When the post-80s daughter-in-law meets the traditional mother-in-law.

My mother gave birth to me late and I got married late, so in my intermediary family, there appeared a pair of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law groups with a gap of nearly 50 years-the mother-in-law was born in the 1930s and the daughter-in-law was born in the 1980s, so the age difference is so great, how can there be no difference in "outlook on life" and "world view"? Fortunately, this pair of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not petty people, and the effect of "separated generations" seems to be playing a role in this special "grandparents and grandchildren", so I am lucky not to be squashed. Looking at the ideological collision between the two people, it involves all aspects, big and small. Here are some examples. Let's talk about an "eating" thing in the details of life. Daughter-in-law often uses a bowl of instant noodles and a small wonton to pass lunch or even dinner in order to catch up with work and time. But once he was free and settled, his petty bourgeoisie was exposed. Whether cooking by herself or eating out, the daughter-in-law should pursue the taste, skill and color of the dishes, and it is best to have a little atmosphere. One moment is "coarse bran omnivore", and the other moment is "food is not tired of essence". Mother-in-law is puzzled by her daughter-in-law's flexible diet concept, and she is worried that she will eat her stomach and body for years. But the daughter-in-law thinks this is one of the signs of the resilience of her generation! They also have different views on housework. Although she is over 70 years old, her mother-in-law still insists on washing clothes, mopping the floor and cleaning the furniture every day. The daughter-in-law smartly took out 200 yuan and gave the odd job to the hourly worker. As for her free time, she spends it on yoga and SPA. Mother-in-law shook her head again and again: "Why spend money to practice kung fu outside? Exercise is the same, why not do more housework in the nest? Isn't this killing two birds with one stone and saving two dollars? Look at you people in your twenties. You look pale, your health is not as good as mine, your appetite is not as good as mine, and there is nothing wrong with doing more housework yourself! " The daughter-in-law smiled. My mother-in-law's life has been tempered by the storms of War of Resistance against Japanese Aggression, the Civil War, the Cultural Revolution and other times, but she is stable and ordinary in her career, and her hair has turned white in a unit. Daughter-in-law has never tasted poverty, hunger and fear, but she has experienced ups and downs in the process of employment, from state-owned enterprises to foreign enterprises, from personnel to procurement, either fired by her boss or fired by her own boss. Mother-in-law prays for her daughter-in-law to settle down every day, and it is best to retire from death like herself. Daughter-in-law explained politely: it's not that I don't want to settle down, but the status quo is forcing us to change and develop! There is also the most important issue of having children. Perhaps, through her daughter-in-law's window, she has a deeper understanding of the status quo. In recent years, her caring mother-in-law has suddenly changed her mind about the next generation, often saying, "Of course, children are lovely, so white in her arms." However, to raise a little girl from childhood to adulthood, the family has great pressure on economy, energy and education! Moreover, children from ordinary families like us will face such fierce competition in their studies and employment in the future. I really can't bear to let adults and children suffer! "Traditional mother-in-law has a subversive understanding of the problems of future generations. Interestingly, as a daughter-in-law in the new era, she realized the necessity of nurturing the next generation with a brand-new vision. She believes that giving birth to a child is really hard and annoying, and it must be "trapped" forever, but it is an indispensable part of life. It's not a waste of life to go through everything once. What's more, although the concept of "raising children to prevent old age" is out of date, even if they have children and grandchildren, they will not rely on the younger generation in economy and life in the future. The old couple will still go to the nursing home, but at the time of dying, it is more important to have a flesh and blood concern than material needs. " A generation has a generation's ideas and ways of doing things. Both old experience and new ideas have their advantages and disadvantages. It can stand the test of practice, conforms to Scientific Outlook on Development, and is correct and reasonable! "My comments seem reasonable at first glance, but I know in my heart that there is a' paste' component. As a son and husband, I live between "post-30s" and "post-80s". What if you don't ride the wall? Don't offend both sides, tell the truth, this is my clever move to avoid the risk of splint! When the post-80s daughter-in-law meets the traditional mother-in-law, Huanhuan and Lele are a pair of "post-80s" young couples, and Huanhuan's eldest daughter Lele is three years old. They have the same educational background and matched looks, and they got married under the arrangement of their parents in less than a year. It stands to reason that marriage should be the happiest time for girls, but Lele is often troubled. The reason is that her mother-in-law's happy parents get married late. In their words, none of the turmoil in the Republic of China has fallen: when I was a child, I caught up with the great famine and didn't have enough to eat. I caught up with the Cultural Revolution when I was studying. I went to the countryside without learning much culture, and finally returned to the city to find a job. I caught up with family planning when I got married. My mother-in-law was in her thirties when she was born Huanhuan. Although the living standard of the whole society was not high at that time, Huanhuan's parents felt that they had been wronged all their lives and had to let their son enjoy the best possible material life. Huanhuan grew up in such an atmosphere, and his parents are still "afraid of falling into their hands and melting into their mouths". As the only daughter who grew up in the city, Lele was treated as a princess since she was a child. When they are ready, they want to see their parents. The first time I met my mother-in-law, I had a good impression on each other. My mother-in-law thinks Lele is very sensible, and Lele thinks her mother-in-law is very kind. But after a long time, Lele had an opinion of her mother-in-law. First of all, there are too many things to do. Every time I go to my mother-in-law's house, I always ask her endlessly the details of Huanhuan, where to play and where to eat. Later, I was told that there were many infectious diseases outside, so if I could go home, I would go to restaurants as little as possible. Eating at home is both healthy and affordable. Lele has a good figure and likes to wear suspenders in summer. Mother-in-law doesn't criticize directly, only says that the social security is not good now, and the little girl's clothes are too exposed, which is easy to cause trouble. When the weather is a little cooler, she will point to Lele's low-waisted pants and say that girls' waist and navel are most afraid of catching cold. It is a lifelong thing to really sit down and get sick. At first Lele turned a deaf ear to how she wanted to dress. Later, when she went to her mother-in-law's house, Huanhuan would remind her to put on something important. Lele couldn't help feeling annoyed that her mother didn't say anything and her mother-in-law was too lenient. What makes Lele uncomfortable is Huanhuan's mother-child relationship. Lele thinks that boys should make up their own minds when they encounter difficulties, but they should listen to their mother-in-law in advance. In addition, Lele thinks that Huanhuan is an adult and should not be too affectionate with his mother like a little boy who is wet behind the ears. But my mother-in-law doesn't seem to be shy at all, patting Huanhuan's face in front of Lele for a while and hugging Huanhuan's back for a while. Huanhuan has a mole between her eyebrows, and her mother-in-law will point to it from time to time and say that there is a mole on her forehead, which means that mother and son are United and can't lose anything. Lele also knows that her mother-in-law said these words without any malice, but it sounded uncomfortable. Lele wants to have a good relationship with her mother-in-law Every time I go to my mother-in-law's house, she will take the initiative to do some housework, such as washing dishes and washing dishes. Once, when Lele got up after dinner and cleaned up, she caught a glimpse of her mother-in-law pulling Huanhuan and Huanhuan helping. As a result, Lele cleared the table that day. Although things are small, Lele is very sad and feels that her mother-in-law does not treat herself as her own child. Huanhuan has been giving her salary to her mother after work, and she has no concept of financial management at all. Lele thinks that since she is in love, she will get married soon, and it is not a long-term solution to rely on her mother-in-law for everything. So when I was paid again, Huanhuan hesitantly asked her mother-in-law for a salary card. My mother-in-law frowned and asked three questions and two answers. Knowing that it was Lele's idea, she cried badly, saying that her son had begun to calculate her mother before her daughter-in-law got married. A few days later, in front of Lele, her mother-in-law handed Huanhuan the salary card and listed the income before Huanhuan. After three or four years, the salary income was more than 100,000 yuan, and the mother-in-law did not move a penny, all on the card. After explaining all this clearly, my mother-in-law left a sentence: not to mention the small expenses of Huanhuan, that is, the food and clothing expenses in recent years can't be reduced without 180,000. The two young people were embarrassed at once, but they were a little surprised to be happy afterwards, saying that his parents were only children, and that they would not put them anywhere in the future. So there is a gap between mother-in-law and Lele. If you have anything to say, you have to take a detour. Soon talked about getting married. My mother-in-law has long been optimistic about the house, with a total price of more than one million. Mother-in-law calculated an account, except for years of savings and hundreds of thousands on Huanhuan's salary card, which is still a lot worse. My mother-in-law borrowed more than 300 thousand from relatives and bought a house. When handing over the real estate license to them, her mother-in-law said that although the real estate license was registered with Huanhuan's name, it was notarized at the notary office and was pre-marital property. If there are any changes in the future, you can't enter the property distribution. Lele is naturally very unhappy. She thought she was getting married, so her mother-in-law left her a hand. After marriage, Lele met new troubles. Two spoiled children, accustomed to snacks to fast food, still remember it at first. After work, they cook several meals according to the menu, but they are either salty or light, not delicious and very troublesome. Huanhuan offered to go home for dinner. Lele doesn't want to look at her mother-in-law's face, but buying food and cooking is really a heavy burden, so in most cases she has to go home with Huanhuan. In front of your mother-in-law, you should listen to her instructions. From time to time, the topic will go around the house, saying that they not only spent their life savings to get married, but also owe a lot of debts to their relatives. Lele certainly recognized her mother-in-law's meaning, and it was inevitable that she was bored and nagged about Huanhuan. Huanhuan has always stood on the side of her mother-in-law, saying that it is very hard for her mother to take care of herself since she was a child, and it is appropriate to be grateful. Don't be so narrow-minded about what she said. Lele feels that Huanhuan only cares about her mother-in-law, without considering her own feelings. These trivial things accumulate and become a powder keg. After every quarrel, Lele went back to her mother's house in anger, and Huanhuan simply lived with her mother-in-law, leaving her family with an empty shell. Lele is very wronged. Lying in bed at night, her mother-in-law's words and expressions always appear in front of her eyes. She feels that all unhappiness is caused by her mother-in-law. My mother-in-law has always been attached to Huanhuan, and she is in charge of them in big and small matters. As long as there is this mother-in-law, two people can't have real happiness.