How should a woman make a decision without a formal job after the age of 35?

There is a sad little story. A 35-year-old woman was eating noodles when she suddenly called her boss. Why are there only three pieces of meat in the noodles marked 15 yuan? Look at the photos on this menu, there is quite a lot of meat. The boss said this picture is 20 yuan's face. The woman burst into tears, and the little boss was frightened. He quickly apologized and wanted to add a piece of meat to the woman. It's none of your business for a woman to wave. I'm sad because I'm 35 years old and I still care whether a bowl of noodles adds meat or not.

A woman is 35 years old and has no formal job, which means that she has no formal income, no economic foundation, no self-confidence and no inner enrichment. Even the wife of a rich family will feel rootless without the support of her parents. Besides, you are an ordinary woman. If I guess correctly, you either have never worked formally, or you have to take care of your children for a while after getting married and give up your job. Now I want to find a job, an income and a stable confidence.

First, it is more difficult to find a formal job at the age of 35. What is a formal job? Civil servants, career editors, state-owned enterprises, private enterprises and foreign enterprises have stable jobs, five insurances and one gold, and have career development channels. What is this? If this is a formal job, I advise you to lower your expectations first. Civil servants and career editors have missed the examination age. Enterprise recruitment has also reached the upper limit of rejection, unless you lower the price and work as a cleaning warehouse attendant or cashier. The question is, you haven't been employed for many years, can you accept it? Assuming that you have a high degree, you can also find a white-collar job in an enterprise, which is estimated to start with the most basic work. You are 35 years old, and your salary is still the lowest. Can you accept it?

How do you handle the contradiction between work and family? If you find a job, your salary is not high. Is it appropriate for you to give up taking care of your family for the minimum wage? A 35-year-old child is about 5 to 10 years old, which is the school stage and the growth stage. You took care of it for about ten years, but you gave up at the critical moment and were ready to go out and look for a job. Who will take care of these children? Suppose you hire a nanny, don't worry, just say that your salary is at a loss? Nanny starts at 6000 yuan, can you find a job with 6000 yuan salary? Do you trust the old man to take care of the children? Even if you are at ease, then why did you go early? Also, what about having a second child?

Third, then, can you change your mind? You don't have to find a so-called formal job. Can you find a job that can take care of children and work to support your family? For example, working at home, opening a shop, doing self-media, preschool education, special training, flexible work for enterprises, and so on. Many treasure moms can also work at home, work for themselves and be their own bosses. Some precious mothers earn more than regular jobs.

I know a good self-media treasure mom. She held the children in her arms and put them down to write. Her monthly income is tens of thousands, which is higher than her husband's income at work. Her husband comes home from work to cook, so she has no position.

I know a treasure mother, who works as an e-commerce company at home, and also recruited two little girls to help deliver goods, earning tens of thousands of dollars a month. Her mother-in-law holds her at home.

I also know a treasure mother who can bake, so she opened a bakery at home and easily earned tens of thousands of dollars a month.

Of course, there are kindergarten teachers, English trainers and art instructors. These precious mothers are incredible. Although they don't go out to find any formal jobs, they live a proud life. This is an era when you can work part-time. A 35-year-old woman should not be afraid. Don't worry. Give full play to one of her strengths and turn it into your economic income.

Women don't have a formal job. How can they make a decision after 35? What were you doing before you were thirty-five? Housewife? Still don't want to work and play around all day? However, whatever the reason, after the age of 35, you should take good care of yourself.

Thirty-five is an awkward age. Especially for women, it is even more embarrassing. Too high will be too low and not competitive in the workplace. I don't think there is any skill. I feel that there is no future at all, waiting for death.

No, absolutely not. Thirty-five, still young. If the situation at home is good enough, just find a lighter clerical job. I have something to do, and I have income to pay five insurances and one gold. If the situation at home is average, you should be prepared for hardship. If you don't want to show your face and work as a coolie, you can try to start your own business.

Start a business, start from an early age. You can learn to bake and make cakes. Now sell it among community owners and try to sell it in a circle of friends. As long as it tastes good and looks beautiful, others will help you promote it. As soon as word of mouth opened, business naturally came. In any case, you must not lose confidence in life.

I'm about to enter this embarrassing age. I am still a nanny, with two children, and my youngest son can go to kindergarten next year. But now the problem is in front of me. Older children and younger children must be transported. Many companies work from 8 am to 6 pm. It's already eight o'clock for children to go to school, so they will be late for delivery.

So now I have made two preparations. The first is to start your own business, and the second is to take the kindergarten teacher's certificate this year. When the boss went to kindergarten, I opened my own shop to take care of the children, which was very free. Never missed school activities when picking up children. I was happy to earn more and earn less until I gave birth to a second child, so I couldn't do it and left the store. Traditional business is already difficult to do.

It may be my best choice to take my children to work while taking the kindergarten teacher's certificate. To tell you the truth, I don't like old people helping with children. First, the gap between living habits is too big, so it is really important to teach by example. Old people live in the countryside, and they have been dealing with loess all their lives. They have no hygiene habits and are easy to affect their children.

Second, the elderly tend to spoil their children, and there is no principle, so it is easy to have differences in the education of their children.

Some people say that kindergarten teachers are very hard, but apart from hard work, who can let you grow up with your children and return to work? The salary of kindergarten teachers is also very low, but at least I found my own value.

With the rapid development of the Internet, who can know who is right or wrong? Without absolute formal jobs, many state-owned enterprises are already slowly transforming. People who use the internet to start their own businesses have developed in large numbers. Who cares about formal work?

So, find the right position and create your own value.

Thank you for giving me the opportunity to answer. Molly has a ready-made example of this problem to share with you.

One of Molly's relatives graduated from college and became a housewife. Before becoming a housewife, she never worked formally and could not use a computer. Typing is really difficult, and she has no professional knowledge. Even if there is, she has done housework for so many years. Because she didn't need to go out to work at home before, her task was to take care of her family, but recently there have been major changes and family problems, so Molly's relatives have a hard time. She has gone out to look for a job because she has no work skills and experience. She is 40 years old, and the only magic weapon is to be beautiful.

So now she makes money as a graphic model. Although it is very hard, she is really self-reliant and down-to-earth life. So what Molly wants to say is that no matter what age, if you haven't worked before, it really takes a lot of hardships to start over. It seems simple to sit on a model plane, but have you ever tried to catch a bus in the early morning and take a high-speed train transfer in eight minutes? Have you tried not moving for two hours? Of course, these are also one-sided, but what work is not hard? Molly doesn't think so, so calm down and think about what you can do before looking for a job in this field.

This year, everyone has been thinking about this problem.

Bao Xiaoming will go to kindergarten next year, and I am forty years old. I really can't stay at home any longer. We must do something.

I want to start my own business, and I have no special ability. If you want to go back to your previous job as a designer, you can't work overtime, you can't travel, and you can't find a job when you are old.

After thinking for a long time, I considered a plan. Now I'm studying investment, I've read a lot of books on this subject, and I'm also very interested. But this can't be the main business. I tried to convince my husband that when Bao Xiao goes to kindergarten, I will be a civil servant in their company.

There are many problems for couples to work in one place, but the biggest problem now is taking care of two children. Take care of the children first. If the job is not suitable, you can change.

Female, no formal job, over 35 years old. I believe you are not confident and confused when you say this sentence. What I want to say is that it is unrealistic to make you blindly full of positive energy. What you have to do at this time is to accept the status quo and accept your embarrassment and confusion at this time; People say, that's it, it's already at the lowest point, and every step forward in the future is to climb up, there's nothing to be afraid of;

Secondly, finding some basic jobs at this age will be limited by age, and you have no management experience. I suggest you start from two aspects;

First, what you have done before, what you are good at, and start from this aspect to reduce the start-up period;

The second is to start from what you like and start again. You have a better chance to re-choose your career than others. At this time, you might as well do what you have always liked but haven't done, even if you can't, and learn from scratch.

The third is about finding a job. First, you can mobilize people around you to introduce you. It's safer this way Second, you can submit your resume.

Fourth, you can actually start a business. If you have the right resources and channels around you and you want to do something.

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It is a headache for both men and women not to have a job. Please see clearly that the premise I am talking about is work, not formal work.

You said you didn't have a formal job. What should you do after 35? In fact, what you should consider more is not whether your job is formal, but whether you have the ability to find a job.

There is no absolute iron rice bowl in this world. The real iron rice bowl that can accompany you all your life is your ability to find a job at any time.

This job may not be particularly stable, but it can support the family and meet the minimum living standard. When you feel that you have no formal job and life is insecure, you should consider one thing, that is, why did you end up in such a field?

Is it because you are lazy, or because you worked hard, but you were eliminated from the workplace?

Only by straightening this matter out and understanding our own problems can we have a better development space.

Secondly, a person's development does not necessarily require formal work. For example, some part-time jobs in life can also be tried. After all, it is the most rational idea for a person to satisfy his survival before considering his development.

Besides, I have to consider whether I can learn some skills or do some small business. Nowadays, there are not so many jobs that can guarantee the harvest, and no one will always be an iron rice bowl.

In today's changing times, we should learn a core skill, whether you are cooking, opening a restaurant, teaching others to write, and finally becoming a trainer. , can be involved. The premise is to find your own direction, otherwise you will never find a satisfactory job in order to find a job.

No formal job and no job should be different.

Many people around have their own studios.

Teaching music, painting, piano and so on.

Earn more than when you work.

Some people really have no jobs.

I have no skills.

It's going to be really hard.

A relative worked in a restaurant before giving birth to a child.

I am at home after giving birth, but I am under great financial pressure.

I have to go out to do odd jobs.

I said I got a job the other day.

Make buns for others from five to seven every morning.

An hour ago 10 yuan,

She is still breastfeeding.

Wake up several times a night.

I have to get up early in the morning.

That's it, 20 yuan.

It's really hard

So if you have a skill, you should play it well.

if there is no

We should also plan a relatively long-term job.

This kind of hard money is really not a long-term solution.

First of all, you should be clear about your direction and goals. Generally, people who have doubts about future planning are mostly insecure and unclear about themselves. If you don't go out to work and have no economic independence because you have been educating your children at home, you will definitely feel out of touch with this society and confused after you reach the age of 35. What you need to do at this time is to have an accurate and clear positioning of yourself, analyze your strengths and weaknesses, and clarify your development direction and goals. If you want to change the status quo, you have to make adjustments, correct and learn according to your own abilities.

In fact, whether there is a formal job is not the point. The point is how many cards and abilities you have. You have a direction and goal for your future, so move on. Women should never let themselves have the ability to live independently. Your capital is your choice. Everyone's life is different. Other people's experience is for reference only. You have to make your own decisions in life.

To tell the truth, strictly speaking, few people have so-called formal jobs now. What looks like an iron rice bowl today may be taken away tomorrow. With the entry of foreign banks, perhaps one day bank employees will help farmers to work in the fields in order to pull a deposit! (No kidding, Bank of Japan employees did this 30 years ago. Civil servants will also bid farewell to drinking tea and reading newspapers. At that time, you will think that those of us who don't have formal jobs will have stronger viability and bear greater pressure in the competition, because we have rehearsed and prepared in advance and have no concept of an iron rice bowl in our minds, so we have not been broken. Be yourself and don't compare with others, especially those who have formal jobs at the moment. Looking around, there are not a few people who have great ambitions and formal jobs! Be pragmatic, learn more professional skills and people skills, and you will find that this society is actually quite broad.