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How can you not be nervous in front of people?

Seven ways to overcome nervousness:

Self-confidence suggestion method

A speaker should not think too much about the factors that may lead to the failure of a speech before taking the stage, such as "Don't be nervous, don't be afraid" and "What if I forget my speech?" "What if the audience laughs at me?" Wait a minute. This kind of negative self-suggestion often leads to failure. In real life, we often see such a scene: the baby is holding a glass cup in his hand, and his mother is particularly worried that the baby will break it, so she says to the baby, "Don't break it, don't break it, don't break it!" The result is still broken. What's more interesting is that at night, the mother told the baby not to wet the bed, not to wet the bed, and never to wet the bed! What was the result? Wet the bed again.

why is that? Psychologically speaking, people's subconscious mind can't tell right from wrong, and it only accepts positive information. Negative information such as don't break, don't wet the bed, don't be nervous, don't be afraid is rejected, and the subconscious only accepts positive information such as breaking, wetting the bed, being nervous and afraid.

Therefore, the speaker should be confident in the theme and effect of his speech, and encourage himself to strive for success spiritually. The speaker can repeatedly hint and stimulate himself with the following positive words: "The content of my speech is of great value to the audience, and the audience will certainly like it"; "I am very familiar with the subject matter of this kind of speech, and I am sure to succeed"; "I'm very prepared", and so on. Hint to yourself before each speech: I will speak very well, I will speak very successfully, and the audience will like my speech very much. Imagine the end of the speech, the audience applauded thunderously, and the moving scene with boiling blood. I have tried this method time and again.

outline memorization method

beginners often take the ability to recite speeches as a sign of full preparation. Reciting memory may be a necessary preparation method for beginners. However, recitation relies on mechanical memory, and word-for-word memory not only consumes a lot of time for the speaker, but also easily causes the speaker's psychological paralysis. In the actual speech process, once the speaker's train of thought is interrupted by stage fright, audience commotion and sudden failure of equipment, the chain of mechanical memory is often cut off, and the speaker's mind will be blank, leading to a pause in the speech. In addition, simply reciting memory can easily form a mechanical monotonous "endorsement" rhythm, losing the passion and human feelings that a speech should have.

Churchill, a famous politician and speaker, often recited speeches and delivered them when he was young. In a speech at a congressional meeting, Churchill suddenly forgot the following sentence. He kept repeating the last sentence to no avail, and finally had to return to his seat with a red face. From then on, Churchill gave up the preparation method of reciting speeches.

for most speeches, we advocate memorizing the main points of the outline. The general procedure for memorizing the main points of the outline is: first, make notes on the topics, arguments, examples and data of the speech, and finally organize them into cards that are convenient to read. Then, ponder, compare and supplement the materials on the notes or cards, and sort out a rough speech outline, which indicates the subheadings of each paragraph. Finally, add those important concepts, definitions, data, names of people, places and key words in order under the subheadings of each paragraph. At this point, a speech outline is basically completed. In the process of sorting out the speech materials and arranging the outline, the speaker should repeatedly think about and familiarize himself with the content of his speech, and only use the speech outline as the basis for reminding and memorizing.

eye training method

Beginner speakers are often afraid of eye contact with the audience, so there are some incorrect postures that affect the speech effect, such as lowering their heads, raising their heads and leaning sideways. The speaker looks squarely at the speaker, which is not only out of the speaker's politeness, but more importantly, the need for all-round interactive communication between the speaker and the audience. Beginner speakers may wish to train in the following ways: find someone to look at themselves, and don't talk in the process. Or, as I did when I was giving a beginner's speech, I often walked in front of those aunts who participated in the morning yangko dance, and I made eye contact with them and imagined giving them a speech. Every time I take the subway, when people go up, I look at their eyes and go down, imagining what kind of eyes I should use to communicate with them if I am speaking to them. In the training class of "China Public Speaking Training Camp", I also asked the students to do eye contact training. I usually get used to it at the bottom, so it is very natural to watch the audience on stage.

Breathing regulation method

Moderate deep breathing is helpful to relieve tension, anxiety and boredom. When the speaker has stage fright on the spot, he can use deep breathing to make psychological and physiological adjustment: the speaker is relaxed, his eyes turn to distant scenery, and he takes slow abdominal deep breathing, five to ten times or even more according to the situation. Many athletes, singers and hosts also take deep breaths to adjust their emotions when they go on stage. In fact, this is called attention transfer in psychology. I used to focus on worrying, but now I just turn my attention to taking a deep breath to relax myself.

adjusting the movement method

when you are nervous on the stage, you will find that your muscles are tight and tight. At this time, changing your movements and postures will directly reduce your tension. Or clench your fists and relax after you can't hold them tightly, so you will slowly relax after repeated practice and a few more exercises.

There is also an indigenous method. Some hosts told me when they attended my training that they were not taught how to overcome their nervousness at first. Whenever they are nervous, they will pinch themselves hard and immediately distract or divert their attention. These methods of friends are very simple and practical, so try them.

focus on what you say

focus on your own speech, that is, focus all your attention on what you want to say, not on how the audience evaluates me and what impression they have on me. In fact, the highest state of speech is to forget yourself, face the audience and concentrate on what you say.

focusing on what you say is actually a way to divert your attention. We are often nervous in front of the audience, but we are not nervous when we speak, so we will pay full attention to the speech itself and have no time to take care of the audience's reaction and pay attention to the audience, which will naturally reduce the tension.

Pre-lecture practice method

Compared with the previous methods, it is more important to talk more and practice more and accumulate successful experience. If you can't say it once, say it ten times, thirty times and fifty times, you will certainly be able to grasp yourself more and more.

There are two ways to practice pre-speaking:

First, in order to correct pronunciation, exercise the ability of choosing words and sentences, and train body language, the speaker can write a speech topic by himself, or imitate the speeches of famous people and practice it alone in a secluded place. Lincoln, a famous speaker and the sixteenth president of the United States, often imitated the speeches of lawyers and missionaries in his youth and practiced repeatedly in the forest and cornfields alone.

secondly, it is necessary to give a trial lecture in order to participate in a formal speech contest or give a speech at a meeting with higher specifications. It is best to invite some relatives and friends to act as listeners in this kind of trial lecture. One can simulate the atmosphere on the spot, and the other can listen to the opinions and suggestions of relatives and friends.

I often practice speaking when I take a walk in the morning and evening. More often, I practice in front of a big mirror in the office before giving a formal speech. This can better adjust body language such as facial expressions and gestures.

A large number of pre-lecture exercises can help the speaker to build up full self-confidence, and it is also convenient for him to play better and avoid panic caused by inadequate preparation or inadaptability to the speech environment. There is an old saying in China that practice makes perfect, which is the reason.