Being a bosom friend for the first time in marriage, which one has lines?

A "confidant" is a person who helps people with happy events or funerals to entertain guests. Some areas are called Zhibin.

The person in Gongshui Street is called Zhike. If someone meets an acquaintance on the road, ask him what he is busy with recently. The acquaintance may say, whose son got married or the old man died these two days.

Zhike is generally used to address men, because manual labor such as building a shed, pulling a table, serving food, boiling water, etc. Everyone needs strong people to do it. Women will also be asked to help by the hostess of someone who has done something, usually by steaming steamed buns, cutting vegetables and washing dishes, or helping the invited chef outside. Of course, there are one or two old ladies invited by the village to steam steamed buns and offer sacrifices to the altar in front of Lingqian. These, those young wives can't do. However, there are fewer and fewer such old ladies now.

The hostess was invited by the host two or three days before the event. Everything that needs to be prepared, such as tobacco, alcohol, sugar, tea, noodles and meat sauce, is ready. Please help me with the rest.

How many guests should be invited depends on the scale of the host's affairs. Ordinary people often invite twenty or thirty guests to do business. People who live a bigger life may invite forty or fifty or even hundreds of guests. The hostess asked the host to take a cigarette to a house. Of course, please is just a way of saying that those who want to come will definitely come. After all, the host is asking for help. Although people are willing to help you, you should give full face. Of course, what the host can invite is definitely moving. Please don't move, the host won't invite you, it's boring. Of course, there are also opportunities to ease and strengthen the feelings of the two families in the name of asking for help. Invite older people to come over and say they are friends. In fact, the main thing is to come over and leave a face in front of the villagers and make a heart in some unexpected places. Under the influence of thousands of years of tradition, weddings and funerals have many twists and turns. What you can't do will make people feel strange and will be laughed at.

Some people come uninvited. People in Water Supply Street said they were looking for help. "Looking for" to help others, if it can't be explained that there is no backbone-there will be one or two such people everywhere-then it must be explained that the host is popular or powerful-such people can also be seen everywhere. In fact, "begging" to help others seems a bit condescending. In fact, in the mouth of those who really "beg" to work for others and are so eloquent, everything is naturally like a thread, and the owner knows it well and is of course willing. This is probably China's art of being a man. Otherwise, this person really can't. Only people who can't speak can make themselves condescending and embarrassed.

That's too far!

So many knowledgeable people must have a unified leader, and this leader is the so-called "knowledgeable person". Otherwise, there will be no leader. People in Gongshui Street often call weddings, funerals, weddings and happy events chaos, which means the clues are chaotic. Please know the guests, which helps to straighten out all kinds of things that the host is simply too busy to handle. The leader of "Zhike" is a prominent person in the village, either a respected elder, a village secretary, a village head or a master, and others listen to their commands.

For the first time, guests get together at the host's house, usually two nights ago, and the host prepares alcohol, tobacco, sugar, tea and dinner. The boss began to assign tasks, who set up the shed, who pulled the table, who boiled the water, who prepared the dishes and who took care of which seat (dining table). Assign it to everyone. Get to know the customer and do it. They often recommend themselves in laughter.

The next day, the guests held their own opinions. Some people drive tricycles to pull tables, chairs and benches from people who open restaurants on the street. Some people pull shelves to pull vegetables, pots and cups. Some people carry a big blame from his home. The acquaintances I met on the road said, alas, how can I take the blame? The man said with a smile, the tasks assigned by the leaders can't be helped.

The busiest day, of course, is the second day after the event. Know the guests and keep your position. On this day, the affairs of the host family are like a high-speed machine. Everyone has become its screw. No one can live without it.

Let's talk about the scene of serving food!

There is a special person in charge on each table. The name of each person in charge written on a small piece of red paper or white paper is posted in a conspicuous position on the leg of the table. Before the banquet, the hostess cleaned the table and put the tobacco, alcohol and teapot in the middle of the table. Put a cup in every corner of the table. After the guests arrive, they will sit for a while according to their generations, and the elders will help you with food.

There are guests who specially arrange serving. The person who carries the plate should be tall and have strong arms. Nearly ten dishes are put on a square plate, and it is unimaginable without strength. Where to serve plates is an art. Serve the most distinguished guests first. That table is in the center of the tent. Happy events are usually people from parents' families, and funerals are people outside the family. Other people at the table smile and wave to the top of their table first, but the person who carries the plate must have principles. This can't be sloppy. In fact, the person who beckons for food is just joking. Why do happy scenes look serious?

Soon the waiter served the food, and the waiter in charge of each table was responsible for turning the food. There is also a certain emphasis on changing dishes, with large dishes such as chicken, duck and fish in the middle. The middle dish is finished, and the surrounding dishes are made up in turn. This is the dining table, as opposed to dinner, which is usually for two people and placed symmetrically on both sides. After the dishes are set, steamed bread is served. According to their appetite, each person takes out two or three connected white flower steamed buns from the steamed bun tray held by knowledgeable guests and puts them in front of them. In addition to Huazi buns, there were blood buns at the funeral, which were diamond-shaped buns made of soft sesame oil boiled with pig blood when killing pigs. And steamed bread, of course.

The banquet goes on and on. In the first round, the most important guests and neighbors arrived first. Those who didn't catch up were chatting in groups nearby. In the first round of happy events, there will be a wedding. The hosts are all eloquent intellectuals in Murakami. At this time, everyone on the table stopped eating and drinking. Listening to the host's announcement, the host usually sings the promise in an easy-to-understand jingle. Everyone ran to the hut. They listened carefully and smiled sweetly, like pomegranates with cracked mouths in autumn.

At this time, looking around the dinner party, there were blankets, quilts and other gifts from the guests around the tarpaulin, with the names of the guests written on them. If it is two guests, write "Congratulations" under their names. Everyone is happy and experiencing the happy event of the host family.

The first round of the banquet was still very formal, but it became active in the second round. Because all the guests from afar have left, the rest are neighbors. Old people, children, daughter-in-law, daughter. What a happy party. Drama entertainment also started from this time. Starting today, I will be a grandfather and a family, and I will be the protagonist of this entertainment. They often paint the bottom of the pot black, or get red by pranksters. Grandpa, Jia smiled and made a fool of himself in front of the villagers. Adults and dolls are happy from ear to ear.

Watching their children get married, watching a new person in the village. Everybody is happy! And how many times can parents really be happy in front of the villagers in their lifetime?

The guest is waiting for the other guests to sit down and ask for another table of rice. In the meantime, I naturally talked and laughed. They ate so delicious that they didn't have any jokes even if they wolfed down. It is the best way for working people to eat. Who will laugh at all the most natural expressions of beauty?

On this day, Zhike is very busy and often comes home late. They're really hard. They brought everything the family felt in their host's house, whether it was happiness or pain. They should have a good sleep tonight.

The next day, the guest may still be sleeping, and the host family sent someone to invite the guest to dinner early in the morning. On this day, it is a day to thank guests, called the thank-you table. The host asked the chef to prepare the meal and invited the guests to dinner. In addition to eating, the host also took out some money, bought one or two baskets of oranges, a big bag of peanuts, melon seeds, fruit candy and so on, and distributed them to the guests. Everyone has fun.

After dinner, the guest helper quickly moved the tent and dropped the borrowed table and stool. Zhike also took pots, kettles and some odds and ends from home.

The work of getting to know the guests is over.

People in Gongshui Street often say, "A family matter is a matter of a hundred families." I think this is very good. Many people say that the culture of rural society is not a part of rural social culture. It is in this culture that human solidarity and mutual assistance are nurtured.

I have been sitting at my desk since I was sensible. About knowing the guest is part of the life knowledge that my hometown gave me. Every family should invite guests for weddings, funerals and weddings. Today, he shows up at your house, and tomorrow, you will show up at his house. Who doesn't experience birth, illness, death, marriage and funeral?

Life changes every day. Now when it comes to weddings, funerals and weddings, there are already special people in Gongshui Street who are engaged in all services related to this. Now the hostess no longer has to take a kettle, a teacup or even a square table from home. As mentioned above, putting a water cup in every corner of each table becomes a disposable paper cup or plastic cup for everyone, as well as chopsticks, and also becomes disposable chopsticks. A healthy and civilized era has begun.

When my father was invited to be a guest by almost every household in the village before his death, there were people his age. Now, people my age have appeared in every household. But they no longer need to do such heavy work. The wheel of history is speeding forward, and this ancient and simple custom is still continuing. People who have worked in Gongshui Street still have to know their guests. If you live in Water Supply Street, you will understand how important this is to a wedding. With guests, every wedding is really called a wedding. After doing things, it is popularity. Everyone in Gongshui Street understands this truth.

I have attended many weddings held in high-end hotels and restaurants, and the country can't reach this level no matter how good it is. Modeled modern civilization is often born out of ancient traditions, but it gradually becomes rigid and lacks emotional temperature. The name "Zhike" may be the knowledge of an expert engaged in custom research for a city, but it is also a strange term for most people. However, in rural society, it is a tangible history and a persistent reality. Maybe in a few years, he will disappear, but when we look at the feelings of the local society, he is one of the warmest memories. He also showed the touching strength and warmth that the local society can unite.