How to keep your heart calm when being laughed at, criticized and framed by others?

From "Han Shan Shi De Wen Lu"

Han Shan asked: "There are people in the world who slander me, bully me, humiliate me, laugh at me, belittle me, despise me, hate me, "You lied to me, how should you deal with it?"

Shide replied: "Just tolerate him, let him, let him go, avoid him, be patient with him, respect him, ignore him, and stay for a few more years. , just look at him. "

This is how people are in life. Some people laugh at you, some people envy you, some people hate you, some people are jealous of you, some people look down on you, some people frame you, and some people misunderstand you. It doesn't matter, tell yourself, society is like this. Everything you do cannot please everyone.

You have to understand that you are not RMB, a person, and you cannot be perfect to make everyone like you, but as long as we have a clear conscience, to use a sentence, no one in this world is worthy of you. Sad, someone who deserves your sadness doesn't want you to be sad. By the same token, it's not worth worrying about irrelevant people...

Gossips are an affirmation of your success. Those who ridicule and criticize you are just jealous of your strength. Go your own way. Don’t care too much about other people’s comments

Answer: When I am laughed at, criticized, or framed by others, I will face it calmly. If I am not doing well, then use it as a joke as an incentive! Let’s learn from it together and hope to do better. When it comes to Feiyi, it depends on what aspect of the person you are looking for. If someone says you are ugly, ignore him. No matter how ugly you are, your parents will only like me! The family is harmonious, the husband and wife are loving, and the children are filial. Anyway, if you behave well, don’t steal or rob, and support yourself, there’s nothing to criticize? Regarding frame-up, I can’t think of anyone trying to frame me or something? Anyway, I usually don’t do anything bad, and I won’t be surprised if I knock on the door in the middle of the night. Those who are clean will be cleansed themselves! If someone deliberately framed him, he would just do it at the drop of a hat.

People who have been there will tell you that you can’t stand it! The more you tolerate it, the more serious your psychological problems will be. You must find out in time that the other party is verbally attacking you and refute in time, so that you can release the psychological pressure exerted by the other party as soon as possible. If this is not done, most of the inner anxiety will last for several years, and if it is superimposed, it will lead to depression.

Your heart is pure and kind.

The Tao eliminates criticism and cannot arise.

If you are framed and encounter the Tao, you will be innocent.

I advise you to cultivate yourself. Come and nourish your nature,

meditate on the wisdom of freedom,

live your life without any distractions.

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It’s normal. People living in this world are like this. Either you laugh at me or I laugh at you. Either you slander me or I slander you. I’m not used to it. Weird, this is not uncommon.

The purpose of this question is: How to keep your heart calm when being laughed at, criticized and framed by others.

The picture above is a simple schematic diagram: A is the reason: being laughed at, criticized and framed as asked in the question; B is the psychological processing process: it refers to after external events enter our hearts, What kind of change reaction has occurred? C and D are the results of internal processing of external events. Either the heart is very chaotic or the heart is not chaotic.

Through this picture, we can know whether the heart is in chaos or not. The reason lies in the B stage - the psychological processing process, which is the change and reaction that occurs after external events enter our hearts.

Therefore, if we want to change the result of C or D, we can only do it by changing the mental processing process of stage B.

In the B-stage processing, the most important point is our opinion. For the same thing, the event itself is actually the same for everyone, but because everyone has different views on the event, they will react differently. For example, facing the same rainy weather, some people will find rainy days very romantic, and some people will find rainy days very melancholy. Therefore, for the same rainy event itself, different people will be happy or unhappy. Very different reactions.

Returning to the topic itself, when you encounter things like being laughed at, criticized, or framed, the best way to keep your heart calm is to only focus on your own rights and wrongs, and not pay attention to other people's attitudes.

Paying attention to other people's attitudes will inevitably lead you to think about what others say is right? What's wrong? What's wrong? During this process, your heart has been affected by the attitudes of others. When others praise you, you will be happy, and when others criticize you, you will be sad or even angry. Then your heart will naturally be in chaos. But when you only focus on your own rights and wrongs, you will know that you are right and others do not understand the situation. Time will prove everything. At this time, you can calm down your heart.

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Fear and uneasiness are caused by your lack of confidence.

1. Lack of analytical judgment ability, not knowing what cards others will play, what methods and routines they will play, and what consequences they will have.

2. Your own strength is not strong and you cannot withstand setbacks. Also unable to withstand pressure.

3. No countermeasures and courage.

Solution:

1. Obey the law and follow the right path.

2. Do your job well. Improve yourself and improve your strength.

3. Use free time to strengthen learning and improve analytical and judgment skills.

4. Be kind to others, put yourself in others’ shoes when encountering problems, understand each other, be considerate of others, and avoid conflicts with others.

5. Face the reality, stop with silence, convince people with reason, stick to the bottom line, analyze the reasons, and prescribe the right medicine.

6. You should understand the true meaning of the words of Emperor Taizong of the Tang Dynasty: "No one is allowed to come in or out of the Yamen".

Do you know that sharpening a knife will save you from chopping wood? Instead of getting angry with villains and making yourself unhappy, it is better to act as if nothing has happened. Losing your temper is not your ability, but suppressing your temper is your ability. Calm yourself and show your better and stronger self when you are not prepared. Then silence will be better than sound. For others, The best revenge for slander and ridicule is to be stronger, and everything will be solved.

With truth in your heart, justice in your heart, and solid ground under your feet, there is no need for chaos. Real gold likes to be hunted for. Only after you have sifted through the yellow sand can you find the gold. Real people are not chaotic, evil people will become ghosts in the end.