lonely in my heart. In the case of hormone imbalance, dissatisfaction accumulates in the heart.

I am preoccupied with thinking about how to give my children enough breast milk and how to prevent them from having accidents. The most worrying thing is that I don’t know anything about parenting. Children bring joy but also pain and sadness.

I feel that my husband is like a mountain, but I cannot rely on him. I feel that my husband is like water, but he cannot surround me.

There are tens of thousands of rivers and tens of thousands of mountains between what I have experienced and what he has experienced.

I lost my freedom, but the freedom I wanted was the respect he gave me.

Immersed in what I called the days when I could not see the future, I started a cold war.

When chatting, you either don’t talk or you engage in verbal quarrels. When he tells a joke on the phone, he replies: What’s so funny? Only a heartless man like you can laugh.

If he wants to reconcile, give him a step up and refuse immediately. The next step is to ask: What can I do if I am sorry? Let me forgive you for wishful thinking.

Sometimes he simply expresses his concern by saying: Does a cat cry like a mouse? Save it for someone else to use.

Until that day he broke out and said: Are you okay with this? Is it good for the child to keep a straight face and talk in a weird way all day long?

You will definitely be even more angry, and your words will be just like a volcano erupting: You are not a good bird either.

Who has the nerve to say this? Who is working on this family from morning to night? If I could understand my heartache at the beginning, would I be like this? Apart from that little money, what did you pay for this child in this family?

The days when I couldn’t get comfort were suffering and regretting. I regret leaving my hometown for him, regretting getting pregnant in ten months, and regretting not listening to the advice of my friends and family.

Everything is your own fault.

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Later, I couldn’t bear to feel so violent. I can't just watch myself become the kind of person I hate. Finally chose to change myself. Is it great to have a child?

I still have the nerve to tell my friends: I really hate the aunties around me, who know how to cause trouble for others. If I don’t pull back from the cliff, wouldn’t that be me twenty years later?

Just because your child becomes a housewife, you can’t just turn your back on your child just because your child becomes a housewife.

I always believe that every annoying aunt once had her charming and charming years.

Time is like a butcher's knife. The young man who was once flying in the wind has become a middle-aged man with a vague face; the young man who was once flying in the wind has become a mature, wise and steady man. It can not only turn a charming and youthful girl into a middle-aged woman full of anger; it can also turn a charming and innocent girl into a calm and elegant woman.

Time can change your appearance, but it cannot stop your choices. Mentality never depends on others, but on yourself.

The best attitude of a woman is that no matter where she is or what her situation is, she will always retain her original innocence and kindness. With the baptism of time, she will become more transparent, wise, and exude a light Fragrance, and all this has nothing to do with men.

Life is about your own choices, be your own housewife, and refuse to blame your wife. Facing the sea, spring flowers are blooming.

Just like Master Ai said: After getting married, you can curb your ambitions and work as a maid under the stove for your love, but you cannot completely lose the ability to defend yourself; you can choose to leave the workplace and become a full-time housewife, a good wife and a loving mother, but The wings of survival cannot be completely cut off.

The mountains that support the mountains fall, and the rivers that rely on them dry up. Always learn, always be self-disciplined, and always have claws for survival. Only in this way, when you lose the protection of a man or are maliciously attacked, will you not be like a helpless victim, and you can fight back fiercely and transform in one second:

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