How many dreams have you been killed in the negative voice of others?

I have a friend who has known each other for more than ten years.

when I first met her, I was the head teacher of Class 1, Grade 2 in a high school. My daughter was about three or four years old. During that time, it was no exaggeration to describe my situation as "overwhelmed".

There is no help from the elderly at home. I have never been a class teacher before, and I can barely cope with the past. Once this class teacher becomes a teacher, it is really not enough.

The mother of an excellent girl in my class is ten years older than me and has a good relationship with me. I call her "Sister Li". She knows my situation and is anxious for me.

One day, Sister Li suddenly called me with a happy tone, saying that she had helped me find a part-time job.

It is said that the lady is in her thirties. She originally went to the hotel where Sister Li is located to apply for logistics service personnel. Sister Li is the personnel manager of a large hotel. She said that when she interviewed the lady, she realized that the working hours were not suitable, because the hotel closed very late, and the lady had a child at home and had to go home early to accompany her children at night.

Sister Li said that she looked like an honest and reliable person, so she told her about my situation and asked her if she would like to come to my house to help with housework. The lady promised to try. Sister Li said that the lady surnamed Wang, not much older than you, is also a northerner. According to your northerners' habits, just call her "Xiao Wang".

Actually, I'm not a northerner. According to the geographical division, I should be a southerner south of the Yangtze River. However, people in this coastal city think that all China is south except Guangdong and Guangxi, and all other places are north.

I'm very grateful to Sister Li for her warm help, but I don't think she's reliable and a complete stranger.

Sister Li said, "Don't worry, this man must be good. Teacher Zhang, I'm telling you, you can tell whether you are a good person or a bad person by looking at people's eyes. This man must be a good man. I gave her your phone number and she will contact you. "

a few days later, I really received a phone call, a brittle female voice, which is what Sister Li said was "Xiao Wang".

Xiao Wang is very enthusiastic. We talked a few words on the phone and found that they are not only from the north, but also from the same province. After a chat, they are from the same prefecture-level city. What a real fellow villager. So, we made an appointment to meet. Later, Xiao Wang took her child, a little boy about my daughter's age, to meet us.

it's quite interesting to recall the first time we met.

at that time, I had a terrible toothache. at first, I always thought it was simple tooth inflammation, but later my face was swollen. Only when I went to the hospital for examination did I know that a small cotton ball was sealed in a cavity with decayed teeth, and the cotton ball rotted and caused inflammation. I think the dentist left a cotton ball in the last visit.

When Xiao Wang met me, my toothache was basically gone, but my face was still a little swollen. Later, Xiao Wang and I were very familiar with each other, and she told me, "When we first met, I thought to myself that this teacher is so gentle and delicate, that is, how his face is big and small."

Xiao Wang didn't come to my house to do part-time work.

In fact, Xiao Wang's family was in good financial condition at that time. Because her children went to kindergarten, she felt that she had nothing to do at home and was idle. She wanted to find a part-time job and work during the time when her children went to kindergarten. But many jobs are not suitable for her time. Xiao Wang also attaches great importance to accompanying children and educating them. However, it is really difficult to take care of the children's kindergarten after school at four o'clock in the afternoon and nearly five o'clock.

she didn't come to help me in the end. However, we became friends.

Xiao Wang is two or three years older than me, but for me at that time, her life experience was rich and quite tortuous.

Xiao Wang grew up in the countryside and didn't read much. Before graduating from junior high school, he went to a relative's house in the city to help with housework. That relative is a middle school teacher, Xiao Wang said, following her, I learned a lot of knowledge, especially in broadening my mind and horizons. Or is it mainly because of the innate aggressiveness? When Xiao Wang came to the city, he didn't want to go back. He found a boyfriend in the city.

Although my boyfriend is from the countryside, he is also a man with ideas. They open a clothing store together and borrow money to raise eels together. But none of them went well. Later, my boyfriend decided to go south to Guangdong with the army of migrant workers. Xiao Wang agreed with her boyfriend not to get married without breaking out of a world.

at that time, Xiao Wang was already the eldest girl of twenty-seven or eight years old. In those days, there was no such thing as "leftover women", and girls who could not get married were called "old girls". Probably the same as "leftover women"? Parents with daughters are worried about their daughters' marriage when they are twenty-two or three years old, fearing that a good girl will become an "old girl", what's more, Xiao Wang's hometown is still in the countryside. However, Xiao Wang has a strong heart that can block out those voices.

My boyfriend has really made a splash, and the hardships can't be finished in one sentence. Worked as a handyman squatting on the side of the road, pulling a scooter, and sleeping in the Pearl River. Later, I entered a factory under a large state-owned enterprise and also did odd jobs.

after a super typhoon, he was worried that things on the construction site would be blown away and braved the wind and rain to check it out. In fact, it has nothing to do with him, but Xiao Wang's boyfriend is indeed a responsible and hard-working person. As a result, I met the chairman of the group who led a group of subordinates to check the post-disaster situation on the construction site that day. The chairman was moved by the sense of responsibility of the temporary worker. Thus, there is the story that Xiao Wang's boyfriend later contracted all the chores of a branch of a large state-owned enterprise in a coastal city in Guangdong. That is to say, Xiao Wang's boyfriend later became a contractor with more than 1 workers.

It's like a fabricated inspirational story, isn't it? But this is a real story.

There is no shortage of miracles and adventures in this world. If you haven't met them, it must be because you haven't started to act.

Xiao Wang didn't come to my house to help with her work, but she introduced me to an aunt. It is the wife of a worker under her husband, a fellow villager of Xiao Wang and a village.

During the small talk, I felt that the aunt was very envious of Mr. and Mrs. Xiao Wang, and thought that they were "distinguished".

once, I chatted about Xiao Wang's treatment of children's learning, and my aunt said that Xiao Wang was so strange that he kept a child so strict that he had to learn this and that every day. "I wonder what goes on in her mind every day?"

What we think is normal and correct makes my aunt feel incredible.

I couldn't help laughing at the way my aunt shook her head and sighed. Later, I told this story to Xiao Wang, and she also laughed.

From her laughter, I know that Xiao Wang and that aunt are completely different. So she can easily shield her aunt's denial.

once, I was a person who attached great importance to other people's comments and opinions. My husband said to me, "not everyone should listen to everything. Some people don't have the experience and level to guide you."

some people deny you and question you because ta is not as knowledgeable as you. This kind of negative voice may have limited influence on you, so you can shield him and ignore him. However, some negative voices seem to be different in nature.

when I was in high school, there was a female classmate who was tall and fat, and her grades were very poor. She looked very insecure and even a little sloppy.

For our students, the college entrance examination is known as "a million troops crossing a single-plank bridge". When it comes to pressure, it is really big. Now it seems that some practices are illegal. For example, before the college entrance examination, the Education Bureau will hold a "pre-examination". If the "pre-examination" can't cross the line, this student will miss the college entrance examination. That is to say, some students have studied hard for more than ten years, but in the end they are not even qualified for the examination room.

my female classmate failed the preliminary exam. I was not qualified to take the college entrance examination, so I went home after the preliminary examination.

The students in our class were lucky. To be exact, the students who failed the preliminary exam and the students who failed the college entrance examination were lucky. In that year, the public security system and the postal system were greatly recruited for the society.

Many high school students who just came home from school, although they didn't get into the university, their knowledge level is many times better than that of social youth. So, that year, many of my classmates who failed the preliminary exam and failed the college entrance examination put on their uniforms one after another. By the time we graduate from college and join the work, people will have worked for several years. Moreover, most of us so-called "favored children" entered middle school, and our salary and social status could not be compared with them.

The chubby girl entered the post office. On a holiday, I went to the post office to post a letter in my hometown. When I saw her, I didn't recognize her at all. A tall, long-haired shawl, very beautiful and confident girl. She greeted me and introduced herself, so I remembered who she was.

Later, students had a small-scale party. Of course, the girl didn't go, but many female students mentioned her. When she was mentioned, there was an irrepressible sourness in her tone.

A boy who has obtained a master's degree from the Provincial Institute of Posts and Telecommunications is a graduate student from the University of Posts and Telecommunications. According to the requirements of that year, this kind of student lacks practical experience, so he should first find a unit for internship for half a year. That boy went to the post office where our female classmate was working as an intern, and in the long run, he got on well with our female classmate, and it is said that he has confirmed his love relationship.

When we were studying, we attached great importance to a person's diploma, and the gold content of graduate students in that year should not be comparable to today. What's more, it is said that the boy is tall and handsome, and his family is fine.

the girls at the party curled their lips and said, that boy must be lonely for a while. How can he be serious? After half a year, people will dump her as soon as they return to the university in the provincial capital; The difference between the two is too far, even if it is done, it will be a tragedy in the future.

Several girls have tried or intend to persuade our fat, insecure and even sloppy female classmate to give up early and not be taken in by others.

Although that female classmate, who is neither fat nor untidy, is actually taller, more beautiful and more confident than several girls attending the party, everyone's mind is stubbornly hovering over her original appearance.

I don't know how or whether the persuasion of the girls attending the party was carried out, but judging from the ending of the matter, the persuasion was ultimately ineffective. The master boy did return to the university in the provincial capital after half a year, but he didn't dump our female classmate. Moreover, a few years later, they got married. After the marriage, the girl was transferred to the provincial capital to work.

sometimes, people's negation may be just because ta's heart is being entangled with "envy and jealousy" or even "hate". Do you want to hear such a negative voice?

Xiao Wang and I were busy with our families and jobs, so we didn't have much contact for a while. Recently, the children are all older, and we sometimes go for a walk together.

I have more housework than her, because I still have a sophomore who accompanied my sister Yunyun through the road, and now I have to accompany her again. I really don't feel bored. In fact, in my experience, if you really accompany your child with your heart, you can basically let go by the fourth or fifth grade at most, and your child can fly under your gaze. Of course, your attention is always there, but you don't have to worry about everything.

One morning, after a walk, I said to Xiao Wang, "I have to reduce my walking time in the future. I don't have much time to write."

Xiao Wang understands my hobby that others don't necessarily understand, because she has been obsessed with calligraphy for a long time, and if she doesn't write for a day, she will feel uncomfortable and make great progress. The calligraphy teacher also praised her as "more and more like that!"

Xiao Wang was very happy about this. "At first, everyone laughed at me. At this age, I didn't know much about calligraphy. Hahaha! Even my son, the bad boy, hit me and said, you think calligraphy is so easy, so pay attention to the skeleton! Now they don't say much. Fortunately, I ignored them. "

and he said, "I want to learn English with you! If nothing else, I want to travel abroad in the future, at least I can understand what others say, and I can go out by myself without asking for help. It's just that listening and speaking English is too difficult. Besides, they have to laugh at me again. "

I told Xiao Wang a story.

Taiwan Province's national idol Zhao Muhe.

Zhao Muhe came to Taiwan Province at the age of 4, and got a job at Kaohsiung Normal University until he retired at the age of 66. When his peers shouted "finally relaxed" and began to enjoy his old age step by step, his heart could not be settled, just as romain rolland said: The heaviest burden in life is not work, but boredom.

At the age of 75, Zhao Muhe decided to go out for a walk and have a look. When his friends learned about it, No one dared to believe: he was horribly old, and his savings were pitiful. He could speak a foreign language Yes and no, so he went abroad. You're kidding! To this, Zhao Muhe ha ha a smile. Seeing that he made up his mind, some people advised him to sign up for a tour group, but he firmly shook his head: "This is not fun!"

He visited many places in England, France and Germany by self-help tour in six months. When he returned to Taiwan Province in high spirits, his friends had to admire his courage.

In p>1999, 87-year-old Zhao Muhe and his grandson entered the university. .

Although he got the acceptance letter, his friends said that he might not get the diploma. The professor even said, "If you finish reading, I will kneel for you." Zhao Muhe just smiled in his heart. I can live to graduate that day.

Zhao Muhe started the model of learning to be a bully for the elderly. He rode his bike to school every day and never missed class. The only time he was late was because his bike collided with his motorcycle. "If you decide to do something, you must be tough, otherwise you can't do it.". The efforts were not in vain. Other children had to take six or seven years to complete the course. Zhao Muhe completed 128 credits in four years and became the first student in the class to graduate smoothly at the age of 91.

On the day of re-studying and studying, Zhao Muhe felt that his mind was more lively, his back ached and his legs ached, and he was full of energy.

A few years later, my friend's son intends to apply for a postgraduate degree. In order to encourage young people to study, 96-year-old Zhao Muhe is excited again. Let's make an appointment with children to get a master's degree!

He sprinted for three months without leaving home, and was successfully admitted to the Institute of Philosophy of South China University. Two years later, Zhao Muhe received a master's degree. At the age of 98, he was not only the oldest graduate student in the history of South China University, but also set a Guinness World Record and became the oldest graduate student in the world.

Today, 15-year-old people still insist on taking care of themselves, buying food, cooking and washing clothes by themselves every day, and even refusing the help of others, because "if you rely on others, you will get old".

Not only did he not rely on others, but at the age of 93, Zhao Muhe also started to volunteer, riding a bicycle to the hospital every day to take care of patients younger than him. This was done for two years until the hospital felt that he was too old and tried to "persuade" him.

Zhao Muhe, who studied calligraphy at the age of 14 and has been practicing for 9 years, has written excellent bird and insect calligraphy. Over the past decades, he has raised a huge sum of 1 million yuan in calligraphy charity sale.