How do men become humorous and make girls happy? Invite experts to teach.

How do men become humorous and make girls happy? Ask the master to teach you.

How to make yourself humorous

As we all know, when a girl is chatting with you, laughing nonstop is the best sign of a good relationship. On the basis of such a pleasant atmosphere, it should not be difficult to go further emotionally.

However, in the end, how can we make girls feel that you are humorous and attractive, instead of just treating you as a funny character in the group and completely unable to pick up further interest in you?

Let's talk about how to be a humorous person first! This is actually a question that many readers keep asking on my blog. They always feel that they can't talk and laugh heartily when they go out with their favorite object because they are too concerned about each other's reaction and their own performance;

To make matters worse, they feel that they are simply a poor person, so the topic of chatting with girls is also very dull. There is really no way to create wonderful jokes and superb jokes like some boys do when chatting with girls.

There are indeed many good ways to make yourself more humorous. But before I say anything, I have to get rid of the evil factors in your mind that limit you and make you not want to be humorous. Many people say that they want to be more humorous, but in fact, in their subconscious, they simply think that this is a kind of "little behavior" that "doesn't say what you mean, is kind and insignificant".

They look down on those who are eloquent and can make people laugh at any time from the bottom of their hearts. They think those guys are ordinary people who can only attract others' attention with one mouth, and there is no real talent at all.

However, in today's society, without the ability of eloquence and humor, they always have their own advantages, so they reluctantly tell themselves to be more humorous, clamoring to improve their dull and taciturn habits, but they don't want to make any changes at all!

Another reason why they can't be humorous may come from the influence of family education and childhood shadow. If your parents are not cheerful enough and easy to think negatively, it is easy to instill such an atmosphere into your mind imperceptibly through family education.

Maybe you wanted to share a joke or something funny with your parents at school when you were a child, but after sharing it with your parents, you didn't expect them to turn a blind eye to you, or beat you up in a rage, telling you that it was a bad low-level joke and asking you not to say similar jokes in the future except thinking behind closed doors.

This punishment will make you silently start making nerve connections in your mind. From then on, you think it is impolite or frivolous to tell funny things. From then on, you will never dare to share your funny jokes or experiences with your family and friends at will, for fear of being accused easily.

In this shadow, of course, you will express your thoughts less and less, and you will be more and more afraid to say something you think is interesting, and gradually lose your humorous expression ability and generous and cheerful smile. Therefore, as we all know, the restriction of our flesh and blood pain when we are young really plays a great role!

Although the above two elements seem to be obstacles to making you a master of humor, I must tell you here that it is never too late as long as you make up your mind to change from now on. In my opinion, cultivating another habit, that is, cultivating a humorous habit, is just like learning a new language. As long as we work hard, we will certainly see results.

The so-called talent can make us get started easily in a short time, but daily efforts and exercises are the basic equipment for truly developing specific abilities.

Every time I learn a new language, I always ask myself, can I really learn and speak fluently in such a completely strange language? However, it turns out that as long as you keep working hard and practicing every day, after a month or two, you will naturally see the results, especially when you have the opportunity to talk to others in that language, and they praise you for speaking well, which in turn will encourage you to study that language harder. Humor is the same!

When you really train your ability to talk and chat, you may be able to talk and laugh in a certain occasion. After seeing each other's smile, you will be more confident to ask yourself to go up a storey still higher and make more efforts. Finally, you will be able to think positively and always be humorous.

As for the method of training humor, I once mentioned the example of how the love leader Zhang Zongming (T University in the PTT Catch version of National Taiwan University) worked hard in Leaving the Good Man, and I will share it with you again. Why do you want to say it again? Because I found that most people, even if you tell them the training method, they won't actually do it. They have been questioning whether it is really effective. I'll tell you now, it really works!

At least for Zhang Zongming and me. The way is, you can spend a summer vacation or winter vacation, read all the "I guess" in a year, and learn Wu Zongxian's speeches and funny ways. Now that the Internet is so developed, people can watch it on youtube without even paying a dime to rent a movie!

If you think Wu Zongxian's jokes are sometimes a bit low-level, you can also learn from the past and choose the part you think is appropriate. If you don't appreciate Wu Zongxian, then Chang Fei, Hugo and the imitators' jokes in The People's Biggest Party are also models to imitate and learn.

At the same time, please go to the joke version of PTT and remember the most classic jokes. Reading newspapers and magazines at ordinary times, as long as there is any interesting content, it will also be collected through briefings and made into brochures. You can start reciting at any time while waiting for the bus or taking the MRT. Imagine how you will show this joke when you want to share it with others.

Then I will share this joke with you when I meet my classmates at school or have lunch with my colleagues at the company. At first, you were not very good at talking. It doesn't matter if it doesn't make people laugh. Just say it again the next day at dinner with another classmate or another group of friends, or go home and grab your parents and say it again.

Say it a few times, and you will naturally grasp the essence. At this time, you should pay attention to making appropriate gestures and expressions with the ups and downs of the plot, sometimes exaggerated and sometimes serious, so as to maximize the effect.

With the above two main training methods, I also want to share with you that the most important feature of being a humorous person in the eyes of others is to remember to make more jokes about yourself or tell a tragic thing in an unexpected and fun way!

Just give two examples. I wonder if you have heard the speech by Hu Zhiqiang, Mayor of Taichung City? He can really be called a master of humor, especially knowing how to joke in an ironic way. No wonder there are few enemies in politics.

In Taipei, I participated in the new book launch conference of Pan Shiyi, a mainland real estate tycoon. Besides Mr. Pan, Mr. Zhan, Mr. Yan Changshou also attended the meeting. After the host, mr. yi, the publisher of Popular Culture, made a simple opening speech, when he planned to give the microphone to several interlocutors, the first one wanted to give the microphone to the mayor with the highest official position at the scene.

Unexpectedly, Mayor Hu looked at several other people and said, "Well, don't refuse!" ! Look who has the most hair today. Let's talk about the person with the most hair first! Then he smiled and said to the audience, "Do you know that less hair also has the advantages of less hair?" This silent opening immediately caused the whole audience to burst into laughter. (The order of daily hair quantity from more to less is Zhan Xiongwei > Yan Changshou > Pan Shiyi > Hu Zhiqiang).

The four guests then started a wonderful dialogue to discuss urban development and architectural aesthetics, and how they interact with culture. As he spoke, he wanted to hand over the microphone to Mayor Hu. He stared at Pan Shiyi sitting next to him and said, "Pan! It's all you. Why is this microphone going to be my turn so soon? You see, when I was your age, I had a lot of hair! So don't be busy making money, the pressure is too great and the consumption is too fast! " This aroused a burst of laughter.

Although Pan Shiyi also participated in the joke, it was actually himself who was ridiculed, which was a kind of humor created by belittling himself. Only people who are absolutely confident can accept their imperfections so generously and tell them as jokes for everyone.

Give me another example of myself. When I meet new friends in South Korea or Taiwan Province Province, they will inevitably ask me about my work and then ask me, "Why do you want to work in South Korea?" Don't you miss home? "Do you have a girlfriend? Are you from Taiwan Province Province or Korean? "... and so on.

At this time, I will pretend to be pitiful and tell them with a sad face: "There is only one reason why I came to work in Korea, that is, Taiwan Bay doesn't want me! People like me can't find a good job in Taiwan Province Province! As for girls, as a boy who looks like me without money, girls in Taiwan Province Province don't like me either! But when they asked me, "What's the monthly salary? "How many hours do you have to work a week? Hearing my answer or seeing the photo of my Korean girlfriend, everyone is envious, patting my shoulder and laughing! Subconsciously, my head should be trying to strangle me. This is a joke that belittles oneself moderately. Narrative discourse conflicts with facts, and the latter overturns the former.

Give another example. Xiaoling, my first girlfriend in high school, after we broke up, every time I told other girls about the story between Xiaoling and me, they would shed tears and think I was like an infatuated man with deep feelings. Unfortunately, I couldn't impress Xiaoling, so I finally broke up.

As soon as I saw it, every time I talked about this topic, the other person was very sad and didn't seem to be very good, so I decided to say it in another way. It is mentioned that we met again after breaking up with Xiaoling for a few years. Xiaoling's original flawless skin, I don't know what strange disease she got, and her messy acne has been covered with a thick layer of ointment. The girl who talked to me probably thought that my next sentence should be: "I really regret that I didn't do more to keep her, because according to the butterfly effect, maybe she wouldn't get facial paralysis" (originally,

But when they heard the improved lines, it was: "I looked at her acne scars that could not be covered with thick ointment, and I couldn't help thinking, why!" Why! Why don't people who have been bad to me since childhood (pause, affection, red eye) … come to no good end? Such a sharp change made the girl who listened attentively dumbfounded on the spot, and also changed her face that was almost in tears into an angry and funny expression.

Training this ability to make jokes through brainstorming requires not only listening, watching and learning more, but also continuous operation. You should try to seize any opportunity to express and share your stories and ideas, and keep an open mind, accept any strange ideas that fall from the sky in the middle of your conversation, and try to integrate them into the conversation with others.

You can even fantasize that you are Stephen Chow. If you were him, you would look at the same thing from different angles. In what way would you reinterpret the same conversation? Imagine every day's life stories and conversations as infinite possibilities, and don't let daily dogmas and practices limit yourself. After a long time, you will naturally develop your own set of funny philosophy and make you a system in the group.

But in the end, I still want to remind everyone that in this process, don't overdo it and become a clown who can only be funny, which can't arouse girls' interest in you beyond friendship. The difference between a humorist and a clown is that humor can not only bring joy to others, but also make people think afterwards. Clowns can only bring a short laugh, but they can't leave any other deep impression after laughing.

In other words, humorous people bring others more stories and ideas related to themselves, and even have educational significance; On the surface, the clown only attracts the curiosity and attention of others through exaggerated body movements or performances without slang, but afterwards he has nothing but laughter.

Humans are emotional animals. If the other person can feel the emotional ups and downs in your story in addition to laughter when talking to you, it will be easier to have emotional contact with you, and even the heart will turn to you for a long time.

So I haven't finished the story about Xiaoling just now! After seeing the girl's angry and funny expression, I will suddenly say with a serious and sad face: "It is really difficult for people to live in this world, and there will always be many unexpected joys and pains. I just said this on purpose, because I was afraid that you who smiled with me would suddenly burst into tears. " Do you know that?/You know what? Do you know that?/You know what?

Maybe every happiness in my life is short-lived, but I will cherish them in my heart forever, just as I remember the present moment. Thank you for spending so much time with me today and listening to so many stories about yourself ... "Then I started holding hands and hugging my waist, so I won't go into details. In short, becoming a master of humor that can shock people is a lesson that each of us should study hard. Believe me, it is never too late to start this journey of self-training from now on!

Homework: Find the mode that you think is the most humorous, learn his thinking logic and joking methods, and apply them to daily conversations. Always keep an open mind to see any possible accidents and developments, and then share them with friends and relatives repeatedly with stories with tears in laughter. Satire at yourself, always praise others and enrich your life with smiles and jokes.

-Excerpted from a blog named Meng Qi.

Psychologist: How to make yourself humorous?

It is reported that some hospitals in the United States have opened many humor rooms in recent years to treat patients. Once the humor room was opened, it was welcomed by patients and their families, and some patients got well soon, which was better than "getting rid of the disease with medicine". This miraculous effect is obviously due to the proper use of psychotherapy, which can get rid of the inner distress, sadness and loneliness of patients. Successful examples such as medical humor rooms in the United States do not need high economic costs and high technology, so we might as well "bring them" to try.

Of course, if people want to be healthy physically and mentally and prolong life, they should first pay attention to the cultivation of their sense of humor. So, how should people cultivate their sense of humor?

First of all, you should be optimistic, cheerful, strong-willed and not in a hurry. Humor and optimism are twin sisters. It is hard to imagine that a person who is troubled by difficulties and setbacks will have a sense of humor. On the contrary, a person with a sense of humor can find some "dramatic factors" from his unsatisfactory situation, thus achieving psychological balance. Lenin's sister ulyan Nova said: "Lenin's clever humor makes people cheerful." Only by being open-minded can others be open-minded; Only if you are infectious can you infect others.

Secondly, we should actively participate in social work and carry out creative work. Humor is humor because two unrelated events are suddenly linked together, which makes people feel very surprised and interesting. Therefore, the creator of humor must have rich experience, original ability and break away from conventional ideas.

Third, we should consciously strengthen some humor training in our daily life. For example, as long as you are familiar with the people around you, you can often say some interesting things outside work, and watch more humorous sketches, interesting stories of celebrities, and two-part allegorical sayings. If something happens, you might as well measure it a little. Imagine putting a person with a sense of humor in my position at this time. What would he do? In addition, you can try to mobilize all the materials you usually see, hear and read, or take some of them, or complement each other, or try to sort out the clues from the words ... contact, compare and sprout, and maybe you can achieve an amazing "humor"! Of course, humor often occurs suddenly, and there seems to be no room for thinking and consideration. This art can only be acquired through long-term study and practice.

If you are satisfied, please accept it. Thank you.

How can we be humorous and make girls happy? Add 200 ways: read a few jokes every day, find the most classic one, and then think carefully about the way of thinking. Then repeat the joke n times.

2. Think before you speak. If it takes too long, just say, "Can you smile first? I really can't think of any answer that can make you (or you) laugh ... "If you still can't think of it, just say," Can you laugh again? " If you still can't figure it out, just say, "Forget it, I'll give you a smile this time ..."

It seems that you are really upset, but this matter has to be done step by step. You add my' Bai Du Xi' ~ ~ so that I can prescribe the right medicine and the effect may be better ~

He said, believe me, brother, give her a diamond and she will happily say, "To hell with that damn sense of humor."

How can men become humorous? I can't tell you. Reading is also a kind, but it doesn't work for some people. You can't let yourself be black and blue. You can write a comedy as long as you can laugh. All right, find an interesting one. Think about why you are laughing. In fact, there are many funny things in life ~ you just don't find them. For example, my aunt copied the water meter and asked people: What's your name?

Learn to relax yourself in order to make life easier. Many people have stopped laughing.

Why not buy a pair of children's glasses, put them on yourself and look in the mirror.

Another funny thing: before the plane took off, someone said, dig, I think the people below look like ants ~ ~ (in fact, that's ants) ~ ~

Humor, anyone can, because anyone can laugh ~ ~ ~

How do people become humorous (1) and create suspense?

When you tell an interesting story, don't rush to show the results, just hold your horses, show the power of humor with a unique tone and dramatic plot, and create a suspense for the audience before the key words are said. If you can't wait to tell the result, or show it through the change of expression and action, it's like the breakup of a spoiled child, and humor loses its effectiveness and can only disappoint people.

(2) Punctuation humor

When telling a joke, every pause, every special tone, every corresponding expression, gesture and posture should help to exert the humorous power and make it a humorous punctuation. Important words should be emphasized, and the skills of conveying meaning by sound such as stress and pause should be used to promote the audience's thinking and deepen their impression.

(3) Humor according to events

No matter how many cola jokes and humorous language are stuffed into your stomach, you can't pour them out to show your humor. Humor in language must be used according to specific objects, specific situations and specific contexts, rather than making what is said inappropriate. Otherwise, not only can the conversation not get the desired effect, but it will bring trouble, even hurt the feelings of the other party and cause trouble.

So, if you have a joke in your throat now, no matter how funny it is, if it may touch some hidden pain or defect of the other person, then you'd better try to swallow it and not say it.

How can we become humorous, make girls laugh and ask for help to watch more sketches?

How can I be humorous? Relax, brother. Don't be so serious. You have your own style. If everyone is humorous, there is no humor at all. So try to put it down at ordinary times, and the conversation will naturally be very funny, hehe.

How can we make girls happy and learn humor? Don't ask her what's wrong when she is unhappy, just try to make her happy; When she is lonely, go to her side and stay with her. Even if she doesn't talk, I believe she will be satisfied.

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How can men become humorous? Introversion doesn't mean humor. A little extroversion will give you a chance to show your sense of humor!

Life without humor is boring. In order to make our life colorful and interesting, everyone should learn some humor, so as to relax their brows, resolve their troubles, dispel bad emotions, and at the same time give joy to the people they contact. In fact, it is not easy to do this. It needs long-term observation, accumulation and study, and also needs a deep understanding of life. Therefore, to obtain the natural expression of humor, we need to cultivate it consciously.

First, we should learn to "regulate" ourselves, cultivate our noble taste and pave the way for humor. In any case, people with humorous psychological quality can be positive, enthusiastic and compassionate, can change the relationship with people around them with clever words and deeds or self-mockery, and can also put themselves in an emotional state beneficial to physical and mental health.

Second, we should strengthen our study and broaden our knowledge. Because humor is a cultural accumulation, it needs to reach a certain cultural level. A person's knowledge reserve is directly proportional to his self-cultivation. A knowledgeable person has the ability to assess the situation, is full of talk, is interested in Miao Yan, and uses proper metaphors. He doesn't care about gains and losses with trivial matters in front of him, and is more open and less reckless.

Third, we should be diligent in thinking and cultivate profound insight. Humor is a kind of psychological aerobics, which needs long-term ideological training. Therefore, it is an important aspect to improve one's sense of humor by constantly improving one's ability to observe things, developing one's wit in practice and cultivating an agile style. Life is the source of humor. Only by loving real life, longing for and exploring the unknown, and deeply understanding and quickly capturing the essence of new things can we discover the humor of life itself and create real humor of life.

How can I be humorous? Stay optimistic, smile at others, and prepare more harmless jokes in your mind. Talk to others more.

How can I make myself humorous? Can make your girlfriend happy! First of all, make yourself optimistic and cheerful.

Pay more attention to the little anecdotes in life, and so on.