Children don't say hello when they meet people, but they suddenly become speechless when they go home. How to correct your baby's ignorance?

One night, my parents took Guo Xuwei for a walk in the park and met the family of my father's colleague Chen Chen. Chen Chen's mother said to Chen Chen, "Chen Chen's uncle is my mother's colleague. Uncle and aunt said good evening. One-and-a-half-year-old Chen Chen immediately said, good evening.

One night, my parents took Guo Xuwei for a walk in the park and met the family of my father's colleague Chen Chen. Chen Chen's mother said to Chen Chen, "Chen Chen's uncle is my mother's colleague. Uncle and aunt said good evening. One-and-a-half-year-old Chen Chen immediately said, good evening.

Guo Xuwei's mother said to Guo Xuwei, who was hiding behind her, "Good morning, that's very polite. Guo Xuwei, look, my sister said good night to you, so you can say good night to everyone. " .

Guo Xuwei won't say anything. Two families embarrassed silence for a few seconds, Guo Xuwei's mother embarrassedly say:

I don't know what happened recently, but I suddenly started to recognize strangers and didn't want to say hello. ''

A child has two stages of recognition.

Dabao's personality is very outgoing. We took him on a trip when he just spoke. Even a stranger on the high-speed train, he is happy to call him grandpa, aunt and uncle. But around the age of two, we found that he began to refuse to talk to strangers. Even my best friend, who he often meets, just wants to call him aunt and runs away in a hurry.

Two-thirds of babies around the age of two will go through this stage. The baby, who should say hello and even like to perform programs and sing children's songs in front of people, suddenly became shy. I don't even want to say hello when I meet a little stranger. And when I got home, I immediately changed back to that naughty boy who loves to laugh and make fun. In fact, children are timid because they have entered the second cognitive period.

About 6 months, the first approval period

A 6-month-old baby will be able to distinguish between people he knows and strangers, refuse strangers' hugs and cry because of strangers in the room. In the first cognitive period, Bao Dad and Ma Bao often understand that the baby's cognition is due to the development of' social cognitive level' and is also a way for the baby to protect itself. After 1 year-old, with the increase of social activities, most babies will pass this period smoothly.

Second cognitive period of 2 years old

Bob Baba Ma Bao found that the second' cognitive period' that children entered when they were two years old was the result of children's increasingly perfect self-awareness. At this stage, the baby may have been able to use the language fluently, and the big sports are developing better and better. With the continuous expansion of life circle, more and more strangers have entered children's lives, which is completely different from the situation of being vigilant against strangers within six months. What are the psychological reasons why children will appear' shy' in front of strangers or avoid contact with strangers in the second stage?

Reasons for 2-year-old Children's "Fear of Life"

★ The growth of self-awareness

Sun Ruixue said: The sensitive period of self-awareness is the most important of all sensitive periods, because what kind of person we want to be in the future and whether our future is strong or not, such a powerful ability comes from a sensitive period of self-awareness.

When the child is about two years old, his life is more colorful than a year ago, and his activities range from home to a broader social environment. More and more people are in contact. At the same time, his self-awareness has developed more and more perfect. Children don't want to cooperate with their mothers or greet acquaintances or neighbors. Mother will think that children are impolite. But in the world of children over two years old: "I am the first."

Unpleasant social experience

If 7-and 8-month-old children's rejection and fear of strangers come from their innate sense of self-protection, then 2-year-old babies will decide their attitude towards strangeness from their only experience. So those unpleasant social experiences will also make the baby suddenly reluctant to contact strangers.

When Xiaoman was almost two years old, she followed her grandmother to the supermarket to buy things, and happened to meet her acquaintance Grandma Wang. Grandma Wang saw the lovely Xiaoman and immediately picked her up and kissed her. The little man was shocked by Grandma Wang's sudden enthusiasm and began to cry. And grandma is still laughing at grandma Wang being shy with strangers. Since then, Xiaoman has been wary of the sudden appearance of' acquaintances'.

★ For a specific object: the development of imagination

The same is the fear of rejecting strangers, and some babies have different perceptions of strangers. Neighbors said that her peaches rejected Grandpa for some time. A grandfather who used to say hello every day, and a cleaner grandfather in the community, all became the objects she avoided. Don't say hello, don't say anything, and hide behind your mother as soon as you meet. Used to make neighbors think that something bad had happened. After repeated questioning, I found that one of the villains in the fairy tale my daughter was reading was a white-bearded grandfather with a very ferocious face. Peach's super imagination makes her very wary of all grandfathers.

Parents helped TA through the "second acceptance period" in this way.

As adults, many people will talk about Kan Kan in front of acquaintances, but they will be nervous in front of strangers. 2-3 years old is a critical period for the development of children's social ability. Whether the baby's second acceptance period can be successfully passed will have a great impact on the future social level. How to help your baby get through this period smoothly?

1, pay attention to the establishment of a sense of security

A child's attitude towards strangers in a strange environment depends on his inner sense of security. Except for the platitudes of high-quality companionship. It is also a very useful way to help children build a sense of security in unfamiliar environments.

When children just walk out of the familiar environment and go to unfamiliar places such as classrooms, amusement parks and railway stations, they are often full of unknowns and fears. Bao's father, Ma Bao, can act as a' guide' for the children, introduce the place to them, and accompany and guide them when they explore.

2. Take a step-by-step approach.

Paul Anand and Laurence Roope, British children's education experts, point out that the more children participate in shopping activities, the happier they will be and the more skills they can learn every day, the most important of which is social skills.

In the face of children's unwillingness to cooperate and say hello, some parents will explain that their children are unfamiliar and impolite, and some parents will even reprimand their children directly. These methods will make children's recognition worse and become an unpleasant social experience. The correct way is to gradually eliminate children's fear of greeting others. You can start by nodding and smiling, and then say a simple "Hi! ''

3. Let the baby deal with strangers by shopping.

Shopping in this way can make dealing with strangers an interesting "game". Dad Bao and Ma Bao can start from the simulated scene at home and take their baby to a convenience store to experience real shopping. When shopping, children will learn how to talk to strangers, ask for help, ask questions and other skills. You will also accumulate good social experience. This purposeful social way is easier for children to accept than meeting and greeting.