How can we be humorous? What's the difference between humorous people's thinking and ordinary people's?

The famous psychologist Freud once said: "Humor is the pleasure brought by cognitive disharmony." In fact, unexpected humor can often achieve more remarkable results. This is why people who don't play cards according to common sense are often pleasant, and it is this turning point thinking that creates humorous effects. A couple had a cold war after their quarrel. One day, when her husband came home, he began to rummage through everything. The wife looked impatient and asked him, "What are you looking for?" To her surprise, her husband said, "I finally found what I was looking for, and that's your voice!" " "Was going to break into a furious rage wife instantly softened, two people get back together. On a bus, the driver suddenly braked and the young man accidentally stepped on the girl's foot. The weather is so hot that the girl said angrily, "Look at your virtue!" " "The original explosion war was resolved by a young man's words:" This is not virtue, it is inertia. " The girl couldn't help laughing after listening, and the sultry air on the bus became much fresher. The famous psychologist Freud once said: "Humor is the pleasure brought by cognitive disharmony." In fact, unexpected humor can often achieve more remarkable results. This is why people who don't play cards according to common sense are often pleasant, and it is this turning point thinking that creates humorous effects. Innovation and wisdom shape humor. Western society has done a lot of research on humor. The results show that humor and creativity are closely related and complement each other. Many psychologists also regard humor as the core feature of creativity. American psychologist Robert Olson pointed out: "If we have a humorous attitude, we will certainly stimulate innovation." Throughout ancient and modern scientists, there are many humorous masters. For example, Edison, the inventor of electric light, has a good sense of humor. Someone once laughed at him for using 1200 as the filament, but they all failed and got nothing. Edison was not hit, but responded humorously: "At least I have successfully proved that 1200 material is not suitable for filament." Looking at the problem from another angle, let humor promote more innovative thinking, which is the inspiration brought to us by Edison. Humor requires innovative thinking and creative ability. However, the highest level of humor is wisdom. Russian writer herzen once said: "Laughter is by no means a funny thing." Shakespeare, a great British writer, described humor in this way: "Laughter should be wise, and humor should not only amuse but also exclude vulgarity." There is a well-known example: a foreign journalist once asked Premier Zhou Enlai, "In China, it is obvious that people take the road, but why is it called' the road'?" Without thinking, Premier Zhou replied, "We are taking the Marxist road, which is called the road for short." This way of thinking to answer questions is obviously turned from an angle, so it also creates a humorous effect. Not only did he respond to provocative questions, but he did not use hostile language, so he would not lose his manners; At the same time, such an answer also shows the great wisdom of Premier Zhou. Stephen Lycock, the 20th century Canadian humorist, said: "The essence of humor is reasonable, and it is a warm and gentle sympathy for everything that exists. Its essence is love, not contempt. " Good wisdom is the real power of humor. "Humor enters three rooms" In today's harmonious society, we need to cultivate a sense of humor. This is actually stimulating everyone's creativity and cultivating everyone's habit of looking at problems from different angles. Psychological research shows that humorous aesthetics can improve the ability of artistic creation and scientific creation, and the improvement of scientific creation ability can in turn further increase people's humorous aesthetic ability. Their identity in the creative process is the basis of mutual promotion. In our life, if we can cultivate a humorous attitude and think from another angle, then many troubles or misfortunes will be alleviated or even disappeared. So I advocate "humor into three rooms"-study room, ward and cell. Humor entering the study room is humor entering the campus. In recent years, campus violence, student suicide and homicide have occurred frequently. For example, the sensational murder case in Ma Jiajue was caused by a quarrel, which shows that contemporary college students lack effective methods to relieve stress. Cultivating a child's sense of humor from an early age can help him learn to look at contradictions and disputes from a more positive and optimistic perspective, resolve inner dissatisfaction and pressure, and thus maintain a harmonious relationship between teachers and students. Humor enters the ward because patients need a happy mood most. Imagine that a sick person is sad and worried all day. What can he talk about to speed up his recovery? Psychological research has proved that laughter is very important to human health, and humor is the inducement of laughter. If the ward is full of humor and everyone laughs, patients will not pay special attention to their illness, and their mood will become comfortable, which is also conducive to establishing a harmonious doctor-patient relationship. Many surveys show that the cell is the most humorous place, and the repression and resistance of prisoners are often the difficulty of discipline. Therefore, adding humor to their cells will help them improve their mentality, actively accept reform and reduce their resistance to society. At the same time, humor can also help them improve their interpersonal communication, thus enhancing their self-confidence. In this way, after they get out of prison, the recidivism rate will also be reduced. Five ways to teach you humor You often hear people say, "I wasn't born with humor!" "This is a bad statement. In fact, humor is an innate ability of people, which can be cultivated through continuous training, and everyone can become humorous! The first trick: look at both sides. The marriage of the philosopher Socrates is unfortunate. His wife is a bitch and is often rude to him. However, Socrates saw the other side of the story: "Getting such a wife has many advantages, which can exercise my endurance and deepen my cultivation. You know, marrying a good wife can make you happy all your life, and marrying a bad wife can make you a philosopher. "The second trick: pun. The second husband of agatha christie, a famous British detective novelist, is an archaeologist. One day, someone asked her, "Why did you marry an archaeologist?" She replied, "For women, archaeologists are the best husbands. Because the older his wife is, the more he cherishes her. "The third measure: the real thing. One day, Baron robespierre was touring his territory. He suddenly found that among the people who welcomed him, there was a person who looked exactly like himself. So he called the man to his side and asked him quietly, "Did your mother ever work in my house?" The man looked at the count and said mysteriously, "no, but as far as I know, my father used to work in your house." "The fourth measure: self-justification. Darwin was invited to a friend's house for dinner. A beautiful lady asked, "Mr. Darwin, I heard that you came to the conclusion that human beings were changed from monkeys." So, am I in your judgment? " Darwin replied politely, "Of course! However, you have not changed from an ordinary monkey, but from a very charming monkey. "The fifth measure: simplify complicated things. A reporter once asked Einstein to explain the theory of relativity in the simplest terms. Einstein said, "You are sitting by the fire with the person you love the most. An hour has passed, and you feel as if it has only been five minutes. "On the other hand, you sat alone by the hot stove for only five minutes, but you seemed to sit for an hour. This is the theory of relativity! " Language is the most basic part of humor and the most straightforward expression of "turning thinking". If you make good use of these five methods, you can at least become a "funny speaker"