"It's okay to give up, but you must give yourself a chance to start over"

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When the sun rises, the flowers on the river are as red as fire, and when spring comes, the river is as green as blue.

It’s okay to give up when you can’t persist, but you must give yourself a chance to start over.

Why do you say that?

Some people feel that if they insist on giving up, they will get nothing except the lessons of failure and a waste of time.

In fact, this is not the case. The magic of our brain is that it can instinctively think about memory failure experiences and select comprehensive methods so that the next time we start over, we will not start from scratch with zero memory.

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Based on the above, I would like to recommend a method that will make you better and better throughout your life.

Attention, when you are in a confused period of life when you can’t see clearly the future direction, don’t know what to do, don’t know how to do it, etc.! Then read the book and There is nothing wrong with moving in the general direction recognized by celebrities and big shots in society, doing good things that they all recognize, and constantly improving to make yourself more and more valuable.

Some people may say that this is simply a fantasy. In today’s society, you need academic qualifications but no qualifications, knowledge but no knowledge, connections but no connections, and background but no background to accomplish anything.

If your cognitive concept is like this, you are totally wrong. In this era of rapid development in three to five years, there is no shortage of opportunities.

Because opportunities are directly proportional to the speed of social development, it is precisely in this way that everyone who has ideas and dreams and can persevere will not be buried.

As long as you have ideas, dare to act, and can persist, everyone has the possibility to change their destiny.

This statement is not chicken soup but is proven by authoritative science in real time. Any failure is caused by a problem with one or two of the three links.

Either you have ideas but no actions; you have actions but don’t persist; or you have actions and the ability to endure hardship but lack of ideas.

Is this innate?

No, these can all be obtained by persisting in learning.

Many people may have heard of the "Ten Thousand Hours of Genius Theory" which says that anyone can become an expert in a field as long as they study immersed in a field for 10,000 hours.

How long is ten thousand hours? If calculated based on 10 hours a day, it would be less than 3 years.

This is just a theory because people will grow, so if you really insist on learning and making progress, in this day and age where the Internet is so developed and famous teachers are everywhere, you can achieve some success in even two years.

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Returning to our topic above, let’s take my own reading as an example.

For a long period of time when I first read the book, I felt like dozing off after turning a few pages. I turned to the next page and forgot the previous page, which was very distressing.

I gave up and started over many times, but slowly I discovered a secret. It seemed that every time I started again, I felt better than the last time.

I didn’t know what was going on at that time. On the other hand, I felt that the effect was not obvious, and the gap between the effect experience and the effect I imagined was too big.

The same cycle of giving up and starting over started again. The longest time I gave up seemed to be more than a year without reading a book.

To tell you a cold joke, when I picked up the book again, it was time to move and organize my belongings! It seems that you can even see the thin layer of dust on the book cover, hey!

Four?

After settling down, I still feel sleepy when I seriously want to read a book.

I didn’t believe it, so I forced myself to read it. I read a 256-page book for more than a week and finally finished it.

After reading it, I immediately felt that the content of the book did not turn to the next page and forget the previous page like before. I still remembered the overall sequence framework of the book, and I still remember a lot when I think about it carefully. content in the book.

Although I don’t know why? But this phenomenon brought back the burning flame in my heart that I wanted to read books and learn knowledge.

Later, I forced myself to read it, and found that I could remember more. But after a while, I found that although I could remember most of the content for one or two days, I could remember it for two or three days. After the day passed, I almost forgot about it.

I cried out in my heart of helplessness... At this time, I had the idea of ????giving up.

This time I did not choose to give up again. I forced myself to read three books on teaching reading methods. Although these books have different methods and examples, the concepts are 89% similar. They all say The situation I am encountering now is a normal phenomenon in the early stage of reading. They have also experienced it before. As long as they continue to persevere, it will not take long for them to improve.

At that time, I thought, oops! It seems that I am not the only one! Well, just keep trying it, and after two or three months of doing it intermittently, I feel like the effect is not obvious!

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? I was thinking that I really don’t have the talent for reading. Then I suddenly remembered the method of writing reading notes taught in one of the books.

At that time, I was really at a loss and thought, let’s give it a try! Open the computer and create a new document, and then the problem occurs again!

How should I write this reading note?

The key is that I am afraid that if I can’t write well, I will be embarrassed when I read it. I have been thinking about it for a long time and don’t know how to write it! I thought, forget it, since I don’t know how to write, I would just develop the whole book in order to describe the key words and key sentences, and finally express two sentences of reflections.

After I finished writing it, I felt, well, it read fairly smoothly, and it wasn’t as bad as I expected.

I think it’s good, but I wonder what others think of it?

Send it to Moments or QQ space to see the effect?

Although it is a method, it would not be too embarrassing if my friends feel bad.

After much deliberation, I registered a Sina blog. After publishing it, the response was pretty good, which gave me a lot of confidence.

I posted it to my friends circle and social media without mercy, and the effect was better than expected, which gave me a lot of confidence.

Later on, every time I read a book, I forced myself to write reading notes, and gradually I found that the more I wrote, the better and smoother I became.

Even if I forgot the content two days after reading the book, I remembered it all at once when I looked at the reading notes. I felt as if I had just finished reading it yesterday.

As a result, I like reading more, and I also like to write something every day. At first, I wrote a diary every day, and later extended to writing an article about my persistence and growth every day, and purchasing online learning. During the course, I started practicing drawing mind maps every day, and my memory is getting better and better.

People have also become more confident, which is all brought to me by persistence.

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So the brain is amazing, and starting over does not mean starting from scratch.

Don’t believe it? If you keep on jumping, you will find that I am no worse than others. If others can do it, I can do it too through persistence.