How to educate children rationally and scientifically

one: the child is two years old. One day, I hit my head on the corner of the table and grew a bag, crying. After more than a minute, I went to the table and asked loudly, "Table, who hurt you?"? Crying so sad? " Stop crying and look at me with tears in your eyes. I caressed the table and rushed to ask, "Who is it? Who hurt the table? " "Me, Dad, I hit it!" "Oh, you hit it, so bow to the table and say you're sorry!" The child bowed with tears and said, "I'm sorry." Since then, I have learned responsibility and responsibility!

second: the child is three years old. Crying for no reason, I asked, "What's wrong? What's wrong?" "No discomfort." "Then why are you crying!" "I just want to cry!" Obviously coquetry. "Well, we don't care if you want to cry, but it's not appropriate for you to cry here, which will disturb our conversation. Dad will find you a place, and you can cry alone, and then call us when you have cried enough." After that, I shut my son in the bathroom: "Knock at the door after crying." 2 minutes later, my son knocked on the door: "Dad, Dad, I have finished crying!" " . "Well, finished crying? Come out after crying. " Up to now, my son is 18 years old and still has not learned to manipulate and vent his anger!

three: the child is 5 years old. In the evening, take the children for a walk through the small bridge, where the clear water bottomed out and the undercurrent surged. My son looked up at me and said, "Dad, the river is beautiful. I want to jump in and swim." I was stupefied: "Well, dad will dance with you. But let's go home first and change clothes. " Back, after changing clothes, I saw a basin of water in front of me, confused. "Son, you have to bury your face in the water when you swim in the water. Do you understand?" Son nodded. "Then let's practice now and see how long you can bury it." I look at my watch. "good!" My son buried his face in the water, and his heroism soared to the sky for only 1 seconds: "Bah, Dad, I choked on the water, so uncomfortable." "Are you? It may be even worse to jump into the river. " "Dad, can we not jump?" "Well, don't go or not." From then on, I learned to be cautious and not rash, and think twice before you act.

four things: the child is 6 years old and delicious. One night, after school, I passed McDonald's and stopped: "Dad, McDonald's!" My mouth is watering. "Well, McDonald's, want to eat?" "I want to eat!" "Son, a person wants to eat, called a bear; If you want to eat but can't eat, you are called a hero. " Then he asked, "Son, are you going to be a hero or a bear?" "Dad, of course I want to be a hero!" "good! What happens when the hero wants to eat McDonald's? " "Can you not eat!" Very determined! "Great, hero! Go home. " My son is drooling, follow me back. From then on, I learned to do something and not to do something, and I can stand the temptation.

Five: My son is 8 years old, naughty and fights with his classmates. Scared, back, crying. "grievance?" "grievance!" The child cried and answered. "Anger?" "Anger!" Children wail. "What are you going to do?" Ask again, "What can I do for you?" "Dad, I want to find a brick and hit him from behind tomorrow!" "Well, I think so! Dad will prepare bricks for you tomorrow. " Keep asking, "What else?" "Dad, you get me a knife, and I'll stab him from behind tomorrow!" "good! This is even more Japanese, and Dad will go and prepare for it. " I went upstairs and my son gradually calmed down. About 2 minutes, I moved a lot of clothes and quilts from upstairs. "Son, have you decided? Is it a brick or a knife? " "But, Dad, why are you carrying so many clothes and quilts?" The child is confused. "Son, it's like this: if you hit him with a brick, then the police will take us away, and if we live in prison for about a month, we can bring some short clothes and thin quilts; If you stab him with a knife, then we can't come back in prison for at least three years. We should bring more clothes and quilts for all seasons? " "So, son, have you decided? Dad is willing to support you! " "Do you want this?" The child is amazed. "Well, that's what the law says!" I took the opportunity to popularize the law. "Dad, then let's quit?" "Son, aren't you angry?" "Hi, Dad, I'm not angry anymore. In fact, I'm also wrong." My son blushed. "Ok, Dad supports you!" Since then, children have learned to choose and pay.

six: my son is 9 years old, in the fourth grade, failing math and unhappy. "What's the matter? Fail the exam and give us a look. " "Because the math teacher is very annoying, she doesn't like listening to her class." Be confident. "Oh, what a nuisance?" I am very interested. My son said a lot, "She doesn't like me anyway." "Oh, if others like you, you like her; If people don't like you, you hate her. Does this mean that you are an active person or a passive person? " "It's a passive person!" The son replied. "Is the strong, or the weak? Is it an adult or a villain? " Keep asking. "It's the weak, it's the villain!" Children are timid. "Do you want to be an adult or a villain?" "Be an adult! Dad, I know: whether the teacher likes me or not, I can like her, respect her, actively influence her and be a strong person. " The next day, I went to school happily, and I became good at math, and I knew what an adult is and what a villain is.

seven: the child is 1 years old and plays games. A wife teaches repeatedly, but a child does not change. "Son, I heard that you play this every day?" I pointed to the computer. "hmm." Admit it, bow your head! "How do you feel after every game?" "vacant, empty, boring, self-blaming, looking down on yourself." "Then why play? I can't help myself, can I? " "Yes, Dad." My son is very helpless. "good! Dad helps you! " I moved to the computer and gave my son a hammer. "Son, smash it!" " "Dad!" My son is amazed! "smash it, dad can have no computer, but he can't have a son!" My son cried and smashed the computer with his own hands! From then on, I learned what principles are. Yesterday, in Meng Mu, I chose my neighbor, but I didn't learn, so I broke the loom.

eight: the child is 11 years old. My wife and I have lived in a foreign land for a long time and call my old mother every day to say hello. One day, my son answered the phone: "Hello, Dad!" " Very excited! "Well, good! Where's grandma? Please put grandma on the phone. " "Dad, why do you only call grandma every day?" "What's so strange about this? Because that's my mother! " "What about me? I miss you too! " "Go to your mother!" "Oh!" Since then, my wife has received greetings from her son at 6 o'clock every day, rain or shine, and it has been 8 years!

Nine rules: My son is 12 years old, in the sixth grade, with heavy homework and anxious mood. In the evening, my son came home from school and just entered the door. "Son of a bitch, did you break my plate yesterday?" My sister started to attack. "No, aunt, I didn't!" Look confused. "I saw you playing, and you still cheated!" My mother has irrefutable evidence. "I didn't! You wronged me. " Crying, lying on the ground, my emotions broke out for about 5 minutes. I came out of the room and said sharply, "What's the matter? Go crazy here! " "Dad, aunt and grandmother wronged me!" "wronged? So what if I wronged you! Lie down after you've been wronged? Nothing! Are you a man? " The son stopped crying, stood up and bowed his head: "Dad, they wronged me." "Men of courage, even if the sky is falling, also can't lie down! Besides a small plate? No interest! " I continued, "how many ups and downs do people have to go through in this life, and you will get down after being wronged, slandered, betrayed and betrayed?" That's a coward! " My son straightened up and looked up: "Dad, I understand. What should I do now?" "Now? Ask yourself, do you have a lot of time? " "No, there is a lot of homework to do." "That's not to do homework! Remember, even if the mountain collapses, ignore it and do your own thing first! " My son lifted his schoolbag, saluted his grandmother and aunt, and calmly walked into the study. The three of us will smile. Don't be humiliated, watch the flowers bloom before the court; I have no intention of staying or staying, looking at the clouds in the sky. Son, when you grow up and see this pair of children, maybe you will think of today, grandma, aunt and dad's good intentions!

Ten items: My son is 13 years old, Grade One, and his grades are average. One day he suddenly asked, "Dad, is reading useful? Are the test scores useful? " "Why do you ask?" I am zheng. "These days, there are many uncles and aunts at home. You always tell them that modern education is the worst education in 5, years." Ha, my son listened in on my talk with my friends. "Yes, reading and taking exams are really useless." "Then why should I read these useless things?" "That's because you are young, first make some useless things, try your skill. If you can't even make these useless things well, then when you grow up, you will definitely not make useful things well. Therefore, although reading is useless, you still have to read it well. " "Oh, Dad, I have the ability to read books well!" Since then, my son has achieved excellent results. Son, in fact, life is also illusory, but we have to take life seriously. It takes us a lifetime to understand the spirit of the golden mean.

Eleven: My son is 13 and a half years old, leaving his relatives to return home. A famous brand, avant-garde hairstyle, triumphant: "mom, am I handsome?" The clothes and shoes given by my second uncle's brother are XX brand and very expensive. Grandma, look at my hair. My brother took me to cut it. The front is particularly long. Haha, is it cool? " Like a butterfly, flying all over the house. I turned a blind eye. Two days later, my son was in front of the mirror, intoxicated with himself. I quietly stood behind him: "Are you tired, son?" "Dad, you scared me!" "Ha ha, tired, always worried; Always worry, there is always something wrong; Always guessing what others think. Why bother, big living person, tired of wearing clothes and hair, stupid, stupid, stupid. " "Dad, make fun of me." My son blushed. "How about Dad relaxing you?" "hmm." Put on school uniforms, cool hair landing, "dad, so relaxed, so practical!" " From then on, my son knew what is beautiful and what is ugly.

Twelve items: My son is 14 years old and is in Grade Two. One day back, unhappy. "What's the matter? Something on your mind? Tell me about it. " "Nothing. It's just very strange. Recently, there were two classmates who usually had a good relationship, but these days, in the school group, they openly slandered and attacked me. " "Oh, are you hurt?" "No, dad, what I don't understand is that I didn't offend them. I've been fine recently!" There was a flash of pride in my son's eyes. "You're fine? Come on, tell me how good you are. " "The results of this semester have entered the top five, the first prize in the composition competition, the first prize in the speech competition, the champion of the basketball team, and the individual has been rated as one of the top ten athletes and outstanding class cadres." "Stop, son, you are dying!" My palms are sweaty and a little out of control. "What's the matter, Dad?" "Son, you made the big fear of life! Dad has never seen a stupid death in his life, but he has seen too many people who can die. People's disaster is not because you did something wrong, but because you took too much. Son, you take too much and take too much honor. " "That how to do? Dad. " "At least for one year, all competitions and any selection are prohibited; This is called double prohibition. People should have the ability to be excellent, but also have the ability to make others excellent! Honor is like a rose, which looks beautiful and pricks your hand. " "One year, anything else, just basketball?" "Ok, the ball is banned for two months!" Accept it. Lao Tzu said, I dare not be the first in the world. Those who are famous all over the world will be destroyed all over the world.

Thirteen: My son is fourteen and a half years old, and he is banned for two months. "Dad, after the double ban, the relationship between classmates has been much more harmonious, but there are still discussions." "Talk about what?" "Many teachers and classmates think that I am so negative and not enterprising." "Ha ha, be positive, of course, the key is to actively ask for, or actively pay; Whether it is active competition or positive humility. " "Is everything humble?" "Yes, we can make it, and the name, interests and rights can be made; Only one thing is absolutely forbidden. " "What?" "Do your part!" “？” "that is: when no one sweeps the floor, you don't let it; When a classmate is sick, you won't let him; When others need help, you don't let them; When the country is in danger, you won't let it; Everything that is benevolent and righteous will never give in. " "Out! I see, this is aggressive! " Sweep, deal with, advance and retreat, this is the foundation of the body.

Fourteen items: My son is 15 years old and has a summer vacation. I was invited to attend the meeting and took my children with me. Along the way, my son looked anxious. In the evening, the guests left and asked, "Son, what's wrong with you? Are you uncomfortable?" "No, Dad, just a little upset." "Uneasy?" "Well, I went out this morning: by plane, first class; Get off the plane, big Mercedes; Living in a hotel, I remember that Master Jing told me that if virtue is not worthy, there will be disasters. " I was speechless for a moment. "Dad, you are busy for all beings, and you are virtuous, so you can accept the hospitality of your uncles and aunts; But I am different, I am still a student, and I have not made any contribution to the society. I am not worthy of such treatment, and I am afraid that there will be disasters in the future. " "Son, dad is so happy!" I was so excited that I touched my son's head. "Dad is relieved and has grown up! With your words, you won't have a big disaster in your life! " I am so happy that I shed tears: "Son, how about sleeping on the floor tonight and applying for volunteering tomorrow?" "Great, Dad, now I can have a solid sleep." Tian Xingjian, a gentleman should strive for self-improvement; The terrain is Kun, and a gentleman should be virtuous.

Fifteen: My son is fifteen and a half years old, with excellent grades, and was admitted to a key high school. One day, the family came to idle people and persuaded the old mother to send a red envelope to the teacher. Mother's heart. "Grandma, I heard that you want to give my teacher a red envelope?" "Yeah. I heard that this is happening now, and it is polite to teachers. " "statecraft? Never heard of it! " "Your child doesn't understand, your parents are not at home, and grandma is the master. We can't miss the ceremony." "Grandma, do you really want to send it?" "That's still fake, the red envelopes are ready, and grandma will go in person tomorrow." "Grandma, if you really send it tomorrow, I won't go to school. If you do this, it will be an insult to our teacher. He won't accept it. At that time, it will only make me ashamed and lift my head in front of my classmates." "This boy is disobedient. Grandma is doing it for your own good, afraid that you will suffer." A little angry. "Grandma, I know you love me. But you have to believe me, I believe that your grandson has the strength and does not give gifts. The teacher likes me just the same. " The old mother was amused by her grandson's heroism. Later, talking about this matter, I secretly praised my son. If you do something wrong, you should do everything for yourself! Gentleman, be aboveboard!

Sixteen items: My son is 16 years old and is a senior one. Heavy academic work, return on Sunday. "Dad, I want to resign as the director of the school broadcasting department." "Why?" "High school students, the goal is very clear, that is, they are admitted to prestigious schools, and most of them are unwilling to undertake public affairs. As for me, I am a squad leader and a league cadre, especially in the broadcasting department. I am also the person in charge, which seems silly to my classmates. " "Is this job important?" "It's very important. There is no TV in the school, you can't surf the Internet, and you can't just leave the school gate. Therefore, broadcasting is almost the only channel for nearly 1, students to understand current events and relax." "Then you quit, and there are suitable people willing to do it?" "Not yet. The teacher also thinks that I am more suitable. " "Then you have to do your part and be a loyal person." "But, Dad, this will take up study time and affect academic performance!" "Are you? If, family members are sick, you